There is a hell of a lot of ignorance in this thread. Unless you have had to fight to get a child statemented and it is a fight (which is what you need for any special education or money, although it has to be pretty severe ADHD to get that) then you don't have a clue what you are talking about.
Theres a hell of a lot of common sense, a lot of people on here may not have ever seen anyone with any genuine disability BUT in most cases its not difficult to see when it is just an excuse.
Dyslexia which I have quite badly was still a newish thing when I was in school, there was still research and so on but I worked around it, I attended after school time just to catch up! I developed ways of working around things that to me made things easier.
And god bless my parents for their patience!
And you know what? school help was a load of crap! how many times do you think writing the letter K over and over again is going to help me?
Also: back then like today it was an excuse for poorly behaved kids, I remember kids who sat drawing on the desk, attitude to teachers, skipping lessons then at parents evening when the kids were seriously under-performing the parents immediately tagged them Dyslexic,,, that's when some of them being told to behave didn't blurt it our as an excuse.
It really ****ed me off and still does.
I agree with the above!
My son is 10. He has Aspergers Syndrome, ADHD, Dyspraxia, Dyslexia, and a fairly rare condition called Cyclical Vomiting Syndrome, for which he requires frequent hospital admission.
My son attends mainstream and although he has an IEP he gets very little extra help in class.
I watch him suffer at the hands of bullies because he doesn't understand social rules and is an 'easy' target, I watch him struggle with school work and I sit next to his hospital bed while he is hooked up to IV fluids and vomiting so bad he puts tears in his oesophagus.
Despite all this my son has been brought up with manners although he stuggles to cope with strangers talking to him and that may been seen as him being rude. He has sensory issues such as noises and lights which cause him to behave differently.
I would rather he didn't have all these issues but he has.
What I would like is not to be judged by people who have never walked in my shoes and just see what they think is a badly behaved boy, getting away with murder because his mother isn't controlling him!
Knowledge is power.
And here is the example of a real kid with problems, I bet your son to walk past him in the street will look like a normal happy child though, because you are a good parent, you say knowledge is power and you are right.
You want whats best for your son and you went out, learnt what you needed to do and implemented it to give him a better life.
Though Bullys is always a tough one and no measure any school todays implements seems to be effective
Its the same with most people who have genuine cases working with what they have you would never know and they live a relatively normal life because of it.
But,, it really is all to easy to label.
Knowledge may be power, but in many cases ignorance is bliss :bang:
