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A little rant...why the [PLEASE DON'T TRY TO BYPASS THE SWEAR FILTER] do people feel the need to go out for a romantic dinner and then ignore each other by playing with their phones.....just saying :D
 
Perhaps it's not a romantic dinner....just dinner.

Incidentally, were you out for a romantic dinner and watching other diners on their phones? ;)
 
viv1969 said:
Perhaps it's not a romantic dinner....just dinner.

Incidentally, were you out for a romantic dinner and watching other diners on their phones? ;)
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Nope.....but was amazed at the number of tables with couples who spent the experience in their phones
 
you hadn't stumbled upon an organised phone dating night had you?
 
Can't see anything wrong with it really - as long as both partners re OK with it. Do people need to talk to each other the whole time?
If it was a "first date" then it might not be such a good sign, but if you have been together years then it's not really a problem.
 
boliston said:
Can't see anything wrong with it really - as long as both partners re OK with it. Do people need to talk to each other the whole time?
If it was a "first date" then it might not be such a good sign, but if you have been together years then it's not really a problem.
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If I was on a dinner date/ meeting or casual meal and the other party took out their phone I would be truly disgusted and feel that I was being disrespected.......I feel that today's world rely on technology too much and the art of conversation is now well and truly f***ed...even if I was familiar with the other party
 
Pretty bad to judge others simply because it's not something you yourself would do to be honest.
 
viv1969 said:
Pretty bad to judge others simply because it's not something you yourself would do to be honest.
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Not bad to judge...but bad to be anti social.......
What is that point of socialising if you ignore your company
 
Tinder is your friend (or Grinder for Ade and Rich).
 
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archangel said:
Not bad to judge...but bad to be anti social.......
What is that point of socialising if you ignore your company
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People are different.
Let them get on with their business and go about your own.
They're only being antisocial by your standards.
 
viv1969 said:
People are different.
Let them get on with their business and go about your own.
They're only being antisocial by your standards.
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'tis true....but does look a bit strange. I've seen couples texting from the time they sit down until the time they leave.

I guess as Bob Dylan said, "The times they are a textin" :)
 
I have a sample of those texts;

"Don't look now, but that guy is staring at us"

"Is it us or our phones? Is he a mugger?"

"Definitely us. It's creeping me out. Don't speak - he's probably listening too"

"Great. So we have to text ALL NIGHT?"
 
They are probably posting on social media sites what a great night they are having. Then have a geolocation show off the check in at the restaurant. Followed by s couple of photos of the meals.

I don't know and I do generalise, but sometimes it does make me wonder. My children note the same thing at school discos. Everyone is taking photos to show each other what a great time they are having. Yet they are already there.
 
I agree. Totally rude whether on a romantic date or just a normal out to dinner night.
 
kelack said:
I agree. Totally rude whether on a romantic date or just a normal out to dinner night.
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But you can't say that without knowing the persons situation

I get that a lot when I'm eating out as I spend an awful lot of time on my phone. However I'm working! I can't turn my phone off...EVER. My business runs 24 hours a day.
It has been commented on by a waitress once so she didn't get a tip.
At least when I'm out I try to conduct work via text message and not talking on it.
 
mattyg said:
But you can't say that without knowing the persons situation

I get that a lot when I'm eating out as I spend an awful lot of time on my phone. However I'm working! I can't turn my phone off...EVER. My business runs 24 hours a day.
It has been commented on by a waitress once so she didn't get a tip.
At least when I'm out I try to conduct work via text message and not talking on it.
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Fair enough but the assumption is made that they're not working so I think it is rude. I'm currently away on business so have my phone at dinner with me and popping onto various stuff but that's only as I am on my own.

Must be quite knackering for you though never to be able to sleep ;)
 
kelack said:
Fair enough but the assumption is made that they're not working so I think it is rude. I'm currently away on business so have my phone at dinner with me and popping onto various stuff but that's only as I am on my own.

Must be quite knackering for you though never to be able to sleep ;)
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To play devil's advocate though, there was quite a bit of phone action going on in the pub after the mega meet day one last year, and that was definitely a social situation ;) :lol:
 
viv1969 said:
To play devil's advocate though, there was quite a bit of phone action going on in the pub after the mega meet day one last year, and that was definitely a social situation ;) :LOL:
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I now feel like I've missed something. It couldn't possibly have been posting on social media sites since data reception is rubbish.

Come on spill the beans, what phone action ;) was there?
 
viv1969 said:
To play devil's advocate though, there was quite a bit of phone action going on in the pub after the mega meet day one last year, and that was definitely a social situation ;) :lol:
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Haha there was too you are right!
 
beyond the blue said:
As a teenager at home I wasn't even allowed to speak at the dining table. Just putting your elbows on the table got you a smack round the ear hole. How times have changed :rolleyes:
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I can't imagine that.
For us, the dining table was where we all came together at the end of a day...big gathering with lots if chatter and laughing!
 
viv1969 said:
I can't imagine that.
For us, the dining table was where we all came together at the end of a day...big gathering with lots if chatter and laughing!
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Same here and still is. During the week it isn't always feasible but Friday/Saturday/Sunday we most definitely try.
 
dejongj said:
Same here and still is. During the week it isn't always feasible but Friday/Saturday/Sunday we most definitely try.
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We were a pretty large family in a pretty small house! Two parents and five kids (then 4 :( )...with a pretty wide spread in age from eldest to youngest.
Dinner time was always a lively affair!
I have really fond memories of it :-)
 
POAH said:
why are you watching other people rather than talking to your dinner companions :p
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It was actually Mrs A that pointed them out to me...I was too busy stuffing my face :D

To add a little more info they were so busy playing with their phones that when their meal arrived they actually didn't notice the waitress arriving at the table.......and when paying the bill he stood looking at his screen whilst waiting for his change....
 
If they are both happy doing that, then they are not being rude or offending anybody. If they want to do something different to you, that's because they are different to you. We are all different. Thankfully.
In this instance, it's you who should change. This is a chance to learn to expand your horizons. You could benefit from this personally. If you wanted to.
I don't mean about you being nosey in restaurants. That's fine. It's harmless. Carry on. What I mean is you have a chance to teach yourself something about acceptance of other people's behaviour. It takes a while. But if you keep an eye on yourself, bit by bit you can progress. If you like learning things it's fun.
 
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ianp5a said:
If they are both happy doing that, then they are not being rude or offending anybody. If they want to do something different to you, that's because they are different to you. We are all different. Thankfully.
In this instance, it's you who should change. This is a chance to learn to expand your horizons. You can benefit.
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Why would I want to change into an automated moron who totally ignores his/her dinner companion..:confused:
 
Maybe they were of different nationalities and had previously only conversed via a translation app.
 
archangel said:
Why would I want to change into an automated moron who totally ignores his/her dinner companion..:confused:
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You misunderstood me. It's OK for them to do that. But wrong for you to do so. As you wouldn't like it. As you are different. And you are also making many assumptions about them.
But if you want to, you can benefit from analysing your own reaction.
 
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Agree that it's anybody's right to be glued to their phone but I do find it sad that we are becoming a society where screens are becoming more and more commonplace.

I wonder what will happen in a few years when VR takes off...
 
Similar to taking a walk with a friend / partner and taking a camera and spending time taking photographs and ignoring the company unless insisting they look at the LCD results?
 
kelack said:
Fair enough but the assumption is made that they're not working so I think it is rude. I'm currently away on business so have my phone at dinner with me and popping onto various stuff but that's only as I am on my own.

Must be quite knackering for you though never to be able to sleep ;)
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Yes it is.

Up at 8am yesterday admin and wages. Got a couple of hours to go shopping in the afternoon but close by so I can get home quickly if need be. 6pm the phone starts again as all my drivers start work then regular updates throughout the night. Plus a new driver needing extra help finding were our clients leave the stuff we are collecting. Bed for 01:45 then phone starts ringing regarding a missing driver at 4am. who takes 15 mins to finally answer his phone as he was on the motorway and his phone had fallen off the seat in his hire van.

Turns out something was miss labelled by a client last night so it looked like we failed to collect from them so the emails and phone calls started again at 06:48.

9-5 blah thats for wimps
or people who would like a life

Another 10 yrs of this and I'll either be comfortably retired, In a padded cell or in a wooden box




However it is funny watching groups all sat round staring at their phones. Enjoying each others icompany

I'm sat at my desk normally opposite the mrs with our laptops back to back. it looks like were playing battleships. And you'll laugh at the amount of emails we send each other each day. (Which is normally just CC'ing each other in. Its not as sad as it sounds..................but it's pretty damn close)
 
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