Our Promiscuous World

As a parent of an 11 year old son - would I let him? Yes. Rather in the warmth and safety of his own place than some cheap hotel like I used to have to... or risk it on the g/f parents living room floor/sofa. You are kidding yourself if they are not going to try and find other ways to do it. I would not have a problem with a long term g/f in a stable relationship - but not with him bringing home a different girl each weekend. the same would apply to a daughter (if I had one).

Safe sex at home, in a loving, stable realationship is ok.

I just don't want to hear any noises if I am in the house!!!!
 
evotwo said:
... would you let your son daughter of 17 sleep with a boyfriend/girlfriend of 4 months under your roof?
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Hell yes ... although your wording makes it sound like she's going out with a baby.
Mind you that's in theory. (I don't have daughters)
I consider 17-year-olds to be adults with all the responsibilities that carries ... plus the sheer idiocy of teenagerism.
The government and the telly calling them 'children' is just ingrained stupidity left over from the 19th/20th century.
 
As the mother of five child four being daughters I have had to face this situation several times :)
Daughter one, now 24 with children of her own, was NOT allowed boyfriends up to the bedroom for sleep overs - woud have been difficult as she shared with her three sisters. However, when she was going out etc .. her boyfriend was allowed to sleep over, he had sofa and I have no doubt she went down to him .. so I was blissfully unaware.

Daughter two at 17 had steady boyfriend, again not allowed in the bedroom - however, again difficult as she was sharing with 2-3 sisters. She did have boyfriend sleep over and she would stop downstairs with him. Yes I knew they were sexually active ... its sex its not illegal, imoral, dangerous etc ...

Son - had own room having his girlfriend sleep over was less of an issue as he had own bedroom, he has been with same girl since they were 15, they are now 21 and she lives with us. She was not allowed to sleep over in his room on her dads instructions, they respected that and she had the sofa and when dad realised they were 'a couple' he was happier for her to sleep over.

Last two daughters (twins), now 19 both have boyfriends sleep over (how they fit in single beds amaze me) they share a room and I guess have an agreement between themselves with regards to sex.

Am I lacking morals as a parent nope, my children all have repsect for me as I do for them. I really am not fussed over sex in the house, it really is just sex, as said before its not something awful.
 
wisemen said:
Would I let it happen, yes, because I would not be so naive to believe that if I stopped it under my roof that they wouldn't find somewhere else to sneak off to. I know what I was like at that age. At least under my roof I know that they are safe.

Would I be happy about it, no way.
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Exactly this :shrug:
 
My daughter of 24 has been going out with the same nauseating scrote for 7 years and until they are married they will never sleep in the same bed under my roof
 
evotwo said:
aids the independence gene ensuring that they build their own nest to play in :lol: I know that isn't how it is but I know it was one of the factors in me making my move away from home.
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Have to admit that I hadn't actually considered this :clap: And, I live in Spain where it's not unusual to have 30+ year olds living under their parent's roofs :eek:
 
If they're going to bump uglies, they'll bump uglies - with or without your blessing.
 
OP's roof, OP's rules. TBH, I would be discussing it with the young person involved rather than a bunch of randoms on t'interweb!
 
Nod said:
OP's roof, OP's rules. TBH, I would be discussing it with the young person involved rather than a bunch of randoms on t'interweb!
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Have to say i agree with this.

but for what its worth, when i was a kid / teenager i often slept over at friends houses regardless of sex we always slept in the same room. There was never an issue due to the trust we had with our parents. As for boyfriends they slept over in my room, sleeping over doesn't mean sex. That said what the issues with sex between people over the age of consent? If the issue is just other people having sex in the house then you need to talk to your children about etiquette rather than sex, and practice what you preach imo.
 
Having only 1 son, who is now 21 and been living away at Uni & other further education since he was 18 it's not something I really have to worry about. However, he has had 2 different girls stay over, he was in fairly long term relationships with them at the time (the 2nd one was his girlfriend from Uni, so they slept together on a regular basis anyway). He was 18, as was she when the first one stayed the night.

As I don't have a daughter it's hard for me to know how I would feel however, I think a lot of it would be down to how I felt about the boy involved. If he came across a genuine, polite lad I think there would be less resistance as there would to somebody who I had an issue with.

Just as a side note, one of my friends has 2 beautiful daughters, when the eldest was 16 her boyfriend knocked on the door, friend answers and says "Yes ?"

"I'm [name], and I'm her to pick up XX"

The answer was a firm "Not wearing a Man Utd shirt your not!" and he shut the door - I almost fell over laughing. :lol::lol:
 
Samphire said:
As the mother of five child four being daughters I have had to face this situation several times :)
Daughter one, now 24 with children of her own, was NOT allowed boyfriends up to the bedroom for sleep overs - woud have been difficult as she shared with her three sisters. However, when she was going out etc .. her boyfriend was allowed to sleep over, he had sofa and I have no doubt she went down to him .. so I was blissfully unaware.

Daughter two at 17 had steady boyfriend, again not allowed in the bedroom - however, again difficult as she was sharing with 2-3 sisters. She did have boyfriend sleep over and she would stop downstairs with him. Yes I knew they were sexually active ... its sex its not illegal, imoral, dangerous etc ...

Son - had own room having his girlfriend sleep over was less of an issue as he had own bedroom, he has been with same girl since they were 15, they are now 21 and she lives with us. She was not allowed to sleep over in his room on her dads instructions, they respected that and she had the sofa and when dad realised they were 'a couple' he was happier for her to sleep over.

Last two daughters (twins), now 19 both have boyfriends sleep over (how they fit in single beds amaze me) they share a room and I guess have an agreement between themselves with regards to sex.

Am I lacking morals as a parent nope, my children all have repsect for me as I do for them. I really am not fussed over sex in the house, it really is just sex, as said before its not something awful.
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Great attitude... BUT, if thats you in your profile pic I find it hard to believe you have a 24yo?
 
i'd say yes, then present them with condoms in the kitchen. they'll be so embarassed they'll not do anything
 
keirik said:
i'd say yes, then present them with condoms in the kitchen. they'll be so embarassed they'll not do anything
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Or better still be their sex ed teacher and have them sit next to their boyfriend during condom practice lesson .... and hoover over the boyfriends should as he shakes with fear putting the condom on the plastic class penis ..... worked for me ;)

Still not sure my youngest daughter has totally forgiven me for that lesson :)
 
Samphire said:
Or better still be their sex ed teacher and have them sit next to their boyfriend during condom practice lesson .... and hoover over the boyfriends should as he shakes with fear putting the condom on the plastic class penis ..... worked for me ;)

Still not sure my youngest daughter has totally forgiven me for that lesson :)
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MWAHAHAHA! Thats brilliant Wendy! Good work!
 
Samphire said:
Or better still be their sex ed teacher and have them sit next to their boyfriend during condom practice lesson .... and hoover over the boyfriends should as he shakes with fear putting the condom on the plastic class penis ..... worked for me ;)

Still not sure my youngest daughter has totally forgiven me for that lesson :)
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Brilliant :thumbs:

We adults really ARE evil :woot:
 
Samphire said:
Or better still be their sex ed teacher and have them sit next to their boyfriend during condom practice lesson .... and hoover over the boyfriends should as he shakes with fear putting the condom on the plastic class penis ..... worked for me ;)

Still not sure my youngest daughter has totally forgiven me for that lesson :)
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that's so mean its Brilliant :lol: :D :nuts:
 
Separate rooms. Would be too weird for me, it's like when you still stayed at home - your parents didn't have sex. Period.

It's all about respect as far as I'm concerned and there seems to be a lot of kids these days with ZERO respect for adults.

Maybe it's different in Arkansas but there'll be no boom boom under our roof except for us :D I think upbringing has a lot to do with it. 10 minutes watching Jeremy Kyle and it's pretty clear.
 
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