Things I wish I had done earlier

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In October last year, we had our first (only) child, and next Thursday we will be getting Married. I couldnt be happier.

Ive been thinking recently, that I really wish that I had done these things earlier on in life. I will be 40 next year, although I know that doesnt exactly mean I am past it. I could never see myself as a Father before, and I think that the longer I lived without having children, the more I assumed it wasnt for me. Last year, my Father even said to me that he never imagined me having children or getting Married o_O

It was only when I saw my Daughter for the first time (and was instantly smitten), that I ever realised what had been missing from my life, and now regret that we didnt have her years ago. Ive told her this, even though im pretty sure she doesnt understand what im saying when we have our little 'chats' in the mornings before I go to work :) So, now im looking forward to the rest of my life with renewed enthusiasm and massive sense of pride.

Anyway, enough of my waffle.

What do you wish that you had done/tried earlier on in life? is there somewhere youve been recently that you wished you had been years ago? Discoveries youve only just made and regret not having it in your life before now?
 
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Awww that's lovely Nick i hope next week goes well and you both have a super day, you better be sharing some wedding shots here with us:D
 
Cg_Girl said:
Awww that's lovely Nick i hope next week goes well and you both have a super day, you better be sharing some wedding shots here with us:D
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Thanks T. Yeah, Ill be posting some shots as soon as possible after the event ;)
 
I regret having three credit cards and an overdraft!
 
I have no regrets as such but wish i had traveled more with my kids.. not on the package holiday type thing but hay ho....
 
I have no regrets at all. I've done plenty good things but I've done some terrible things too, hurt people, abused stuff, done things my way often to the detriment of others. Life's too short for regrets. What you have to do is learn from the things you do either good or bad and take positives out of it, adapt and become a better person.

If I had my time again the only thing I'd change would be I'd have joined the Navy on leaving school instead of getting a trade in the private sector that apart (I'd have me dad back for an hour) - nothing!!
 
I inherited three kids at the age of 42 when I met my (now) wife for the first time. It's such a special feeling when you know you find that last part of the puzzle to make your life complete. My only regret, I wish my accident years ago hadn't left me as disabled as I am because I'd love to be one of those parents who can play football with the kids, go to the park, give them piggybacks and all that sort of stuff.

Nick, I hope you have a wonderful day on Thursday, I hope everything goes as planned and I hope you all have a wonderful life together afterwards. All the best!
 
No point saying you wish you'd done things 10 years ago, what feels right just now. If you had done them 10 years ago, yo might be regretting it now.
Just enjoy what you have and do what you can to keep it :thumbs:
 
Sounds like you're heading in the right direction, Nick. I have two daughters - both i their 20s - and have grown into beautiful young ladies (he says with no small amount of pride). My relationship with both of them is now completely different from when they were babies, of course, and completely different with each one - which is fabulous because I have two different friends now; that seems to be what they've become. I truly cherish the time I spend with them, and it sounds like you're heading the same way.

Enjoy it - they'll break your heart, wind you up, drive you nuts, and make you immensely proud and happy in roughly equal amounts, I would say :) Oh - and they grow up ridiculously quickly!!!

Regrets? I went to Australia last summer and wish I'd done it 30 years ago and would've probably emigrated, but I don't beat myself up about that - I enjoy my life (mostly) and am by and large content.
 
There are many things that have happened in my life that I rather had not. But I think all combine to make me the person I am.

I am of the opinion that regret is simply wasted energy. Forward is the only way to look.
 
Nikon_Nick said:
In October last year, we had our first (only) child, and next Thursday we will be getting Married. I couldnt be happier.
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Many congrats Nick :thumbs:

In answer to your question :-
♪ ♪Regrets, I've had a few
But then again, too few to mention ♪♪
:D
(well someone was bound to say it :D)
 
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I wish we'd tried for kids sooner. Now we may not be able to due to my cancer treatment. Chemotherapy may have left me infertile and as my cancer was hormone receptive I have to take pills to suppress oestrogen. I will have to come off them early (at a risk of the cancer returning) to have any chance of having kids. Massive regret.
 
viv1969 said:
There are many things that have happened in my life that I rather had not. But I think all combine to make me the person I am.

I am of the opinion that regret is simply wasted energy. Forward is the only way to look.
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That

There's things I've said and done that I'd rather I had not, there's opportunities I've turned down that may be I should have followed through , but shoulda woulda coulda is a waste of time and energy, its what happens tomorrow that's important not what happened yesterday
 
Thanks all for your replies and kind/wise words.

I suppose 'regret' is a strong word really. I reflect on how happy I am now and how complete my life is, and just wish I had done it earlier, just so that I could have had the feeling for longer :D
 
Daysleeper40 said:
I wish we'd tried for kids sooner. Now we may not be able to due to my cancer treatment. Chemotherapy may have left me infertile and as my cancer was hormone receptive I have to take pills to suppress oestrogen. I will have to come off them early (at a risk of the cancer returning) to have any chance of having kids. Massive regret.
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Sorry to hear that Fi, but I guess the upside is that you are still here to tell us about it. I hope everything works out positively for you.

All the best

Nick
 
I have always had a no regrets policy.

something that does torture me even 3 years on is the shopping over running one friday evening so I missed nipping round to see my Mum, on the sunday she collapsed and died in the ambulance on the way to hospital.

I wish I had the friday again, I mean I wish I had my Mum back.... you know what I mean.
 
I know exactly what you mean, David. I would give anything to have Mum and/or Dad back.

The only real regret I have is not taking my bike test earlier - then again, had I had a full bike license in my late teens and early 20s I would probably have stuffed myself! Waiting until my mid/late 20s did mean that a certain amount of road sense had been learned (and going to a few funerals of those who didn't make it probably slowed me down too.)
 
I've got quite a few regrets mainly about things I did not do. They don't affect me as such but I do have them.

I won't mention most, but some easy things are I wish I'd travelled more before I settled into a serious job, family, children and a mortgage (I did do a year but would like to have done more), and I wished I'd looked into what I needed more at school to become a Vet, which I really wanted to do, which might have enabled me to travel more. I made a decision on my GCSEs at age 13 or 14 which affected my whole career choice. Of course had I done this I might not have met my wife, had my kids etc, who knows.
 
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