Teacher telling kids about the tooth fairy - what to do ?

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My 9 year old believes in Father Christmas and the tooth fairy. I think this is the way it should be for as long as possible.
Her teacher told the entire class that the tooth fairy doesn't exist - thankfully my kid wasn't in the classroom at that moment, but I know of at least one child who went home and fell apart, asking if his mum was Santa as well.
Several other parents have told me how upset their kids were to find out, and one wrote to the headmaster and I am told got a one sentence reply though I don't know what it said yet.

So, my question is what to do. The teacher has already annoyed a few parents by putting books in the class library that are not appropriate even for the 10-11 year olds..

If a letter is sent to the head and there seems to be no decent reply, who do we parents go to - the governors or what ?

If anyone can offer some advice it would be much appreciated!
 
I think that's disgusting!

IMO no teacher has the right to do that, no matter how old the child is!

Maybe a little OTT but speak to your local MP? If not to get them involved but maybe they could point you in the right direction. Perhaps go to the local press?
 
Approach the principal first, if no joy there, then speak to the parent nominated governor or the chair of the board of governors.

In this situation, I'd be tempted to pay the teacher a visit and may sure the tooth fairy had something to collect, from under their pillow!!
 
Sorry i think this is all a bit over the top... but it if is that bad cut out the middle man and just get the parents together and lynch the teacher in question.

but why not go talk to the teacher and find out from her why she/he said what they are meant to have said and ask about the books..
 
I'm sure the government will have plenty of spare time to listen to complaints regarding a fairy.
 
withdrawn - second thoughts.
 
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In fairness there is no such thing.

people usually tell their kids that lying is bad and you should never tell lies, but bring up their children always lying to them about this kind of thing.

You might have guessed, I don't have kids, but I really don't understand lying to them.

Stranger danger goes out the window if he's dressed as santa.
 
So the op hears some 4th hand Chinese whispers about the tooth fairy and gets upset, other posters saying complain here there and everywhere and one poster even advocating violence against the teacher.

I mean seriously!?

Get a grip people!!
 
Keith W said:
So the op hears some 4th hand Chinese whispers about the tooth fairy and gets upset, other posters saying complain here there and everywhere and one poster even advocating violence against the teacher.

I mean seriously!?

Get a grip people!!
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I was taking the P!!! if you read the last line of my comment i said go speak to the teacher..
 
I'm sorry but I think this is a bit OTT too. If you have a problem talk with the teacher concerned, why escalate it to LEA etc? At 9 years of age it is my guess that lots of the kids already know this and she will probably hear about it in the playground.
 
So when do we make a decision to tell the truth to our children about father Christmas and the tooth fairy etc? By nine my daughter new there was no such thing.

What if a child brought this up to the teacher? What about those kids who come from a background that don't believe in these things.

Your child your rules, but don't expect the rest of the world to agree with you.

As for the inappropriate books, again you have your opinion doesn't mean you are right.
 
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you mean theres no tooth fairy ??? and father christmas isnt real ??:'(
 
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My post wasn't aimed at you Terry but rather the poster above your initial post
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That be me then.
Obviously meant as a joke, thought that would have come across, with the reference to teeth under the pillow.

Teachers are there to teach the curriculum, not to make decisions about these types of issue.

As regards parents telling their children lies, parents decision. Do we really expect parents to tell young children the cold brutal truth about everything.... of course not!
 
Wow try & get a grip. Teacher let's slip to a group of nine year olds there's no Santa & someone advocates writing to their MP :lol: Really at 9 I would have thought that most of their peers already know about Santa etc.

I remember my youngest son asking about Santa having been told by his friends. Having confirmed he was a fantasy he then looked at me seriously and said, ' well seeing as we're been honest what about god'. Pretty much left me speechless :lol:

Steve
 
connersz said:
I'm sure the government will have plenty of spare time to listen to complaints regarding a fairy.
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Who mentioned the government?:shrug:

My link might be .gov but it's just where the instructions reside. It's the Local Education Authority aka the council who is the relevant authority for complaints about a school.
 
OP, would you seek to punish or discipline the person that does finally let your little one know (at age 9 or over), be it teacher, relative, friend, another child? You can't possibly think that they won't hear what is the truth from only you, and at a time that you decide.
 
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Do we not bring out children up to believe in God? Lies??? When does that lie end?:thinking::rolleyes:;)
 
I would be disgusted with this if it happened to my kids - it shows a complete lack of common sense by the teacher and I would complain.
 
Do we not bring out children up to believe in God?
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No, well at least we never did, something they need to decide when they are old enough to weigh it all up
 
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Why is it lack of common sense? Easy to attack the teacher, we don't know the whole story and by the sound of it the OP doesn't either.
 
jakeblu said:
Wow try & get a grip. Teacher let's slip to a group of nine year olds there's no Santa & someone advocates writing to their MP :lol: Really at 9 I would have thought that most of their peers already know about Santa etc.

I remember my youngest son asking about Santa having been told by his friends. Having confirmed he was a fantasy he then looked at me seriously and said, ' well seeing as we're been honest what about god'. Pretty much left me speechless :lol:

Steve
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Hmmm... obviously aimed at me.

Seeing as you don't seem capable of reading between the lines I'll fill them in for you :thumbs:

OP has stated that other complaints have been made but the responses have been satisfactory so was asking where he could go to next so I said "Maybe a little OTT but speak to your local MP? If not to get them involved but maybe they could point you in the right direction".

The principle here is that santa and the toothfairy aren't on the curriculum so IMO the teacher has no right or reason to discuss the validity of either with the children, there was also mention of inappropriate books in the library which is potentially an altogether different and potentially more important matter. Maybe this teacher has some kind of hidden agenda?

So please can you "get a grip" and wind it in pal ;)

It should be up to the parent(s) to decide when their kids are old enough to know about this sort of thing.
 
It's a bigger worry that these people are having kids in the first place. :bang:
 
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But Miss, this still does not explain why Santa and the Fairies do not exist.
 
munch said:
So when do we make a decision to tell the truth to our children about father Christmas and the tooth fairy etc? By nine my daughter new there was no such thing.

What if a child brought this up to the teacher? What about those kids who come from a background that don't believe in these things.

Your child your rules, but don't expect the rest of the world to agree with you.

As for the inappropriate books, again you have your opinion doesn't mean you are right.
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Don't people who send their children to school expect the school to respect their wishes with regards to bringing up their children. Ie, should a Christian child be told "there is no God"? in a school? I'd be furious if that happened to my child. Common folklore, fairytales etc are for the parents to decide whether/when to tell a child "what happens".
 
MagicMynx said:
Don't people who send their children to school expect the school to respect their wishes with regards to bringing up their children. Ie, should a Christian child be told "there is no God"? in a school? I'd be furious if that happened to my child. Common folklore, fairytales etc are for the parents to decide whether/when to tell a child "what happens".
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To be honest with a different Santa on every street corner in town and on the TV at this time of year, I would be more worried that any 9yr old of mine had not worked it out for themselves. Do these things have to be mentioned before you let a school take on your child nowadays then?
 
Surely the teacher could have said that it was something the children nee to ask their parents . My 12 year old hasn't broached santa yet as long as she plays along then santa will remain real as will the tooth fairy ..( tooth fairy here is a bit rubbish as often forgets !!)
 
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To be honest with a different Santa on every street corner in town and on the TV at this time of year, I would be more worried that any 9yr old of mine had not worked it out for themselves. Do these things have to be mentioned before you let a school take on your child nowadays then?
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What? That your parenting should be respected? Yeah, I would say so. Parents have the final say on a child's upbringing (unless it's deemed harmful, but that's making things complex,) not a teacher. Encourage a child to question but to make a bold statement like that lacks morals. Upsetting children by making such a statement - to be honest, I can't see how that's educational.

Sometimes children believe, sometimes they don't. When I was at school, some of the 9 year olds still believed in Santa. I know of one person who had to be told at 11 before going to comprehensive school that Santa wasn't what they thought....a year later and that same person didn't believe in God...some other peers followed suit in not believing in God, but he was the first.
 
Russ77 said:
Hmmm... obviously aimed at me.

Seeing as you don't seem capable of reading between the lines I'll fill them in for you :thumbs:

OP has stated that other complaints have been made but the responses have been satisfactory so was asking where he could go to next so I said "Maybe a little OTT but speak to your local MP? If not to get them involved but maybe they could point you in the right direction".

The principle here is that santa and the toothfairy aren't on the curriculum so IMO the teacher has no right or reason to discuss the validity of either with the children, there was also mention of inappropriate books in the library which is potentially an altogether different and potentially more important matter. Maybe this teacher has some kind of hidden agenda?

So please can you "get a grip" and wind it in pal ;)

It should be up to the parent(s) to decide when their kids are old enough to know about this sort of thing.
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HERE HERE
 
MagicMynx said:
Don't people who send their children to school expect the school to respect their wishes with regards to bringing up their children. Ie, should a Christian child be told "there is no God"? in a school? I'd be furious if that happened to my child. Common folklore, fairytales etc are for the parents to decide whether/when to tell a child "what happens".
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TBH as Christian parents we expected our children to be told "there is no God", and I don't think we were disappointed. In a country where people are so hard-nosed about what's real and what's not, I am amazed that there could be any 9 YOs who aren't in on the story of Father Christmas. Pretty sure we had it sorted a long time before that, but enjoyed the fun side enough to continue having presents at the end of the bed until we were teenagers.
 
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