i need it to sturdy enough for long exposures right now i have shake when i do them which looks awful
Rather than just take 'random' recommendations, I think you need to tell us more of what you want:-
1) What weight is the equipment to be supported?
2) Does it need to be lightweight? Are you going to carry it far (I notice you do a spot of Urbexing)? How sturdy is sturdy??
3) How high should it be (extended) and how compact when packed?