The pain of being dumped...

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Princess said:
Pete, I don't think like you I'm afraid. I would never return a gift. It's spiteful. I won't stoop that low. If he's returned things, then that's he's problem I'd say. I'll just give them to friends or something.

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Everyone's different, but my core advice is to do whatever makes you feel better.

Personally i'm of the don't get mad, get even, school but you may be a nicer person than me

(incidentally when I split up with my ex she actually demanded various gifts etc back - literrally presented me with a list of what she wanted ... needless to say my reaction to this , as she should have predicted, was to sell the valuable stuff, and give the non valuables to oxfam :lol:

that said a, mate of mine's ex went off on one about how she'd paid for half their sofa , so in a fit of rage he chainsawed it in two , and had half of it delivered to her ! )

Also as ive mentioned before on other threads a couple of years later my ex contacted me out of the blue asked me if i'd do her wedding photography and give her a special price, I said "sure that'll be two grand" , she said "thats rather a lot, i was hoping you'd do a special price just for me" , and I said "that is a special price for you, I usually charge £500 " :bat:
 
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That sounds like a whole load of baggage you have there! I hope your bp is ok!

I refuse to get even. I believe in karma.
 
I love being single although understand the pain of being dumped. My last relationship has put me off them for a very long time and I've now been single for 3 years n a bit and love love love it. Guy prob wasn't worth it and didn't deserve you anyway. Keep smiling :)

Note: I just noticed that there's 17 pages. Sorry if I've missed something
 
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Princess said:
That sounds like a whole load of baggage you have there! I hope your bp is ok!

I refuse to get even. I believe in karma.
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Good girl, don't get dragged down to the gutter because you once knew a rat :thumbs:

Plenty nice guys out there, no need to dwell on a bad experience (even though it hurts initially).
karma will sort you and your ex out in a suitable fashion, just have faith and patience :clap:
 
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Because he likely hasn't disclosed the modifications to his insurer (would make insurance more expensive) that would void the policy. Although the insurance company cannot waive its third party liability on an invalid policy, it could then make an indemnity claim against the policyholder to reclaim costs. Depending on the claim this could be a bankrupting figure - not to mention insurance will cost a small fortune in the future after having a fraudulent policy.
 
onomatopoeia said:
Not true, his insurers will meet legitimate claims made by third parties.

(with apologies for going off topic)
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well yeah , but they won't be very happy at discovering he's been lying to them about the engine size (or the dodgy lowering and addition of various moronic looking body kit for that matter) , nor will they pay for the car if he crashes it or if it gets nicked.

I'm also not sure the old bill would be entirely happy that the car is legal or roadworthy, if someone happens to tell them :whistling:
 
hglossop said:
Because he likely hasn't disclosed the modifications to his insurer (would make insurance more expensive) that would void the policy. Although the insurance company cannot waive its third party liability on an invalid policy, it could then make an indemnity claim against the policyholder to reclaim costs. Depending on the claim this could be a bankrupting figure - not to mention insurance will cost a small fortune in the future after having a fraudulent policy.
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and there is that as well ... but lets not hijack lucy's thread into a discussion of car insurance fraud

Some will say that dropping him in the crap because he's broken up with by freind by text message , might be a bit petty - but on the other hand after seeing one of my oldest freinds crying her eyes out over this louse i feel its justfied - and lets not forget that he's put himself in the crap by not declaring his various shonky and potentially ilegal modifications in the first place
 
Like Sarah, I've been single for quite a while, at least 5 years but I've lost count to be honest so it might be a bit longer. I wouldn't say I love being single, I miss having someone to go out with and share things with but I do have the option to do what I want when I want.

I got properly into photography after splitting up with my ex, joined a course to get out of the house forcing me to meet people, and now am part of a club with very nice people who I like spending time with. Don't turn into a hermit like I did at first, it makes it very difficult to then start going out and doing things. Suspect you are a good bit younger than me though and haven't lost touch with your friends.

Am now thinking I need to save up to do some more Paragliding, ideal time is now when I only have myself to worry about and before I get completely over the hill.
 
staffitaxi said:
Am now thinking I need to save up to do some more Paragliding, ideal time is now when I only have myself to worry about and before I get completely over the hill.
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I would have thought the point of paragliding is to get completely over the hill - failing to get over it would be more like paracrashing :exit:
 
big soft moose said:
I have however just reported him to the DVLA for having an undeclared engine modification on his car (he's got it registered as a 1.2 Corsa, but he's actually got a 2 litre red top in it out of an Astra GSi - I know this because when they were still together he showed me all the mods he'd made and openly bragged about saving money by not registring the alterations )
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So it was ok then but now it's not so you've reported him? :thinking: Double standards ;)
 

I have however just reported him to the DVLA for having an undeclared engine modification on his car (he's got it registered as a 1.2 Corsa, but he's actually got a 2 litre red top in it out of an Astra GSi - I know this because when they were still together he showed me all the mods he'd made and openly bragged about saving money by not registring the alterations )

Double standards indeed, I for one am not impressed :thumbsdown:
 
gman said:
So it was ok then but now it's not so you've reported him? :thinking: Double standards ;)
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nope it wasnt okay then either , but i wasnt about to drop one of my oldest freind's fiancee in the crap however much of a dick I thought he was being - however he's now split up with her (in the most unpleasant way possible) so all bets are now off

Double standards would be if I reported him while driving a shonkily modified bag of crap myself - but I don't
 
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I think you need to settle down Pete.
 
just read most of this thread, princess, im sure you will find your man, after all you already think of yourself as a princess and thats the way it should stay. men are just frogs unfortunatley you got to kiss a few to find your prince!

I feel for anyone that is/has gone through hard time in a relationship. Not feeling all best pleased with the wife at the moment, its her birthday tomorrow and it took a while to find a card that wasnt too much of a lie! Still the water hasnt run dry yet! (another thread another time). thanks to some of my ex's, splitting up was was some of the best times of my life. all i can say karma, revenge is a dish best served immediatly especially if they have it coming to them!
 
gramps said:
The only consolation is that he probably wasn't worth it anyway.
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And that you did not have to wash and iron any clothes when you came back :thumbs: Sorry Lucy could not resist that one ;) I will be honest here though and state that there is always two sides to any story. The way it was done might be bad or wrong in your eyes but do you have any clue as to what led to it? We certainly do not as far as I am aware.
 
33L said:
men are just frogs unfortunatley you got to kiss a few to find your prince!
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That's a rather nice analogy :)
 
what that they are slimey in nature and snore! (kinda)
 
TJJ said:
To summarise Lucy is:
low maintenance
drives a sports car
lives in Essex
is a Canon shooter

Who says there's no such thing as a perfect woman!
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All we need now is to know what she looks like and if she can cook :lol:
 
I can't cook :( lol

I do have three pairs of shoes, a dress, underwear, a book, jeans and some pencils lol.

In answer to what happened leading up to my split? Other than him saying how happy he was? Trips to London and meals out with friends? I'm not sure where I went wrong? I'm past caring at the moment. This may change later on.

The parcel contained two items that belonged to me, they'd just been returned, no note, nothing.
 
TJJ said:
To summarise Lucy is:
low maintenance
drives a sports car
lives in Essex
is a Canon shooter

Who says there's no such thing as a perfect woman!
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just need her old fella to run a pub and own a golf course :clap:
 
I'm not sure where I went wrong?
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I'd say you probably did nothing, and I'd also say dont worry about what you think you could have done wrong or different.

I spent 9 of the last 10 years bitterly trying to answer the same question. 10 years on I realise that whatever was was and whatever is I can change.

Your still easilly young enough to grieve your loss which you will do then dust yourself off, and say f*** it nows my time.

I've suffered some dark times and a nervous breakdown becuase of it, do NOT ! let that happen.

Make plans for the future and no matter how painfull it seems now I can assure you the pain passes and you will move on. Dont stay too long in the past it will eat you up from the inside.

Big hug from an old fart :D
 
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Princess said:
I can't cook :( lol

I do have three pairs of shoes, a dress, underwear, a book, jeans and some pencils lol.

In answer to what happened leading up to my split? Other than him saying how happy he was? Trips to London and meals out with friends? I'm not sure where I went wrong? I'm past caring at the moment. This may change later on.

The parcel contained two items that belonged to me, they'd just been returned, no note, nothing.
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Someone is either telling lies, or unlike any woman i know. :) Now if that had said 23 pairs I'd believe you
 
hglossop said:
I doubt guys will ever understand the mystery that is a woman.

I think this joke says its all.......



There is a man walking along a beach in Florida and he finds a very old bottle, he takes it home to see if there is a message inside. He scrapes off the sealing wax and pops the cork and out pops a genie. The genie says "thanks I have been trapped in there for hundreds of years and as a reward I will grant you one but only one wish"
So the guy thinks about it, " I can't travel by ship or plane because I have a rare motion sickness disorder and all my relatives live in Cuba, I want you to build me a bridge I can drive to see my relatives"
The genie look thoughtful and replies, " well I have done some calculations and it will take 10 years to build, approximately 25 people will die in its construction and the ecoysytem of the Gulf will be destroyed for 50 years and may never recover"!
Would you like to consider another wish"?
The guy says " well I didn't really think that wish through but I would really like to understand women, you know what makes them laugh or cry and why they say no to sex one day and the next you can't get them off you"! Could you help me understand women?
The genie replied, "no chance do you want two lanes or four"!
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Princess said:
In answer to what happened leading up to my split? Other than him saying how happy he was? Trips to London and meals out with friends? I'm not sure where I went wrong? I'm past caring at the moment. This may change later on.
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Based on what you've said so far my guess is what went wrong is that he's a world class chucklehead with the charm and self possession of a pubic louse, and he didn't deserve you

what you need to remember is that its likely you didnt do anything wrong, and when he says 'its not you, its me', he's right it really is him ;)
 
big soft moose said:
Based on what you've said so far my guess is what went wrong is that he's a world class chucklehead with the charm and self possession of a pubic louse, and he didn't deserve you

what you need to remember is that its likely you didnt do anything wrong, and when he says 'its not you, its me', he's right it really is him ;)
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:lol::lol::lol: Sitting here with a very large glass of red and todays purchases, damn right he's a louse and didn't deserve me!
 
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