David, there is only you insisting that all customers require raw files and copyright, all other non pro photographers gave up the argument when they realised we were actually giving customers reasonable rights to their images, transfer of copyright is not an issue in the normal relationship between wedding photographer and customer. Transfer of copyright is normal behaviour for commercial customers who understand processing licensing and archiving. The general public don't and therefore it's a mistake to treat them as if they do. If my next wedding customer is a photographer who wants to look after all of the above and wants me to hand over files I'd be happy to oblige, but let's not pretend that it's normal.
actually I've not insisted at all that customers should have the raws at all. I said that for my wedding I bought the copyright and after the wedding I got one dvd with the processed jpegs and one with raws, the latter DVD actually surprised me, I wasn't expecting them but I was pleased to have them as it meant i could play myself if I wanted, which I did.
I did later say that when buying copyright I would be happy with jpegs (and have since been with another bit of pro work I've commissioned) but that I'd like raw's if the tog doesn't mind letting me have them. that's not the same thing as insisting that all customers have them. as you correctly said, most people wouldn't know what to do with them, but they would know what to do with jpegs.
much of the rest of my arguments were trying to give the other side of the coin. I do think that "normal" people think of these things more often that you might think. one of my friends at work just got engaged recently and I was telling her about my experiences getting married. when talking to her about wedding photographs I said that I had bought the copyright for our pictures and she told me that she'd already discussed that with her fiancee. this is my bosses 23yo civil servant secretary, not some nerdy computer geek. Now it may well be that an enlightened tog here would be able to take care of her photography needs without copyright transfer, but it shows that a supposedly "normal" person thinks about these things.
but again, circles here...
david
