It's not an unreasonable suggestion. Sony manuals are generally rubbish, but are notably awful when it comes to flash.
The 43 does support ratio control on the higher end bodies, but it needs to be used as the controller (on cam or on a TTL cable/shoe). The settings are made on the flash itself, rather than in the camera menu,
On the a57, you have no direct control of the popup power, other than the usual flash compensation. Actually, even that shouldn't affect the popup power as its in "controller mode" and should presumably be at a fixed power (enough to reach a reasonable distance in a range of ambient conditions).
The key to keeping the impact of the popup at a minimum is setting up so that the remote flash is firing at a decent power level. Wide apertures, coupled with high ISO, can mean that the remote is firing at or near its minimum power. Hence the tiny contribution from the popup is proportionally greater and starts to be visible. Stop down a bit and shoot at ISO 100-200 and the remote flash needs to work harder. The popup command flash stays the same, so the net effect is it forms a smaller part of the total light...and becomes less visible.
Does that make sense? It's late, and I have had a few! :-/