Oh hell.

I'd suggest being honest, I find it's often the least stressful in the long run.

Some of the other suggestions would do well in the majority of plot-less adult movies though :)
 
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I think that being friends with a guy first is a great basis for a relationship. Think long and hard before turning him down. Do you find him attractive at all? If you dont then its probably easier to tell him you want to remain just friends.
As onomatopoia said, be gentle with him if you turn him down as he has probably been plucking up courage to ask you out for a while.
 
I think LadySue has said it all, If you do need to turn him down, be gentle it WILL have taken a lot of courage to ask.

All I'd add is some advice I was given many years ago "Regret only the things you have done, not those you haven't"

Good luck, I'm sure you'll make the right decision for you.

On another note, Just as well Michael Aspel has hung up the red book. he'd never be able to lift the book entitled Sarah "Squizza" .. This is your life :D :lol:
 
rally-media said:
So would the next bit be

shall I spit or swallow ??
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:lol::lol::lol:


That's it, I'm not reading this thread any more, my poor laptop is soaked in coffeee again
 
Go for it. My wife and I were mates before we got together and this year we'll have been married 21 years.
 
Well after our chat earlier I decided to tell him that I'm still in shock and that I need some time to think about it because I'm confused about it all - it being very unexpected is playing havoc on my brain cells and being so confused and making a decision isn't fair on either of us.
 
david1701 said:
just two of us..................

have fun with matty and if he tries to do ANYTHING with cages just run
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don't bring me into it!
 
david1701 said:
do ANYTHING with cages just run
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And just what exactly is wrong with cages ? ...
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squizza said:
He left where we were working together and I haven't heard anything since.:lol:
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I have a marvelous tact for putting my size 9 in it don't I.

Oops. Sorry. :(

To quit your job and do a runner because of "the scary bird you work with" is a tad extreme though......... :lol::lol::lol: :love:
 
Sarah, here is a little story from the guys perspective:

I was once in a similar situation, except it was me asking the girl out. We were good mates at school, and for some reason I fell for her. Badly. I was well and firmly put on the side as friends only material. Yes, I got my heart broken. I really did love this girl. It was not some crush. How do I know that? Well, we lost contact for about 15 years. I never ever forgot her. And she never forgot me either. She found me on Facebook a while back, and yes, the feelings for her are still there. We are both married now, and living on different ends of the earth. One thing she said to me though was: she is sorry she never gave me a chance to see where it would go. We are so compatible on so many levels that we would have been perfect for each other if she had given it a chance. Yes, she did break my heart. But our friendship is still strong, if not more so. Guys have feelings too, so be gentle with him. It takes guts to admit to a friend that you would like more. A lot of guts.
 
friends with benefits for a while and if hes rubbish in the sack, either bin him off or use him when you've not had any for a while?
 
i'd say there are worse problems
but if your not feelin it, then dont do it
 
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jaybiss said:
friends with benefits for a while and if hes rubbish in the sack, either bin him off or use him when you've not had any for a while?
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LOL LOL LOL LOL.

...LOL.

That is all :lol:
 
Heard the "woof" like Flash says it in blackadder! (Including pelvic thrust!)

:lol:
 
The vid Flash posted made me chuckle :lol:

I'd personally give your mate a chance to prove himself. Say to him you will have a trial period and if it's not working then it's not working. If it goes very well then let things take their course.
 
:lol:

I wonder how Sarah is getting on..... are they more than friends by now!?
 
Tell Him a good friend is worth far more than a one night stand ,and that you are very sorry,but thats all it would be.
Then tell him you hope to keep Him as a lifelong friend and hope you have not spoiled you're relationship with Him .
 
Would be a little naive to believe that things would just go back to normal after you give the "just friends" speech. Still if you believe absolutely nothing could happen here then better just say that straight.
 
why not just go out on a date with him and see what happens?
 
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