What Is Love To You? (I am curious)

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I wish to know what love means to others...what they think it should be about and how they would define it...bet this question is too mushy to get much response, but I can hope... :p:D
 
Love, to me, is a mutual feeling of completeness, happiness, security, trust, respect and togetherness (particularly when apart), and is something wonderful to behold. It is, of course, to be treasured and nurtured.
 
Love is, I think, bloody hard to define and it manifests itself in so many ways - the love you have for your partner, your children, your family, your friends.

However you do know when you have love for someone but to encapsulate those feelings and emotions in words would never do it justice I think.

Perhaps some of the great poets and lyricists and authors have come close but it's such an individual and personal emotion that even those wordsmiths will only represent their own views and experiences.

If its there you know it and its good :D
 
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If its there you know it and its good :D
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On a more serious note I think that just about sums it up but I would add that if you lose it (for whatever reason) it's bad.
 
Getting to your silver wedding anniversary (September for Mrs F and I) and feeling that the wedding really does only seem like yesterday.
 
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Getting to your silver wedding anniversary (September for Mrs F and I) and feeling that the wedding really does only seem like yesterday.
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How does one make something endure that long, though?
So many marry etc, then it all just fades away and becomes stale, or one or other of the partners gets bored etc. How does one maintain it once the initial passion has gone away (the honeymoon period or somesuch I think it is called). I am curious.
 
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How does one make something endure that long, though?
So many marry etc, then it all just fades away and becomes stale, or one or other of the partners gets bored etc. How does one maintain it once the initial passion has gone away (the honeymoon period or somesuch I think it is called). I am curious.
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The honeymoon period is heavenly, but is only 'for Christmas' :). I can only say this from my own experience, but you just work at it. You grow together, find new interests, and always look now, and slightly ahead. And keep friends and interests of your own too :)
 
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How does one make something endure that long, though?
So many marry etc, then it all just fades away and becomes stale, or one or other of the partners gets bored etc. How does one maintain it once the initial passion has gone away (the honeymoon period or somesuch I think it is called). I am curious.
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I've no simple answer to that one I'm afraid, I guess I have just been kind of lucky to find my soulmate. We met as students and have been together pretty much constantly ever since. We have even worked together for about 20 of those 25 years so have literally been together 24/7 for most of that time and have rarely fallen out. She's my best friend by far and I feel truly blessed. I couldn't begin to explain how or why though... sorry! :thinking:
 
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How does one make something endure that long, though?
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I think getting married for the 'right' reasons help (whatever they may be) and then cherishing each other and your relationship, being kind to each other - quite ordinary things, really. And relationships change over the years - not necessarily for the worse, just different. On Tuesday it will be 41years since Mr JG was brave enough to take me on and I can't imagine what my life would be like without him. :love: I'm one very lucky lady.
 
Heh, thanks for your answers to this, I have always had lots of questions about love in mah head lol.
 
jeangenie said:
I think getting married for the 'right' reasons help (whatever they may be) and then cherishing each other and your relationship, being kind to each other - quite ordinary things, really. And relationships change over the years - not necessarily for the worse, just different. On Tuesday it will be 41years since Mr JG was brave enough to take me on and I can't imagine what my life would be like without him. :love: I'm one very lucky lady.
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^^^
That is true love :love:
 
Love is letting your partner spend some of HIS hard earned wages on camera gear.

My Mrs clearly hates me then :D :nuts:
 
It's our genes' off-switch for our self-preservation instincts.

Possibly not the kind of answer you were looking for but this thread is too mushy anyway...
 
Anything I can get a buzz off.

I would agree with Marky H's definition, but It's unrealistic to me.
 
The OED and wikipedia, both say it's ineffable (beyond description either quantitative or qualitative), and I agree. I could describe the situations and feelings paired off that I relate to love but not love itself.


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It's our genes' off-switch for our self-preservation instincts.

Possibly not the kind of answer you were looking for but this thread is too mushy anyway...
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That's not all of it, but if you find someone you truly love, you probably will put yourself in situations of extreme danger for them, and I don't mean the mushy "love actually" love, I mean very close friends, people who are as much a part of you and your life as you are.
 
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Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not its own, is not provoked, taketh not account of evil; rejoiceth not in unrighteousness, but rejoiceth with the truth; beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

;)
 
I saw a TV program years ago that kind of explained love scientifically. It was a while ago so i can't remember much of it, but there are certain chemicals in the brain triggered by long term love relationships which is different to the 'love' (infatuation) of short term relationships. These chemicals form an emotional attachment to a specific person.

Also look up the words: agape, eros, phillia.
 
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