What does your partner think

droj said:
But you do have the living memories - though admittedly photos can illuminate those.
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Decades ago, I went to a talk by a famous mountaineer (I think it was Doug Scott, who rather hilariously lost his way while coming to the venue and was late).

He explained that he had stopped taking photographs, because rather than them triggering memories of the experience they began to replace it..
 
myotis said:
Decades ago, I went to a talk by a famous mountaineer (I think it was Doug Scott, who rather hilariously lost his way while coming to the venue and was late).

He explained that he had stopped taking photographs, because rather than them triggering memories of the experience they began to replace it..
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I can understand that viewpoint, but each of us can strike our own balance, and I rather think that when the photos are of people and those close to us in particular, photos are hardly capable of eclipsing actual memories - but can act as triggers or aides memoire.
 
droj said:
I can understand that viewpoint, but each of us can strike our own balance, and I rather think that when the photos are of people and those close to us in particular, photos are hardly capable of eclipsing actual memories - but can act as triggers or aides memoire.
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Good point In my case, in terms of landscape, I think I remember what prompted me to take the photograph, and relive the experience.
 
myotis said:
Good point In my case, in terms of landscape, I think I remember what prompted me to take the photograph, and relive the experience.
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For me it may be less true in the case of landscapes - a photo is so extractive! Yes, I can see in such a photo what led me to make the extraction, and re-live that to some extent in a visual sense, but lost for ever are the feel of the air, the bodily discomforts, and the whole contextual immediacy. Which doesn't invalidate the photos, far from it. They'd be meaningless to others who weren't there, otherwise. And they can still stand years afterwards as encapsulations of experience that can communicate.
 
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My husband's eyes glaze over if I talk about photography :ROFLMAO: However he is really happy that I have things I love doing, and is content to sit playing chess whilst I wait for the birds when we're on holiday. At home he's too much of an action man to sit around. He has a far better eye for a photograph than I do and takes loads with his phone. I value his opinion when choosing images or editing.
 
Bebop said:
My husband's eyes glaze over if I talk about photography :ROFLMAO: However he is really happy that I have things I love doing, and is content to sit playing chess whilst I wait for the birds when we're on holiday. At home he's too much of an action man to sit around. He has a far better eye for a photograph than I do and takes loads with his phone. I value his opinion when choosing images or editing.
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There should be an emoticon for empathy ...
 
droj said:
For me it may be less true in the case of landscapes - a photo is so extractive! Yes, I can see in such a photo what led me to make the extraction, and re-live that to some extent in a visual sense, but lost for ever are the feel of the air, the bodily discomforts, and the whole contextual immediacy. Which doesn't invalidate the photos, far from it. They'd be meaningless to others who weren't there, otherwise. And they can still stand years afterwards as encapsulations of experience that can communicate.
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Interesting observation and opens up a whole new discussion, which is off topic, and needs me to think harder than I am capable of at the moment
 
I was widowed at 30 almost six years ago and haven’t had the courage to wade into the dating pool, but, my late husband fed my passion quite passionately. He gifted me the lens I used the most after confiding in his co-worker for one that suited my needs best. Still my favorite lens for my D3200.

He got into it photography a bit heavier when he and I got together. He preferred to photograph just cars at our local meets (and me whether I was aware or not ).

After being widowed I moved back home where my Mom & Dad became very supportive of my hobby photographer and always “clapped” for me whenever I shared my captures. It was an outlet for my grief. My Dad was a hobby photographer himself, but was quite serious for awhile when he was younger. He would give me the positive criticism to improve if he felt it was needed.
 
sullivan.k said:
I was widowed at 30 almost six years ago and haven’t had the courage to wade into the dating pool, but, my late husband fed my passion quite passionately. He gifted me the lens I used the most after confiding in his co-worker for one that suited my needs best. Still my favorite lens for my D3200.

He got into it photography a bit heavier when he and I got together. He preferred to photograph just cars at our local meets (and me whether I was aware or not ).

After being widowed I moved back home where my Mom & Dad became very supportive of my hobby photographer and always “clapped” for me whenever I shared my captures. It was an outlet for my grief. My Dad was a hobby photographer himself, but was quite serious for awhile when he was younger. He would give me the positive criticism to improve if he felt it was needed.
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Thanks for sharing this.
 
sullivan.k said:
I was widowed at 30 almost six years ago and haven’t had the courage to wade into the dating pool, but, my late husband fed my passion quite passionately. He gifted me the lens I used the most after confiding in his co-worker for one that suited my needs best. Still my favorite lens for my D3200.

He got into it photography a bit heavier when he and I got together. He preferred to photograph just cars at our local meets (and me whether I was aware or not ).

After being widowed I moved back home where my Mom & Dad became very supportive of my hobby photographer and always “clapped” for me whenever I shared my captures. It was an outlet for my grief. My Dad was a hobby photographer himself, but was quite serious for awhile when he was younger. He would give me the positive criticism to improve if he felt it was needed.
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.... That is young to be widowed and I wish you extra happiness in the knowledge that you are taking photographs in memory of what you shared together as well as now for yourself [I hope my words make sense!].

You don't need to seek another partner ~ Let Love come to you organically if it is going to and if not, so what.
 
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No interested, unless it's a cat, frog, or something wriggly.
 
He likes my photos, even has some of them displayed on a digital photo frame and he always says he loves smartshow 3d videos with his photos I make for his birthdays and Valentines day. However, it's not like he has a choice, so... :ROFLMAO:
Seriously, though, he is interested in photography himself, so I think his opinion is pretty balanced. If there is something he'd do differently, he'll mention that.
 
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What does my wife think? How the heck should I know ... she's a woman :runaway:

Aside from always wanting to see the end results immediately (if not sooner) when we're on holiday she is positively encouraging ... but that be just to get me out of the house for the day :D
 
I sometimes do some work for her, so I think she appreciates my photography. Plus she suggested I had some photos printed up to hang on the wall...
 
Pound Coin said:
I sometimes do some work for her, so I think she appreciates my photography. Plus she suggested I had some photos printed up to hang on the wall...
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.... When a woman suggests some of your pictures are hung on the wall of your home, then she most definitely more than appreciates your photography!
 
On that note, we came across some of my own prints made 88-93ish a few weeks back, and my wife has got frames and mounted them yesterday. They're coming to the French house in a few weeks.
 
RedRobin said:
.... When a woman suggests some of your pictures are hung on the wall of your home, then she most definitely more than appreciates your photography!
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Reminds me of an ex some years back who had no interest in photography before she met me. I used to take a lot of flower shots and on seeing them she picked some and asked for prints and she had them framed and mounted on the wall down the stairs. Her place was fantastic, just full of designer this and that and artwork and really did look like something out of a magazine so this compliment stayed with me.

She was obsessed with phones and always had one in her hand but I don't think I ever saw her take a picture with it, talking and messaging was her thing, constantly.
 
Nostromo said:
As the title says really, what does your partner think of your photography, do they like it, not like it or are indifferent to it?
My wife likes the odd one or two of my photos. But generally, she doesn't really "get" my photos. Still life just doesn't do it for her, but 2 of my landscape photos, which are ok, nothing special and certainly not in the caliber of dedicated landscape photographers, she wants to have printed on canvas and hung on the wall.
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My wife's indifferent, she likes photos of our dog but she 'feigns' interest for everything else. She also get's (jokingly) frustrated if I take too many, or take too long taking photos whilst we're out :LOL:
 
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My wife likes some of my images, but doesn't see the point in my sports photos. She does appreciate that we have plenty of great photos of the kids, and holidays we've been on.
 
My wife likes to take an interest in my photography, personal stuff and the sports work I do.
We've just converted a big bedroom into a double office as we both work from home in our day jobs, and she has suggested going through some of my shots to print and hang on the office wall.

Luckily for me, while she knows how much I spend on kit, she keeps quiet about it. :ROFLMAO:
 
Hanley said:
My wife likes to take an interest in my photography, personal stuff and the sports work I do.
We've just converted a big bedroom into a double office as we both work from home in our day jobs, and she has suggested going through some of my shots to print and hang on the office wall.

Luckily for me, while she knows how much I spend on kit, she keeps quiet about it. :ROFLMAO:
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.... In my opinion, you married a good 'un! Too many people in this thread whose wives/partners aren't interested in what their partners love doing ~ That's a major red flag!

Your information about what partners know how much is spent on kit leads nicely into all the YouTube videos answering that question ~ Most of them don't have a clue and are shocked at the revelation.
 
RedRobin said:
.... In my opinion, you married a good 'un! Too many people in this thread whose wives/partners aren't interested in what their partners love doing ~ That's a major red flag!
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I disagree whole heartedly. I have an amazing supportive wife, she's just not interested in photography. She supports me in it, happy for me to go to events, spend money on gear etc but she's not interested in it herself and she's not bothered about seeing my photos of F1 cars, Motorbikes etc. We don't all have to be interested in the same thing to have a happy relationship and it's certainly not a red flag imo (y)
 
snerkler said:
I disagree whole heartedly. I have an amazing supportive wife, she's just not interested in photography. She supports me in it, happy for me to go to events, spend money on gear etc but she's not interested in it herself and she's not bothered about seeing my photos of F1 cars, Motorbikes etc. We don't all have to be interested in the same thing to have a happy relationship and it's certainly not a red flag imo (y)
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.... True, and it's good to hear (for your sake) but I was responding to the words and tone of your post # 59. No problem ~ We are all here merely expressing our own opinions :)
 
RedRobin said:
.... True, and it's good to hear (for your sake) but I was responding to the words and tone of your post # 59. No problem ~ We are all here merely expressing our own opinions :)
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No worries, I understand how you came to that conclusion but my comments were meant to be light hearted (y)
 
My better half is my best critic, demanding……..but she is also a good Sherpa when it comes to carrying gear- I had to switch from canon to Olympus just to save her back
 
My wife often says it feels like we've been on different holidays when we get back.

Not because we spend time apart, but because I see things she doesn't and she doesn't recognise the place from the photos.

I certainly don't have unlimited budget or acceptance though and will always run any big purchases past her.

She also often says 'I'd like that framed' - but it tends to be of pics that I don't rate that highly.
 
For 50 Years, my wife's function has been to remind me that there is at least one person, who takes more interesting pictures than me with a great deal less effort...

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She thinks I should focus on mortgage overpayments. End of.

And no different to my guns, knives, watches, I tend to find myself agreeing. The camera changes how I take photographs, but not necessarily the quality, given the medium through which I enjoy them. This forum being a prime example. So perhaps money could be better spend elsewhere. Perhaps if I was printing them in A2 she and I would have a different opinion on the merit of expensive gear.
 
Interesting to see how many people are saying their partners don't like the B&W images posted.
Although I have to say monochrome dull images do leave a lot to be desired. Really black and white should be quite dramatic and punchy but it's all personal preference of course.
 
I get the feeling my wife humours me rather than appreciates what I do. When we're out and about she likes to take pics on her 'phone ( Flowers and plants mainly). the quality of her pics has improved no end compositionaly and choosing good light...I like to think that's my influence, I certainly don't advise her.

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My partner is neutral about my interest in photography. He doesn’t share the passion, but he respects it and doesn’t interfere with my hobby.
 
Upostaing said:
My partner is neutral about my interest in photography. He doesn’t share the passion, but he respects it and doesn’t interfere with my hobby.
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Graham W said:
That's about as much as you can ask! (y)
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.... Hmm, IMO that's a minimum. I want a partner, even a girlfriend, to share more enthusiasm as indeed even my ex-wife does. But you wouldn't want them to fake it.
 
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