Why is asking someone out so difficult? UPDATED!!!

just in case its a she, can we have pics :p

go for it, ya never know till ya try. Also expect it to go badly that way when it goes well its a pleasant surprise :D
 
Lucky man ;)

Just go for it Sarah. If he's got half a brain he'll jump at the chance!
(An attractive lady who loves photography, DAMN!!)

GL!
 
squizza said:
Why is it always so difficult. I'm happy being single but there's someone I like very much and we get on so well, but why does it just stop there. AAAAAAAAAAAAAARrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. :bang:
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I never found asking someone out was difficult.
Getting them to accept was the hard bit.

That's why I have a thick skin now.
 
Someone advised me to ask out all the really stunning ladies because most people wouldn't because they didn't think they had a cat's chance in hell

Got a fair few knockbacks, but one gorgeous lady who accepted did mention that she wondered what was wrong that nobody actually asked her out

Married now for twenty two years and daughter of nearly 19, so go for it and ask
 
squizza said:
Why is it always so difficult. I'm happy being single but there's someone I like very much and we get on so well, but why does it just stop there.
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There's the fear that they'll say no, the fear of letting the other person know the depth of your feelings and the fear that the act of asking and being rejected will change the nature of the freindship.

At least, that's how it is for me, I've only ever asked out women I've already been good friends with.
 
If he has told you he's insecure that is a big step IMO and he must either
a) trust you
b)like you to confide in you
c) want to ask you out so has hinted that he is insecure so you do it
d) all of the above

My advise is ask him you have nothing to lose and a lot to gain. Ask him does he fancy a meal or a drink sometime and take it from there.

From your avatar you look a really attractive lady Sarah he'd be a fool to say no, just pick up the phone and ask him go on I dare you
 
"Faint heart ne'er won fair maid".

I understand the same philisolophy applies for ladies too, in these politicall correct, everyone's-equal days.
 
I was scared of asking my wife out. She had a reputation as being a bit of a man eater. Took the plunge and found out it was all a front to stop guys she wasn't interested in chancing their luck. We've had a silver wedding. Glad I risked it. "You never know your luck in a raffle!"
 
go for it sarah, I was in a similar position to you 7 or 8 years ago and waited, and waited and waited, then acted. Only to find out it was 2 weeks after they'd met someone else :bang:

Go for it and good luck!
 
Such a difficult one isn't it. I have just put myself back on the shelf, so much easier lol. If he is a chef, why not suggest going out to dinner to give him a break, can be done in a light hearted way that if he declines its not going to end the friendship as it was not to 'heavy'.
 
I wish I could post something more intelligent than this, but hey.

DO EET!
 
squizza said:
I know he's quite insecure because he told me.
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Well there you go then dialogue has already been exchanged :thumbs:
grab him by the balls erm, I mean grab the horns by the bulls
Or even the bull by the horns or what ever, and just go for it................:thumbs:
 
As he's a chef, challenge his cookery skills and get him to conjure something up for dinner... Or you bring a random selection of ingredients and he has to conjure up a dish.
Don't forget the wine...
 
He is probably worried that you will say no...
You seem to have the same problem...

What is better... going on as you are ...? and never knowing what the other wants.
Or taking the plunge and finding out?

At the very least it will save a lot of wasted time and heart ache.

Take the plunge... and ask him how long it will be before he asks you out. As neither of you are getting any younger....
 
I'm definitely insecure! I want to ask this girl out who works at my vodafone shop....but I don't know what to say! Men are more insecure than women I think...sometimes....girls giggle crazily...we just maintain a manly silence. ;)
 
Another one that says "go for it" Sarah. Don't leave yourself wondering "what if?".

Sounds like you're a both a bit insecure and nervous about this sort of thing, so just keep it light. You don't even have to phrase it as a proper date.

Tell him that there's something you fancy watching in the cinema or a new restaurant you want to try and ask him if he'd like to go along with you.
You'll probably be able to gauge from his reaction whether he's interested or not - and if he says no you haven't said anything to embarrass yourself or put a strain on your friendship.

It only has to be as hard as you make it, so stop torturing yourself over it and just do it.
 
lawrenceots said:
I'm definitely insecure! I want to ask this girl out who works at my vodafone shop....but I don't know what to say! Men are more insecure than women I think...sometimes....girls giggle crazily...we just maintain a manly silence. ;)
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I think all single males have a female tey would like to ask out lol, mines my hairdresser :D
 
Do it!!
I got really drunk before I had the balls to try it on with my now wife.
I was suave and sophisticated, and I didnt throw up!!
your mileage may vary!!
 
hmm I might get drunk...I am trying to think of a way to talk to the girl at vodafone...without talking about the obvious..though I'm going in to thank her for advice she gave me re a new one....who knows what might happen...:D
 
lawrenceots said:
hmm I might get drunk...I am trying to think of a way to talk to the girl at vodafone...without talking about the obvious..though I'm going in to thank her for advice she gave me re a new one....who knows what might happen...:D
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You could always walk in and give her a piece..... of paper with your phone number on? :)
 
Flash In The Pan said:
Have you made your move yet? ;)
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Of course I haven't! :D Although I did go to work today even though I wasn't rota-ed on (so I could ask him). But he wasn't there. :eek: gutted.

People at work were saying 'why the hell are you in?' I'm like....:$ .....:D


OH JEEEZ. I must have looked so desperate.

Oh well nevermind!
 
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Just do it

Or you will never know
 
squizza said:
You could always walk in and give her a piece..... of paper with your phone number on? :)
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good idea....but...I think I will try and very causually say, urmmm...what??? i'm stuck!
 
Cobra said:
That'll do it :thumbs: :D
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yeh...but...I must be the only 18 yr old that prefers fruit juice to beer...how many Tropicanas till I get drunk...or will I just thro up! :lol:
 
lawrenceots said:
yeh...but...I must be the only 18 yr old that prefers fruit juice to beer...how many Tropicanas till I get drunk...or will I just thro up! :lol:
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Re-read my quote of yours :D
 
haha never noticed that! What spike her phone with beer! :lol:
 
Theres your chance now to ask him via email

"popped in to work today to see if you fancied going for a drink with me, you where not there and got alot of hassle off the others for being in when not supposed to be blah blah blah so when do you fancy"

easy peasy lol..

spike

met my wife on internet, 10 years ago in the AOL australian chat room( long story) so yes emaisl do work.
 
SpikeK6 said:
Theres your chance now to ask him via email

"popped in to work today to see if you fancied going for a drink with me, you where not there and got alot of hassle off the others for being in when not supposed to be blah blah blah so when do you fancy"

easy peasy lol..

spike

met my wife on internet, 10 years ago in the AOL australian chat room( long story) so yes emaisl do work.
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I can't - he told me the other day his laptop is broken :bang:
 
squizza said:
Of course I haven't! :D Although I did go to work today even though I wasn't rota-ed on (so I could ask him). But he wasn't there. :eek: gutted.
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...imagine if he wasn't there tomorrow...and the day after...and the day after that...or he left for good before you got to ask him ! Do it now before it's too late ! ;)
 
tijuana taxi said:
Someone advised me to ask out all the really stunning ladies because most people wouldn't because they didn't think they had a cat's chance in hell

Got a fair few knockbacks, but one gorgeous lady who accepted did mention that she wondered what was wrong that nobody actually asked her out

Married now for twenty two years and daughter of nearly 19, so go for it and ask
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"you ever walk down the street and see a stunning lady with a pig ugly boyfriend? You too can be that boyfriend!!!"

Was a mantra that me a few mates went with when I was younger, works every now and again!
 
squizza said:
I can't - he told me the other day his laptop is broken :bang:
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Sounds like he's trying to put you off contacting him... ;) ....

Just bloody say to him in your best Nat King Cole accent . :suspect: :D . :shrug:

' Oi' ... chef man You gonna take me out or what? cos if you don't Im gonna get those 'effin' Jamie Oliver DVD's and find out what a proper chef is all about! ... :D
 
SpikeK6 said:
Theres your chance now to ask him via email

"popped in to work today to see if you fancied going for a drink with me, you where not there and got alot of hassle off the others for being in when not supposed to be blah blah blah so when do you fancy"

easy peasy lol..

spike

met my wife on internet, 10 years ago in the AOL australian chat room( long story) so yes emaisl do work.
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Better still - give us his email address and we'll ask for you.............:lol:
 
Sarah Im free, picked up a few bad habits since the divorce. I dont have the house now my hair is all about gone. Im on 1st names terms with the CSA. The ex has me on speed dial when her account goes empty.
The only thing I have left is the camera and I need a pre-nupt for that.
If you can cook anything better than Asda pot noodles, Know how to get a washer to work on ALDI washing up liquid (38p bottles). Can explain why you need to open the curtains every morning , when you have to waste time and close them the same night.
Im on the market girl....Guaranteed yes here. Call me !
 
Next time you see this guy at work, go out in your lunch break and buy yourself 2 sets of sexy lingerie. When you get back go in to the kitchen and show him what you've bought and ask him which set he'd like to see on his bedroom floor in the morning. If he wasn't interested in you before then i'm sure he'd soon change his mind. :thumbs:
 
-Rob- said:
Next time you see this guy at work, go out in your lunch break and buy yourself 2 sets of sexy lingerie. When you get back go in to the kitchen and show him what you've bought and ask him which set he'd like to see on his bedroom floor in the morning. If he wasn't interested in you before then i'm sure he'd soon change his mind. :thumbs:
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Classy :cuckoo:

Sarah - you are probably making it a bigger deal than it has to be (like going in on your day off) - is there any time at work where you would just be naturally chatting that you could ask him rather than making it a nerve-wracking kind of "willyougooutwithmeplease?" moment?

Like (other)-Sarah said - you don't have to phrase it like it is a date. More of a "I fancy doing *whatever* - would you like to come too?". Much less threatening for him if he is insecure. If you make it a big deal he might get the fear and blurt out "no" without really meaning it.
 
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