This whole independence malarky reminds me very much of when I split up with my ex nearly 12 years ago. We'd been together for a while. Had two kids and I was 27-28 at the time. We were living in a nice neighbourhood, 4 bed semi garage, two cars etc. In short life was pretty good for our age and I was pretty happy with my lot. My ex on the other hand wasn't. Always comparing us to others and what we didn't have. For example:
Her: "Oh look at your friend (Bob). He goes on holiday x times a year and lives in a bigger house than we do."
Me: "Yes, he also earns 3x what we do!"
For that and several other reasons eventually she was so unhappy that we decided to split up. Her plan was simple. Free of me and my non-ambitious ways and never having enough money to live how she wanted, she'd spend all the money from her inheritance (that I wouldn't let her spend) on a business and work damn hard! I'd of course pay her a generous child support on top of her income and she & the kids would live happily ever after. Brilliant. It sounded great on paper.
When we sat down to talk about finances she was all prepared. She'd been to a solicitor and he'd told her everything I had to give her. Except she didn't get the exact deal she'd expected. She got less. Significantly less. (Ironically it was less than I originally offered her but I digress). Net result was huge hole in her finances. To cut a long story short, 18 months later her business folded, the kids were living with me full time and she had gone from entrepreneur to part time waitress.
It's been 12 years since and the kids still live with me, I enjoy a more comfortable life now than I did (even though it was fine at the time) because I never took huge risks and have been a steady eddy. She now sees the kids alternate weekends, had to sell her house since she couldn't afford it and rents a double room. My ex works full time and works very very hard. That much I don't doubt.
The point I'm making is this. Life is grey. It's not black & white. To me and to many others, you may argue that her 'independence' hasn't been a great success. If you look at the facts & figures it's definitely not been. Mainly for her. It's not been financially better for me either. If we hadn't have split we'd have been mortgage free about 5 years ago. Instead I still have a mortgage around my neck for another 15 years and she's renting with no realistic prospect of buying.
I guess this is the point of the better together campaign. If you divorce then you are pretty much both guaranteed to lose out. Financially at least. Emotionally you may still want to be on your own and that's fine. Just stop trying to lie to voters about how much better it will be because the chances are it won't be better.