Why do a lot of people these days have to let everybody else know.......

Haha, glad I am not the only one that does that :lol:
 
Borats Baby said:
.......how much money they've got.

^^ I would have put that in the title but there wasn't enough room :)

I get really quite offended by people who do this.

Fair enough if the topic of conversation is about specific things, eg: your salary, but when folk just sprout completely out of the blue about how much they earned "doing a foriegner over the weekend" and just how easy it was, or what new car they've just bought and how much it was......

Does my head in !!!

Are there a lot of insecure people about these days ?

Is there a great need to show off in this manner ?

For those of you reading this who do it, do you think about what other people might think, or feel.

This isn't a dig at anyone specific on here, just a general thing I've noticed on the increase over the last few years.

:shrug:
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Are we talking about the "Ive just got my new D3/1DSMk3 and an 18-300 f1.8 mob here perchance
 
I know quite a lot of people who are fairly wealthy and don't know any who constantly go on about how much things cost. Wealth is a relative thing so, almost everybody is poor compared to Bill Gates and rich compared to the real poor of the third world. I guess some people who have had a recent elevation in their wealth relative to their peer group sometimes feel they need to advertise that fact. This could be the geezer down the pub with a new £100 shirt or the lottery winner with the Ferrari, either way it’s a bit crass.
 
Betty said:
Haha, glad I am not the only one that does that :lol:
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Although I suspect you only posted that pic to show off your high fidelity audio system really :p
 
My dear wife helps me with the money. She spends it so fast I don't have it long enough to worry about it!

My ambition is to actually earn what my dear wife thinks I earn!
 
What gets my goat is when people refer to property in terms of monetary (is that spelt right??) value. I think a house should be a home.
 
Betty said:
You've missed the point. Its all about HOW they show it off, or how they go about showing how proud they are.

If you were unemployed, struggling to live with very little or no money, would you appreciate it if a mate of yours came up to you and bragged about his new car, "Only 40k!" says he. How would that make you feel?
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It would make me want to get off my azz,get a job and work hard enough do be able to do something similar...............:thumbs:
 
What I hate are these stupid fly-on-the-wall shows on MTV about insanely rich people that buy their kids like Lambourghinis and the like for their first car.. its rediculous and their parenting skills should be questioned. Sure there might be a bit of jealousy talking (:p) but some of these people are far too wealthy for their own good.

Im sure Ill get over it though :p

REgards, James
 
I must confess I do not get what all the fuss is about, I know a fair few people who are very well off and earn 10 times+ as much as me. Do I get ticked off when they tell me about a new car/ boat or what ever they have brought, even if they do mention the cost, No not at all, they work chuffing hard and play hard, fair play to them. There will always be someone worse off and better off than you, if you need to walk on egg shells all the time because you have brought something expensive and friends get ticked off then may be they are not friends and maybe the person moaning is just a bit jealous.
Betty, a couple of years back I was in a similar position as you and your dad my outgoings were more than my income and I really thought that I was going to loose the house, but you know what even then I never got hacked off with people telling me what they had brought, at the end of the day it is not their fault that they can afford it and I was struggling to pay the bills.

I hope that makes sense.
 
DAve - I think its not the fact that they can buy this stuff.. but that they are so insistent on telling the world how much it cost, which is the problem. For sure people can have all the stuff they can afford.. as you say work hard, play hard.. but is it really fair to brag to everyone else who cant afford it?

Regards, James
 
Davec223 said:
I hope that makes sense.
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Perfect sense to me.. And again for the record... for me its old astra, rented house blah blah

There is a FLIP SIDE to all this If I could afford a brand new car I probably woulldnt buy one... some jealouse git would scratch it within a day round here :( just because they havent got one... forget the rich showing off.. what about the other side who moan about not having anything and take it out on those that do.... I bet theres more on that side of the fence .

Just a thought :)
 
Davec223 said:
Betty, a couple of years back I was in a similar position as you and your dad my outgoings were more than my income and I really thought that I was going to loose the house, but you know what even then I never got hacked off with people telling me what they had brought, at the end of the day it is not their fault that they can afford it and I was struggling to pay the bills.
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I am guessing you didnt have friends like Stuart then, thats the point I am trying to get across, he was blatantly rubbing it in my dads face, which was TOTALLY uncalled for, you see where I am coming from? Do you that thats acceptable?
 
Jamesbuk said:
DAve - I think its not the fact that they can buy this stuff.. but that they are so insistent on telling the world how much it cost, which is the problem. For sure people can have all the stuff they can afford.. as you say work hard, play hard.. but is it really fair to brag to everyone else who cant afford it?

Regards, James
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Does it really matter if they say how much something cost or not? if they have brought a Rolex or a Ferrari people in general are going to know approximately how much they cost. some one I know brought a sunseeker for best part of a million, Is it unfair that he told me about it when I could not afford one, no not at all, it is all relative at the end of the day, what you or I might class as expensive may not be classed as expensive by someone else.
 
Betty said:
I am guessing you didnt have friends like Stuart then, thats the point I am trying to get across, he was blatantly rubbing it in my dads face, which was TOTALLY uncalled for, you see where I am coming from? Do you that thats acceptable?
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I see where you are coming from Betty, but I still say that it was not his fault you were struggling and he was not, the same as it was not you or your fathers fault. Again I do not know Stuart so can not comment if he was doing it deliberately or whether it was just a little thoughtless, there is a big difference in my book.
 
Have you read the story I posted Dave? It was quite deliberate, thats what ****s me off.

Sorry, that wasnt a go at you :p
 
Betty, yes I did read your post, I may have got the wrong end of the stick but him saying how much things cost was common, so should have been expected.
 
I didn`t read it Betty, I don`t think, could you point me in the right direction?

FTR, I know quite a few very rich people, if you met them, you would not know they had a bean.
 
What is it about this ******* country that people get wound up or upset about folk who are successful? I occasionally deal with a guy who is now on over £50k a month and I don't have any issues with that. He's always willing to help anyone who asks. Another couple I consider as friends must be on around £30k a month, drive a Bentley when in this country and have beautiful homes in Spain and the US. When I see him pull up in the Bentley I don't come over all jealous. I simply work harder so I can be like him one day.

People who are successful inspire me.
 
2blue4u said:
I occasionally deal with a guy who is now on over £50k a month....... Another couple I consider as friends must be on around £30k a month
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People like that get right up my nose, whereas their products usually get right up other peoples :lol:
 
Flash In The Pan said:
I must have misunderstood, someone said you had piles :lol: :exit:
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Been a while, but I have had them in the past. The PITA returned briefly about a month ago, but quickly subsided............:)
 
I have had a good old read of this thread. Interesting opinions.

In my opinion, the people that have alot of money and brag about it and go around bigging it up really are people to pitty. These people are called the "nouveau riche" which means newly rich. These people tend to be very insecure about themselfs and feel the need to flash their cash to people whom they know have less money. These people (the ones who show it off) also feel the need to act instantly like the mega rich. have posh dinner, buy big boats, etc etc. As a result, these are the people that actual rich people hate the most.

Now. There are members of the newly rich that do not act this way, and they are infact amongst the people i respect the most. They have earnt their money. They are as a result people that can't be told apart from people with considerably less money. They also tend to be very generous with it as well. Which earns further respect (in a non gold digging way that is).

I Personally have a few things that others may not, simply because I have worked for it, and spent my money (from part time jobs etc whilst at school / 6th form) on things I enjoy. The last thing I do however is rub it all in people's faces.

So in answer to the OP, I totally agree, I have indeed seen an increase in the "nouveau riche". It's sad. Though my advice is to feel sorry for them, as really, they are the ones that feel out of place the most, due to how shallow and self centered they are.
 
2blue4u said:
What is it about this ******* country that people get wound up or upset about folk who are successful? I occasionally deal with a guy who is now on over £50k a month and I don't have any issues with that. He's always willing to help anyone who asks. Another couple I consider as friends must be on around £30k a month, drive a Bentley when in this country and have beautiful homes in Spain and the US. When I see him pull up in the Bentley I don't come over all jealous. I simply work harder so I can be like him one day.

People who are successful inspire me.
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Betty, is there only you and me who get my point ? ^^


Woodsy said:
I have had a good old read of this thread. Interesting opinions.

In my opinion, the people that have alot of money and brag about it and go around bigging it up really are people to pitty. These people are called the "nouveau riche" which means newly rich. These people tend to be very insecure about themselfs and feel the need to flash their cash to people whom they know have less money. These people (the ones who show it off) also feel the need to act instantly like the mega rich. have posh dinner, buy big boats, etc etc. As a result, these are the people that actual rich people hate the most.

Now. There are members of the newly rich that do not act this way, and they are infact amongst the people i respect the most. They have earnt their money. They are as a result people that can't be told apart from people with considerably less money. They also tend to be very generous with it as well. Which earns further respect (in a non gold digging way that is).

I Personally have a few things that others may not, simply because I have worked for it, and spent my money (from part time jobs etc whilst at school / 6th form) on things I enjoy. The last thing I do however is rub it all in people's faces.

So in answer to the OP, I totally agree, I have indeed seen an increase in the "nouveau riche". It's sad. Though my advice is to feel sorry for them, as really, they are the ones that feel out of place the most, due to how shallow and self centered they are.
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Ah, Betty, were not alone !! ^^
 
Thank god, I thought I just wasnt getting my (very simple) point across :D
 
Betty said:
You've missed the point. Its all about HOW they show it off, or how they go about showing how proud they are.

If you were unemployed, struggling to live with very little or no money, would you appreciate it if a mate of yours came up to you and bragged about his new car, "Only 40k!" says he. How would that make you feel?
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I can totally understand where you're coming from here Betty and I agree that one should always consider others feelings. However, sometimes you just cannot do anything right!

I don't intend this to be a brag (I won't go into too many details) but back in 1999 I started working for a guy at a dot com.

Now unlike a LOT of dot coms of the time this one had legs and I loved working there. So much so that for the next 4 years I hardly went out, hardly saw my friends, almost never went on holiday and generally lived to work (90 hour weeks for months on end). Thankfully my girlfriend, now my wife, understood that needs must and that I'd make good on it for her.

So, fast forward 4 years and the company was sold (making the already rich CEO one of the riches men in the country) and I made a few quid as well. So, true to my promise I paid off some debts, paid for our wedding, our honeymoon, bought my girlfriend/wife a car and bought myself a nice watch to remind me of the hard times and sacrifice we had made.

A few months after all this we met up with an old friend and not having discussed anything related to money at all she spies my watch and goes off on a rant about how vile the thing is and how unfare it is that some people can afford such things when others have a hard time paying bills to live.

Needless to say, we parted company shortly after this. I worked bloody hard for the right to buy that watch and the other things. At no point did I brag about any of the above (in fact we hadn't even told them where we'd been on our honeymoon or any of the other things, so it can't have been an issue) so why should I be made to feel guilty?

So to quote you again:

You've missed the point. Its all about HOW they show it off, or how they go about showing how proud they are.
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Sometimes it doesn't matter even if you don't show it off. Some people will always consider you a target for their insecurity or annoyance that they haven't had the same chances in life.

Unfortunately It's human nature.
 
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Woodsy said:
I have had a good old read of this thread. Interesting opinions.

In my opinion, the people that have alot of money and brag about it and go around bigging it up really are people to pitty. These people are called the "nouveau riche" which means newly rich. These people tend to be very insecure about themselfs and feel the need to flash their cash to people whom they know have less money. These people (the ones who show it off) also feel the need to act instantly like the mega rich. have posh dinner, buy big boats, etc etc. As a result, these are the people that actual rich people hate the most.

Now. There are members of the newly rich that do not act this way, and they are infact amongst the people i respect the most. They have earnt their money. They are as a result people that can't be told apart from people with considerably less money. They also tend to be very generous with it as well. Which earns further respect (in a non gold digging way that is).

I Personally have a few things that others may not, simply because I have worked for it, and spent my money (from part time jobs etc whilst at school / 6th form) on things I enjoy. The last thing I do however is rub it all in people's faces.

So in answer to the OP, I totally agree, I have indeed seen an increase in the "nouveau riche". It's sad. Though my advice is to feel sorry for them, as really, they are the ones that feel out of place the most, due to how shallow and self centered they are.
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Reminds me of one of Harry Enfield's characters, not Loadsamoney but this guy, seen here getting his comeuppance :lol:
 
NathanJT said:
A few months after all this we met up with an old friend and not having discussed anything related to money at all she spies my watch and goes off on a rant about how vile the thing is and how unfare it is that some people can afford such things when others have a hard time paying bills to live.
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Now, heres the flipside of the coin !!

I wouldn't consider you a "stuart" just for wearing an expensive watch.

Fact is, if I met an old friend, his watch wouldn't even enter the conversation. I would simply catch up on old times. Nothing more to it.

If the old friend shoves his watch in my face and says "Look at this, It's a £5K Rolex" or whatever ! then I would part company....
 
Borat,

And that's what actually shocked me about the situation. Personally I've never been jealous of those with more (my boss turns up in a new Ferrari/Porsche/Audi etc every other month) I've simply considered what I'd need to do to get there myself.

I know it's hard when you're up against it, Jane and I have been there with the bank knocking on the door too.

Then again If I had of met a Stuart at the time it certainly wouldn't have been for long.
 
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