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Wife due in 7 weeks our 1st baby and starting to feel more tired by the minute going to bed earlier and feeling worse every day

Having some mixed dreams

Was you the same at this kind of date before your 1st

Just starting to struggle now

I have been up for 3 days straight before and not felt like this lol

Just wondering if im on my own
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Would appreciate your input guys and even girls lol
 
Which of you is pregnant? :D
 
It was nearly 18 years a go for me and I was working continental shifts so it just happened, wife did all the hard work although it was a long and difficult labour I was exhausted at the end. The hard work starts later.
 
Did not have any issues before the birth. My wife had a lot of sleepless nights. However the first 3 months after birth and when the babies teeth start coming we had a lot of sleepless nights.

It all worth it in the end.

All the best.
 
Alex its normal mate just relax some blokes go through it some dont, do you know yet whether its a girl or boy.........give our best to the missus
 
Dangermouse1964 said:
Alex its normal mate just relax some blokes go through it some dont, do you know yet whether its a girl or boy.........give our best to the missus
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I'm not a bloke ;) But my hubby was exactly the same before our son was born 17 months ago. Just try and relax. It's going to be the best thing that's ever happened to you! :)
 
My daughter just turned 2 on Feb 15th... I tell you what, now she's running, talking, and holds her own bottle it's much much easier... But chasing her in Marks and Spencers is hard as I don't fit through the clothing rails like she does..

Get the bag ready to take into hospital, the day may come sooner than you think.. or possibly later.

nappies, powdered milk (although they do have SMA milk in the hospital they prefer you to bring your own). Sudocrem, clothing for you, the missus and baby.. some snacks. etc etc..

Once your there, and your adrenaline is going you don't feel the tiredness.. It'll hit you when you sit down roughly 6 minutes after everyone is settled :D

Wish you all the best and good luck, you'll be amazed.

PS. Red Bull gives you wings.... either that or the little dose of oxygen did...
 
Keep the car filled with petrol. Fill the panic bag and place it near the front door.

Then give the missus the phone number of the local pub - and get down there to relax.
 
Make your wife breast feed the baby. It's the best start in life and you don't have to get up to feed him/her in the early hours.:D:thumbs:
 
Hey,

congratulations! Babies are born every day so just chill. The best help you can be to your wife is to be calm and supportive. It can be difficult to watch the one you love in pain or discomfort, but the pain is for a purpose and then you will really be a Dad. Enjoy your last nights of sleep. It could be another 18 years before you can truely relax again!!!!!

Do you have photographs of your wife's beautiful shapes? And of your house with only adults shoes? Plenty will change in just a short time and it may well blow your mind!!!!

Good luck, can't wait to see the pics of your new little one!!

(I have four kids......hold on for the ride of your life!!!);)
 
I would say to make sure that you have your own bag to take with you. Obviously camera to be included, but also a good selection of snacks, Red Bull, water etc. The wife still ribs me, but when your up for most of the night, then in to work for 7, then get the call at about half three that she being taken in to hospital straight from the doctors checkup, and then you have to stay up till silly o clock in the morning for the little angel to finally appear, naturally staying awake through the quiet bits (She was induced, so were waiting for a while for the drugs to work), Red Bull will go a long way to stop the ribbing years later when asked about the birth "what do you know, you where asleep!".

The other thing to make sure you have is one of these

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B000056H...de=asn&creative=22206&creativeASIN=B000056HMB

Whether breast or bottle, if you have to feed in the night and one of you wants to stay asleep, this is a godsend. No more trudging downstairs to get milk out of the fridge, boil a kettle and warm a bottle, then change the baby - which means that the baby wakes up a lot, possibly gets dazzled by you turning lights on etc and consequently takes ages to go back to sleep. With this, you put it near to the babys cot. When they wake in the night, you take the bottle out the cooler,put it in the warmer which has a timer so you can work out how long to put it on for, whilst the bottle warms, you change the baby and it will be ready about when your done. And it has a handy little nightlight so you don't have to turn on the "big" light to wake everyone up.

We didn;t have one with the eldest and did with the youngest. Made a massive difference in both them and me getting back to sleep when the wake up in the night.

Now, stop your worrying, you'll be fine, and don't forget to stick up some pics on here.
 
Check the camera is packed, tripod and batteries charged. The maternity unit can look really pretty lit up at night from the outside :thumbs:
 
NigelPaul said:
Make your wife breast feed the baby. It's the best start in life and you don't have to get up to feed him/her in the early hours.:D:thumbs:
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Now this is so true, but dont forget to feed baby during day as you will bond
 
Just try and chill mate - even if you don't think you are - it's probably just a bit of underlying anxiety.

Just for the record - I have a 10 year old daughter, a 2 year old daughter and my wife (who has just waddled past) is due to have our first boy next week - so anytime now !

Hope everything goes well for you - keep us posted.
 
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Forget the nerves, you're about to enter the greatest club in the world, being a parent :)
Three kids, eldest is 10 and I'm still full with amazement and joy every day.

Oh and the wife ain't bad either :lol:

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Just relax and enjoy the last of your quiet time your never going to have that again.

Make sure your at the birth you'll never go through anything that gives you that much satisfaction ever again I cried my eyes out when the daugher was born 22 years ago, once the baby is here your going to have a lifetime of stress and worry, if this is what your like now what you going to be like the first time it has a runny nose or falls over trying to walk??

Don't bother with the bottle warmer I've got a grandson now just over two years old and things have changed all of his bottles were straight out of the fridge and into his mouth they don't heat them any more.

Take as many pictures as you can it's amazing how quickly they change and you only realise that it's happened when you look back at the old snaps.
 
Alex, no two prospective fathers behave/react the same.

Nothing you mention sounds unfamilar to me....

Fear, (acute) anxiety, exhilaration, sleep problems, and more.

I'd like to say it get's better....and I will because it does :thumbs:

But don't expect much sleep.

However, once you see your baby, wow, wow, wow, is all I can say.

Are you alone, nah, mate, you just feel alone...

BTW, hope you're telling your wife how you feel...:thumbs:

Cheers.
 
thanks everyone aprrciate the comments

atleast im not on my own lol

pete she is due the 26th april and sex is unknown

everone say's it's a girl

and the misus is fine although she keep's trying to swipe me , not sure if it is me calling her fat lol , she has the same sense of houmor as me so get away with it easy , she has not put any weight on but the belly is getting big now lol it's all baby weight

so lets see lol
 
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wegotitugetit said:
thanks everyone aprrciate the comments

atleast im not on my own lol

pete she is due the 26th april and sex is unknown

everone say's it's a girl

and the misus is fine although she keep's trying to swipe me , not sure if it is me calling her fat lol , she has the same sense of houmor as me so get away with it easy , she has not put any weight on but the belly is getting big now lol it's all baby weight

so lets see lol
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Wouldn't call any woman fat whilst her hormones are allover the place, they get away with murder!
 
dinners said:
Just try and chill mate - even if you don't think you are - it's probably just a bit of underlying anxiety.

Just for the record - I have a 10 year old daughter, a 2 year old daughter and my wife (who has just waddled past) is due to have our first boy next week - so anytime now !

Hope everything goes well for you - keep us posted.
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Good luck mate - keep us posted :thumbs:

Alex, can't say that I had your problem with my first. Or second!!
But I'll tell you something, don't even try to prepare yourself to be a dad.
It's hard. REAL HARD.
It's the hardest thing anyone can ever do. How I got (well GOING) through it I shall never know.
Jesus H Christ it's so tough mate, I feel as though I'm going to have a nervous breakdown and day now........

:D I'm only joking pal, sorry I couldn't resist!!!!!!!

It's the most wonderful thing you can do mate.
Yes seriously it is tough going, but when the little fella or lass gives you first smile, it's all worth it from then onwards.
And it gets better. The first chuckle, the first steps, the first time he/she says 'dad'.
And it just gets better mate, even after all that!
When you pop to the shops and she says "can I come dad?" or when her mum goes out and she wants to stay indoors and play and mess around with me is amazing. Even when I go fill the car up with fuel, Ruby loves coming with me and paying the ladies (usually!) behind the counter.

Little, silly things, but nonetheless incredible.

Good luck. Welcome to the utterly most amazing world of parenting :clap:
 
perfectly normal, you are aware of a big change in your life & it is playing on your mind as stressful. Been there done it mate all will get back to some sort of normality soon enough. Just relax & enjoy the experience.
 
thanks andy

im sure it will be a amazing thing and feeling

1 thing i notice more by the day is im getting more organizedwith every day things

only thing left is her bag which she keeps saying i will do arrrrrrrrgh lol

baby's bag ready my bag ready ( camera bag and camcorder Thanks to shell )

eveythign else is sorted the room is finished and complete and bought everythign except a bath which im awaiting from toy's r us as they sold out and discontinued at the time we was buying it lol anyway 2 months on the new range is in and guess what that bath is not in as of yet , just keeping patient lol
 
ukglyn said:
perfectly normal, you are aware of a big change in your life & it is playing on your mind as stressful. Been there done it mate all will get back to some sort of normality soon enough. Just relax & enjoy the experience.
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the worst thing is i have stayed up longer and never felt like i am now lol

def playing on my mind the dreams are more regular

had one last night and was not something i would want to happen trying to think and stay posotive though
 
dinners said:
Just try and chill mate - even if you don't think you are - it's probably just a bit of underlying anxiety.

Just for the record - I have a 10 year old daughter, a 2 year old daughter and my wife (who has just waddled past) is due to have our first boy next week - so anytime now !

Hope everything goes well for you - keep us posted.
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congrats matey

dont forget to put some photo's up :D
 
Hi guys,

Currently in the company of a midwife and read some of your comments out to her. She suggests best to breast feed if mum is able to; not sure how to "make her" if not able to or has problems producing milk!

Also advises that current recommendations is that bottles should not be made up in advance but made as required and used within 30 minutes. Whilst it is acceptable for milk to be cooler this may lead to tummy cramps. Recommends making with cooled boiled water, good test is to apply a drop to your inner wrist; if it feels just warm that is suitable for use.

Hope this helps and good luck to all you expectant fathers!

Best wishes,

Tracey
 
I remember when my son woke me up 3 nights running, I was exhausted.


And I was so glad when he went back to uni. :D
 
wegotitugetit said:
im sure it will be a amazing thing and feeling
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It's indescribable! :D


wegotitugetit said:
my bag ready ( camera bag and camcorder Thanks to shell )
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Also pack a pair of shorts!! Someone told my husband to take shorts and he was so thankful for it. Maternity and labour wards can be warm so he was very relieved to have shorts to change into (especially as we were there for FOUR days!! :lol: ). Also make sure and have lots of change for coffee machines, chocolate machines, phone and TV cards.


Suvv said:
I remember when my son woke me up 3 nights running, I was exhausted.


And I was so glad when he went back to uni. :D
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:D
 
Mate, enjoy every moment. I have 5 kids now and I loved each time (4 times as we had twins).

Be prepared to be tired :)
 
wegotitugetit said:
congrats matey

dont forget to put some photo's up :D
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Cheers - I will do :thumbs:

I'm hoping :dummy: isn't going to happen tonight. I did check with karen first that it was OK to do so :rules: and she was OK about it so I've enjoyed a couple of beers tonight :naughty:
 
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