Would you let your 16 yr old daughter go camping with her friends?

Would you let your 16 yr old daughter go camping with her friends?

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big soft moose said:
sigh - does it matter

(oh and btw the 1952 defamation act defines "words disparaging a person in his office, calling or profession" as slander "whether written or spoken" )
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It certainly does in a court case.
( And the act has changed a few times since 1952 :-) )
 
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Can't comment from a parents point of view, never going to happen.

However, at the age of 16 - before mobile phones etc - out school ran the duke of Edinburgh award schemes. This involved a 2 day expedition at bronze level including an overnight at a campsite. It was supervised but once we were on site that was where supervision ended. Everyone survived and it was a superb experience.

There were a number of groups of 4 there - boys & girls - all friends. Ages 15-16. Honestly don't see a problem with it, especially since it is so close to home.
 
I went night fishing for a couple of nights in a tent at the age of 15 with a few mates of the same age and it never did me any harm. We went to school dances/discos and slept over at other folks houses - cuddled up next to each other on the floor.
If anyone thinks that 16 year olds are children, then they should have seen the girls from one private school near me, when I was growing up - they used to scare me silly!
 
My daughter has just turned 19 today. Since her 16th birthday she has been to DofE weekends, Greece on holiday with her friends, a school trip to Russia, a long weekend in Amsterdam and is now studying archeology at UCL in the big bad metropolis that is London, (can you imagine how that was for a father). I understand your worry, I felt the same, but You have to show some trust in your daughter and confidence in your parenting that she will act responsible.
 
TRUST- is a massive word. Whether its between, parents and kids (mine are 27,25,14) husband and wife, best friends etc, etc. Tell her you was not happy about her telling a porky about the other family been there, but at the end of the day she is 16, a tough old age. Just put the facts across, ie- you really want her to have a good time, and you TRUST her to be sensible etc. She will think on it more than just saying no. Also just slip into the conversation that she will only be 10 miles away, an early morning visit by dad may just occur ;)
 
big soft moose said:
god yes... I've had a starring role in one of those threads (or possibly netmums I forget which) as the "pathetic jobsworth ranger who refused to protect little darling from the attentions of an evil P**** photographer" - that is she wanted me to stop someone taking pictures of the beach on which said darling was playing, I said no because in my view he wasn't doing anything wrong - so she went home and slandered both me and him on the net instead... sigh. :rolleyes:
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Sigh :(
 
I'd be disaappointed that she had to lie about some parents going to be there initally so she could go.
She's growing up, trust her, and as long as you've met most the girls before let her go. You could also get in contact with some of the other parents and discuss it with them if you're nervous about it. Maybe there's a few older sisters that could also tag along as well.
 
drounding said:
I'd be disaappointed that she had to lie about some parents going to be there initally so she could go.
She's growing up, trust her, and as long as you've met most the girls before let her go. You could also get in contact with some of the other parents and discuss it with them if you're nervous about it. Maybe there's a few older sisters that could also tag along as well.
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About nine judging by the way some of them are allowed to dress ;)
 
Jeez, they are only two years away from being adults and you're worried about them sitting in a campsite a few miles away?
 
When I was 17 in 1978 I went camping in Cornwall with some mates on my RD250

There was a group of local girls the same age that had been dropped off by their parents for the weekend

It was a great weekend, :D so for every 17 year old lad out there I'm saying, let them go

As a parent, tie her up, gag her and when they come knocking say you don't know where she is
 
Theres something your all missing and the reason why all your advice to the OP is worth squat...

You don't know the girls friends. you dont know the campsite but most important of all ..You have no idea about his daughter or what shes like... You dont know if shes little miss prim and proper who wouldn't say boo to a mouse or if she couldnt be trusted to answer the front door... none of you know anyhting about the family situation and yet your all offering these words of wisdom and advice as if you have read it from a book of parenting..

real life.. bit different..

16 yr old tattooed drug ridden alcaholic girls spend night with like minded friends on a gypo camp site... or 16 yr old girls spends night with brownies as part of duke of edinburgh award..... one extreme to the other but you dont know...

the only person who does know the answer is dad.... what the heck he is doing asking a bunch of photogrpahers on a forum is beyond me..

just my opinion... father of 7 all grown up.. 5 sons 2 daughters with one daughter more trouble than the other 6 put together :)
 
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KIPAX said:
Theres something your all missing and the reason why all your advice to the OP is worth squat...

You don't know the girls friends. you dont know the campsite but most important of all ..You have no idea about his daughter or what shes like... You dont know if shes little miss prim and proper who wouldn't say boo to a mouse or if she couldnt be trusted to answer the front door... none of you know anyhting about the family situation and yet your all offering these words of wisdom and advice as if you have read it from a book of parenting..

real life.. bit different..

16 yr old tattooed drug ridden alcaholic girls spend night with like minded friends on a gypo camp site... or 16 yr old girls spends night with brownies as part of duke of edinburgh award..... one extreme to the other but you dont know...

the only person who does know the answer is dad.... what the heck he is doing asking a bunch of photogrpahers on a forum is beyond me..

just my opinion... father of 7 all grown up.. 5 sons 2 daughters with one daughter more trouble than the other 6 put together :)
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Perhaps everyone should run all their questions past you first then...would that work for ya? :rolleyes:
 
viv1969 said:
Perhaps everyone should run all their questions past you first then...would that work for ya? :rolleyes:
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I dont get your train of thought.. i havent offered him advice and wouldnt.. just poitning out advice from outside source is useless... how do you get need to ask me from that? i made an observation i stick by.. how has that offended you so much?
 
KIPAX said:
I dont get your train of thought.. i havent offered him advice and wouldnt.. just poitning out advice from outside source is useless... how do you get need to ask me from that? i made an observation i stick by.. how has that offended you so much?
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Oh I'm not offended in the least :-)
 
viv1969 said:
Oh I'm not offended in the least :)
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then please explain why you think i should be asked when the whole point of my post is to say outside advice is useless . how do you twist the whole thing around like that and then make sarcastic comments if it diodnt upset you?
 
KIPAX said:
........ what the heck he is doing asking a bunch of photogrpahers on a forum is beyond me..
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Speaking of sarcasm :lol:
 
KIPAX said:
Theres something your all missing and the reason why all your advice to the OP is worth squat...
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I disagree, whilst yeah we do not know the girl in question, but perhaps the OP is just asking general advice regarding the acceptability of allowing a 16yr old girl to go camping with her friends or is it a definite no-no. I dont think we actually need a CRB check to offer some salient advise.
 
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KIPAX said:
noooo ..you ahve made a bit oif anasty statement while quoting my thoughts on the subject.. are you going to excplain why you did that or just keep avoiding it..

I say nobody knows enough about the situation to offer advice and you say perhaps everyong should aks me first... i want to know why you would post that..
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I want a million quid and a Maserati, but that ain't happening either :lol:
 
jakeblu said:
I disagree, whilst yeah we do not know the girl in question, but perhaps the OP is just asking general advice regarding the acceptability of allowing a 16yr old girl to go camping with her friends or is it a definite no-no. I dont think we actually need a CBR check to offer some salient advise.
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As an aside...How would you feel if something happened after advising to go....

It was just my honest personal opinion.. i cant see how anyone could advise not knowing the full facts or all the info.. its a bit too generic... hence my comment about asking on here... all seems a bit.. odd... IMHO :)
 
Better they camp in a campsite than finding somewhere in public instead. 10 miles is like 15-20 minutes away, pretty close by if there's an emergency and there's like 8 of them, that's a pretty safe number. Just ask her to call before going to bed and then again when she wakes up. :)

Oh, fully understand being concerned - my parents still worry! I don't think you ever stop to be honest.
 
KIPAX said:
So you rerad my post wrong.. post something nasty and then wont explain why... makes you a bit of a coward doesnt it.,..
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You need to lighten up Princess.
Go outside....It's a LOVELY day! :-)
 
gman said:
Just ask her to call before going to bed and then again when she wakes up. :)
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for me thats the only good thing about mobile phones.. kids... saved me a lot of worry over the yrs.. especialy when getting home later than said..
 
KIPAX said:
you want to ahve a pop at me for no good reason then tell me to lighten up... noo thats not going to happen any time soon :)
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Your call :-)

But at this point I suggest we let these good people have their thread back. :-)
 
KIPAX said:
you want to ahve a pop at me for no good reason then tell me to lighten up... noo thats not going to happen any time soon :)
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Happens all to often it seems, so much so it's getting very tiresome
 
At the end of the day I'm sure the OP will make his own mind up what to do, but sounding out opinions on here first certainly aint going to hurt if he's a bit worried is it. Chill.

KIPAX said:
you want to ahve a pop at me for no good reason then tell me to lighten up
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Didnt take you long to suss out the M.O.! ;)
 
OK never come acccross her before..; will take the advice and ignore :)
 
KIPAX said:
. you need to explain why you ahd a go at me.. i really do believe nobody knows enough info.. including me.. to offer good advice..and for that you post saying perhaps everyone should ask me.. sarcastic and nasty... there must be a reason you had a go at me like that so you need to explain.. you keep posting silly one liners and refuse to tell me why you had a pop... i wont be letting that go at all... ... your whats called a sniper.. you post a nasty commet.. hope s mile gets away with it and when it doesnt just keep avoiding the question.. its what cowards do on messageboards
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You've a belligerent style of posting, you take pride in it, others take exception (not me I might add)
 
belligerent - hostile and aggressive..... me? ahve you read the post..its not hostile at all.. in fact i slept before i posted.. you should ahve seen draft 1 :)
 
KIPAX said:
belligerent - hostile and aggressive..... me? ahve you read the post..its not hostile at all.. in fact i slept before i posted.. you should ahve seen draft 1 :)
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I thought this was one of your milder ones :lol:
 
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