struggling.........

Hang in there mate.
Dean:)
 
I'm so so sorry for your loss Ally. The loss of a parent is hard for anyone to come to terms with.

If you need an ear to bash, feel free to contact me through any of the usual channels.
 
Ally im sorry to hear this mate, do you have someone local to you you can go and see and chat with? your not alone are you
 
Matty's right. The best thing you can do is surround yourself with family and friends. Talking about it is the best way. Don't bottle it up. When my dad died when I was 20, I found it helped just talking about things, waffling on even.

Don't forget you've got a load of friendly ears here.
 
Really sorry to hear that Ally, my condolences to you and your family
 
Oh Ally :hug: I am so sorry to hear that. My heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your family. It is going to take a long time for you to come terms with something like this. Sometimes months, even years, so take it easy on yourself, as Marcel said, don't bottle things up, and remember, we are here for you if you need a shoulder to cry on or just a chat :hug:
 
Terrible news.

My thoughts are with you and yours.
 
Ally, you wouldn't be human if you weren't struggling at a time like this. I know it's a cliche, but it's true - only time will ease the pain. Be the strong person your mom would want you to be. ;)
 
Terrible news Ally, my thoughts are with you.
 
I am really sorry to hear this Ally my thoughts are with you and yours.
As has been said already we are a friendly bunch and anyone of us will be
willing to listen in this difficult time
Sincere Condolences
 
So sorry to hear that sad news. My thoughts are with you and the rest of your family. No words can ease the pain - only time can do that!
 
So sorry to hear this, try to keep your chin up and like others have said talk to friends and family.
 
**** m8, that is really tough, I hope that you have family to be with at a time like this..my thoughts are with you Alistair.
 
As a good friend said to me on several occasions, I am beaming some thoughts in your direction. Sorry for your loss Ally, words are never enough at these times but you do have a lot of friends here.
 
Thank you everyone, I really appricate everything. I have my dad here with me but I don't think it has hit him yet. We have had sevral visiters to the house. One of my friends brought up dinner for us and some more of my friends came down and took me out of the house tonight for a drive. I'm still finding it hard, I saw a pear of my mums shoes at the side of the bed ready for her just to come out and into them, that hit me :'(
 
So sorry to hear of your loss Ally, can't imagine what you must be going through. As everyone has said, be strong & make sure you surround yourself with friends & family, that's what they're there for in such difficult times.
 
Oh, Ally, I am so sorry to hear about your Mum. I just want to echo what everyone above has said.

Your Dad will need you when it does hit him, so try and get some of it out of your system now and then you might find the strength to support him.
 
So, so sorry, Ally. Nothing can be said to make it any better for you at the moment.

We are ALL here for you, any time, to talk.....and I know we are ALL thinking of you and your dad.
 
My condolences. :(

Grieve. Let it out.

Our thoughts are with you.
 
My sincere condolences..... never an easy time. And you're right to struggle, you've just proved how much you all meant to each other. There are plenty of us here to talk and listen.
 
Oh Ally, you have my most heartfelt sympathy :hug:

Everything everyone has already said is true ... and we are all here any time you feel a need to reach out.

Stay strong we're thinking of you :hug:
 
Ally that's terrible news, I'm so sorry hon. The death of a loved one is one of the hardest things a person lives through... be strong (((hugs))).

Jo
xxx
 
Shocking news Ally ... :shrug: ... even more so because you were there and tried your best ... take some comfort in that at least !

It is hard right now but it will get better ... time is the only real healer in these circumstances.

Just know you are in all our thoughts right now and if there is anything anyone of us can do for you just shout up ... we'll do our best ... ;)

Rog...:p
 
As LadyLens says, allow yourself to grieve - let the tears flow, 'cos bottling them up is no good.
When my father died,( a few months after my sister had died..) my mum and I both fell apart, and I remember us lying on the floor, in each others arms sobbing our hearts out for what seemed like hours. It hurt so much, but was so good to let it out, and after that, we drank way too much wine and talked about some of the good times, and it was like a major hurdle had been put behind us. It also helped me and my Mum get to know each other better...
X
 
How awful - my condolences to you and your family. As everyone has said - time is the greatest healer and so is talking - don't bottle it up. Sounds like you've got some great friends as well - don't be afraid to ask for help.
 
Condolences.
Take time to recover.
 
:( Really sorry to hear this mate, i'm sure you did everything you could. I've never really been in this situation yet of losing a loved one and I'm sure its the hardest thing ever to come to terms with. Try and keep your chin up, but if you just want to let it all out....just do it let it go.
If you need to bend an ear you can get in touch anytime. As I've said I'm no expert, so not sure whether its best to occupy yourself with other things or try and remember some nice happy times you had with your mum and family? :)
 
My deepest Sympathies to you and your family. Its never easy losing a loved one butas people say, time is the best healer.
 
Ally, my thoughts are with you, your Dad and all your family at this terribly sad and difficult time.
Kx
 
I'm sorry to here this Ally. Please as has been said before, just let yourself feel the emotions even the ones that seem out of place, like anger. It is ok and normal. Hold your Dad close and lean on each other for support. My thoughts are with you.
 
Sorry to hear about your bad new Ally. My mum died around 8 years ago and I was there at the end. I found it helped to have family & friends around at the time. I also felt it helped to keep busy (there was so much to do after the event). I know some of what you are going through and my sympathies are with you. It does get easier to cope with as time goes by. Best wishes to you.
 
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