Let's see if we can clear this up.
You mention distortion, but it's nothing to do with the lens and everything to do with the perspective, i.e. the subject distance.
Here's a thought experiment to illustrate it. If you want to shoot someone with an ultra-wide lens, you'll need to have the camera very close in order to frame the shot properly. But that makes the distance to the nose quite a lot less than the distance to the eyes, proportionately speaking, so the nose looks too big. (For example if the nose protrudes 10cm in front if the eyes and the camera is 50cm away, then the eyes will be 20% further away and so the nose will seem 20% too big.) I'm sure you've seen that effect, and this is what causes it.
If your lens is too long, you have the opposite effect. You have to be a long way away to frame the shot, so the facial features appear flattened because they are all at very similar distances from the camera. This effect isn't so noticeable though.
So it's the distance to the subject which matters. If you liked using 85mm on film, then on a crop-sensor DSLR you should use a lens around 55mm so you're still the same distance away.