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Ok, about 3 months ago I agreed (against my better judgement) to go on a camping holiday in a Yurt (Mongolian canvas hut type thing) with my Wife and two kids.

The idea seemed fine at the time but then a couple of weeks ago with no consultation..... My wife invited MY MOTHER IN LAW to joins us....

Five of us in a tent, all booked for next weekend - yup the one with the thunderstorms predicted. Ok, you've had your laugh but.....

Basically me, the wife, the kids and the mother in law in a glorified garden shed for three nights wife nought but rain forecast.

Needless to say I want out. But I know full well my wife will be upset and pretty cross if I duck out leaving her to deal with the kids for the weekend.

So on one hand I want out, on the other I don't want to upset someone I love..... Help !
 
Send the kids with ma in law, quality time with gran/grandkids etc etc and take the missus out somewhere nice that you will enjoy too

One question, what was she thinking inviting her ma along?
 
I would really, really poorly for days before....
 
No way would you get me to spend a full weekend with the out-laws. One weekend with the battleaxe and the Yurt would have a nice new patio laid outside it, with said battleaxe buried beneath it.

Be a man, do the right thing, pull a sicky at the last minute and treat yourself to some 'me' time this weekend.
 
You gotta suck it up!


Take a few bottles of wine, maybe some vodka and gin, and get the old lady sozzled. That way you can all go out and leave her in bed to recover.

Failing that, take the camera, get up early to avoid her, and find somewhere good for sunsets that you can take the misses too, letting the MIL deal with the kids.

What area are you going to, fnd some good things to do so your not stuck in the shed.

And always use the "I thought you would like to spend as much time with your grandkids" card whenever you want to get some time off.
 
Eat loads of chilli & beans the day before before going into the Yurt. That'll get rid of her pronto!! :gag:
 
Phone up Buck Palace & mutter something about weddings & bombs.....


That should get you away from the family for a while :D
 
Simple answer...

Tell your wife that it's a four person holiday; ie either the MIL or you don't go.
 
This is the point in life when you don't mind eating a bit of raw chicken...


What do you do for a living if you don't mind me asking? :)
 
DON'T BE A WIMP!
Think of it as one of those character-building exercises like Ten Tors, Outward Bound and things like that.
 
How about, being a man. Takeing it on the chin, and the old british stiff upper lip.

Fancy a grown man, being afraid of a mere women:D:D
 
nothing for it..........trash your camera and cancel the trip

or fix the MIL up with a brute of a Mongol caravan driver...she may be thanking YOU for the trip...:lol:

sorry misread ...so it's in the UK.......oh dear..!!
 
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Seriously, if you love your wife then you should be honest with her and tell her exactly what you feel/think about this.
 
Ask why your wife decided to invite your MIL in the first place without asking you if it would be ok.
Unless the wife has some alteria motive, like MIL looks after kids to give you and her some quality time alone, then I would be making a fuss and asking why.

another way to look at it is, it seems your wife can please herself when making decisions so you do the same and invite yourself on a weekend of wife MIL and kid free weekend

spike
 
Tell your wife what a wonderful mother she has and you're starting to have 'feelings' for her.
 
Serious browny points I'd say,on the other hand I too would be a tad peeved if my wife had organised this without mentioning it to me .
 
I wouldn't bank on brownie points. In my experience they seldom get cashed in for what they're actually worth.

I'd ask her why she invited her mum and explain that you were looking forward to a nice close family weekend with your wife and kids and you feel that's not the case now. Is there any chance of her uninviting her mum?

Alternatively, you have feelings for her and three nights in a tent might just push you over the edge!!
 
Thinking about it, gotta be a new lens/body/accessory in this if you play it right!
 
I sat down and had a chat with her last night and she basically said that in order of prefernce:

1) I go along and enjoy myself
2) I stay at home
3) I go along and get stressed/**** everyone else off/aren't happy

Given that there is no way of guaranteeing 1 and that 3 is the worst possible outcome then 2 is the sensible option. I can't just go along and leave as she needs the car to get home again after the weekend. Yes she is miffed that I have left it so late, but this has been brewing and it had to come out now.

So my plan is to stay at home and make sure that I spoil her when she gets back. Get some jobs done, and also give her three envelopes (Cilla Black stylee) with a holiday choice in each - ones that don't involve the mother in law staying in the same room !
 
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