Woman wants photo I took of her Husband and child deleted and not posted. Is she in her right?

Bassit said:
They haven't given you any valid reason to take it down, other than the aggressive stance of its illegal, point out to them its not illegal and ask them if they have a valid reason for the request......
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As above! You need to get to the root of the objection, exactly what is it about the shot that they find unacceptable. Once you have the reason(s) in black and white, you can argue your point.
 
I would very politely decline to take the image down,with a quick reply to their PM "Sorry, but I won't be removing the image and neither will I be engaging in further discussion on the subject" - and then ignore any further response. It's a nice image that I suspect captures the atmosphere on the seafront very well. Don't respond if they go public with their requests either. Just sit on your hands and ignore them.

Unlike Charlotte ("It's not the best photo in the world"), I think there is a lot of merit to this image. There are some very nice repeating diagonals (child's leg,wave, cloud) and it captures the moment. I probably wouldn't have posted it myself, I'd have been checking POTY categories first.. ..
 
sorry but how can you even tell its them ?
 
It's obvious why she wants it removed, isn't it? If you read the papers over the past few days they have all slated irresponsible people going to the beach when waves are crashing in, as is happening here. They're probably embarrassed.

Would I hell remove it.
 
Why even discuss it with them? Don't respond to anything further.
 
MagicMynx said:
Facebook may take it down (the report option used to have a "I don't like this picture of me!" option, but to be frank, you have the rights, even if you did turn a profit from it, you don't need their permission.
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I'd like to see them prove the identity!
 
hoochy1 said:
nice photo right place right time could it be a case of sour grapes as you may have got a better photo of her hubby and kid than she did on the day? i would leave it on un less there is a genuine reason she wants it taken down
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if that were the case she would surely be asking him for a copy not asking him to take it down.
 
MagicMynx said:
Facebook may take it down (the report option used to have a "I don't like this picture of me!" option, but to be frank, you have the rights, even if you did turn a profit from it, you don't need their permission.
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they dot take it down they just send you a message from the person that complained ( cousin and her then fella in same room as each other no where near each other though ) i deleted .... my cousin
 
I'd definitely not be taking that down and think it's a great shot personally.

On the complainant I see from her facebook she has a sales site selling photos, wonder if she's registered? :meh: :indifferent:
 
Very interested to see their reply to this. Cant help feel i may have gone down the "it isnt you" line as they cant prove it tell them it was taken in egypt. they cant prove that either.
 
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I'd ask her first to prove that it is her family & then ask why they don't like it ? No faces = no proof..
 
chadpowell said:
My response. Thanks everyone, now lets see what his reply is.
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I personally think that's an OTT and heavy-handed response, but I don't know the exact wording of the private messages that you're responding to.

However, it does seem that they're also contacting the page admin directly and they're making public requests. Now let's see if you can present a professional and dignified response, where so many aggrieved photographers have failed in the past under these circumstances.
 
Neither OTT, heavy-handed, unprofessional or undignified
Alastair said:
I personally think that's an OTT and heavy-handed response, but I don't know the exact wording of the private messages that you're responding to.

However, it does seem that they're also contacting the page admin directly and they're making public requests. Now let's see if you can present a professional and dignified response, where so many aggrieved photographers have failed in the past under these circumstances.
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Nothing wrong with his response and no reason whatsoever to feel compelled to respond further.
 
gramps said:
Neither OTT, heavy-handed, unprofessional or undignified


Nothing wrong with his response and no reason whatsoever to feel compelled to respond further.
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As the page admin has pulled the image from the group, it now seems largely irrelevant.
 
Alastair said:
I personally think that's an OTT and heavy-handed response, but I don't know the exact wording of the private messages that you're responding to.

However, it does seem that they're also contacting the page admin directly and they're making public requests. Now let's see if you can present a professional and dignified response, where so many aggrieved photographers have failed in the past under these circumstances.
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Heavy handed in what way? Heavy handed would be to challenge him to a fight or start calling him names, he is simply stating the law and providing evidence to back up his claims of what the law is. He is educating them and ending the problem at the same time. I think it was a very fair and professional response.
 
Well, looks like it's been taken down now :shrug:
 
mart77 said:
Cant help feel i may have gone down the "it isnt you" line as they cant prove it tell them it was taken in egypt. they cant prove that either.
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As it doesn't matter, I wouldn't tear the discussion down to that level.

It's ridiculous, they expose themselves unlimited to the world, including their kid and would like to have a picture removed, which is showing not anything personal.
 
mart77 said:
Heavy handed in what way? Heavy handed would be to challenge him to a fight or start calling him names, he is simply stating the law and providing evidence to back up his claims of what the law is. He is educating them and ending the problem at the same time. I think it was a very fair and professional response.
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My suggested response is further up the thread. Bringing the concept of the police into the argument, assuming it hadn't already been raised in either of the two messages we haven't access to, is possibly counter-productive. If you're in the right you don't need the heavy ammunition to back it up. That just indicates a lack of conviction in your own position and escalates the tension. Honestly, photographers are their own worst enemy every time this type of situation occurs.
 
lemo said:
As it doesn't matter, I wouldn't tear the discussion down to that level.

It's ridiculous, they expose themselves unlimited to the world, including their kid and would like to have a picture removed, which is showing not anything personal.
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yes, i cant help feel their motivation is attention seeking.
 
Alastair said:
My suggested response is further up the thread. Bringing the concept of the police into the argument, assuming it hadn't already been raised in either of the two messages we haven't access to, is possibly counter-productive. If you're in the right you don't need the heavy ammunition to back it up. That just indicates a lack of conviction in your own position and escalates the tension. Honestly, photographers are their own worst enemy every time this type of situation occurs.
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yes didnt read your earlier response, but yes that should be enough.
 
All sorted now guys. Although it has been removed from the closed Facebook group, that wasn't my issue at all, I have it on my FB page and Flickr. The Husband responded very positively actually, and now understands my rights etc. I have offered them a large mounted print of the image if they can cover the material costs and sid I will hand deliver it for them, which they are considering. An extremely positive ending I would say, thanks to everyone who has put in their two cents in order to help me, may others learn something from this thread! :) Just after I removed their names from this thread, they informed me someone sent them the link to this forum post and they're not exactly happy that I shared their names (a rookie error on my behalf and I shouldn't have included their names, but just didn't think)
 
Good to hear there was a reasonable resolution. ;)
 
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chadpowell said:
I have offered them a large mounted print of the image if they can cover the material costs and sid I will hand deliver it for them, which they are considering.
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Brilliant idea! They may even recommend you if they're pleased with it! Even if they don't it diffuses the whole situation. Well done with that one :thumbs:
 
I've thought about this situation myself, as I like street photography. If someone complained to me, and only if they were polite, i'd show them the pic, explain that I'd rather not delete it as i think it will be a good photo, and if they give me a copy of their email address i'll happily send them a copy.
 
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