Right...
It's actually much easier to do than to explain but let's have a go.
1. Your camera must be set to manual, not to any of the programme modes.
2. Set your shutter speed to 1/125th and set the ISO as low as it will go.
3. Set your lens aperture to f/8
4. Using just 1 light with softbox fitted, set the power on that light to full
5. Place that light wherever you want, but a good starting point is immediately in front of the camera and fairly high. This will create shadows on the faces that are in a fairly pleasing place, and shadows from the subject on the background will be low and probably hidden behind the subject. If you want the shadows to be softer, move the light closer to the subject. If you want the shadows to be harder, move the light further away from the subject
6. Take a test shot.
7. If the picture is too dark, change the aperture to f/5.6, as a starting point. If it is too light, change the aperture to f/11 as a starting point. If it is still too light, turn the power of the flash head down a bit - all adjustments to the brightness are carried out by adjusting the lens aperture and the flash power.
8. If you can't control the shadows as much as you would like, add a second light. Place it immediately behind the camera and fairly low down. Adjust the power of the light to give the effect you want.
That's about it really, and it should give you a good starting point, then all that you need to do is to practice and experiment.
Important safety warning: Never leave the lights on if you are not in the room.