I got my daughter the AFS35, prime... its standard angle of view, its quick, its sharp and gives very bright view finder, and denies the faff deciding on the zooms ettng or bemoaning lack of enough of it! She was also doing academic exercises for school, so the text-book tool.
Quirk though is that coming from fixed lens camera phones so many 'take' to a prime, and daughter was no exception... it would be worth a lot of ponderation.
18-55... is default... has bee my most used lens for the last five years, and having collected lenses for widgetal to match range I have for film, I am embarrassed and a little peeved that the 'better than free' 18-55 that came with the electric-picture-maker, is actually my most used lens by far... and I have struggled to find anything much 'better' to replace it with!
I'd stick with for your daughter... its enouh to be getting on with until you discover how often you are fighting over your spare lenses.
VR...... Shortly after I got daughter her DSLR, the O/H decided she anted to trade up from a bridge as she felt left out! And for fun we had a shutter-speed limbo. My conclusion was that VR is probably a wast of time! The 'claims' it lets you hand hold three or four stops slower than without did NOT get borne out by the results of our limbo.... a steady hand of old and practiced technique,I was getting down into the 1/4 second range hand holding wihout VR... I could't get it any lower with. Daughter was remarkably 'good; for a newb, and she was hand holding down to around 1/8th, and VR again made little difference.... O/H on the other hand was gettng blurr at anything under 1/30th.... with or wthout VR..... also worth noting that she was more inclined to use pre-view screen composition rather than view-finder.....
I would not be at ALL bothered by whether a lens had VR or not.. I would be more concerned to 'teach' daughter better hand holding, and using the optical viewfinder, rather than hand-holding at arms length.
Took my Daughter to do some of her GCSE course assignments with a couple of my old M42 primes for film camera on an adapter, no auto-focus on the, let alone vibration reduction! She was taking snaps of leaves and stuff, in the woods as it dropped to twilight; was rather aghast when I checked her settings she was hand holding down to 1/30th with a 135 lens! But incredibly she was getting sharp shots!.