Actually I meant the actual idea behind it, was it accepting a certain religion? As you mentioned so your wife could do the whole church thing? I remember something from the past, my cousin had to go through. Some kind of pre ceremony, before she could marry into a catholic family
Ah sorry. No the idea behind it wasn't accepting a certain religion, I would just not do that at all. Now I am not expert on this, only done it once a long time ago
IIRC There are three services possible;
- Full mass with marriage rite - both be catholics and attend
- Marriage rite - a catholic and a non-Catholic but baptised, but catholics can do this if they don't want a long mass
- Marriage union - catholic and a non-Catholic but not baptised
Now all of this is down to the priest as well

So highly subjective which was one of my arguments against the whole thing but for the sake of my wife I kept quiet about that. As my wife was well known in the Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults (RCIA) and done a lot of work of the years, many solo choir performances including Westminster and Barbican etc The priest agreed, following a discussion with myself as well, and the engagement encounter weekend, that we could have the full mass with marriage rite as it was in the interest of the whole of the parish. And at the day I knew why, the turnout was beyond my imagination, people were standing along the back and sides. He made the right decision.
The only strings, not legally binding, attached was to bring up children in the Catholic faith. So yes they were baptised, they go to Catholic schools, and they had their holy communion. I don't mind that, and the schools have been very good as each semester there are representatives of all faiths and humanities who will provide their interpretation. And with my eldest I can see that she is questioning it a lot in a very sensible and respectful manner inbetween the outbursts of "Its boring"
