My pale skin

dejongj said:
Sad as well on how we treat each other on social media.
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Absolutely! playground bullying has been allowed to spread across the world since social media!
 
I can't imagine why anybody would want to make comments like those in the video.
I try to remember what my old secondary teacher told me once about verbal bullying - " it says more about the person saying it and their own problems in their life than it does about the person they are speaking of"
 
Absolutely, fully agreed. I had a wonderful chat with my daughters about it; they are wise enough to know it is all about the insecurity of the person making those comments. Yet it's still not nice when it happens.

Just thought the video was really well made; well it definitely appealed to my 13 year old so I think it's hit its target audience.
 
Social media is one of the biggest blessings and biggest curses in society. When people think they can't be found out, they can do horrible things.

A excellent film though.
 
That's a well-made film, and very useful for helping people understand the world about them a little better.
 
A good insight into the life of the person in the film and the tragedy of what the world has become with the level of anonymous access social media provides.

Another adage to live life by is "always treat others as you would wish to be treated...." best combined with "if you are not willing to say something to someone in person then do not say it at all...."

Remember, before the internet there were 'poison pen letters'........all social media has done is make the poisonous comments public for all to see and that it seems suck other weak bullying types to feeding frenzy!
 
"Too thin"
"Eat a sandwich" (also hamburger)
"not a real woman"
"must be like having sex with a 12 year old boy"

All said to or in earshot of an ex-girlfriend (the last one was directed at me), who would have been a US "size zero", and had 32aa boobs. People saying that stuff were usually adult women. It's not just teenagers, it's not just social media.

She also got the hugely condescending people that assumed she had an eating disorder because she was slender. She didn't. That was her shape, if she really worked at it she could put on a few pounds and get up to seven stone, but normally she was around 6st 10lbs. Didn't stop her being real, passionate, desirable and healthy woman.

I wish people would think before opening their mouths or typing on their keyboards, the video is preaching to the converted here.
 
Box Brownie said:
Remember, before the internet there were 'poison pen letters'........all social media has done is make the poisonous comments public for all to see and that it seems suck other weak bullying types to feeding frenzy!
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Absolutely, it has always been out there. The scale and the global impact is just immense. When you see comments on a public Facebook post, or even this youtube video or some of my own. I just don't get people that feel the need to do that.

In school it happens constantly, our children are now just not on social media. But when they have sleep overs and their friends phones ping all night long. And 'huge' fights break out in school because someone didn't type in 'not' in their sentence. You know just like on here, or when someone doesn't acknowledge someone else, you know just like on here.

As Johnny8977 mentioned earlier, biggest blessings (when I see people working together to find a lost one for example) and biggest curse. But I agree box brownie, its been always around us.
 
Box Brownie said:
A good insight into the life of the person in the film and the tragedy of what the world has become with the level of anonymous access social media provides.

Another adage to live life by is "always treat others as you would wish to be treated...." best combined with "if you are not willing to say something to someone in person then do not say it at all...."

Remember, before the internet there were 'poison pen letters'........all social media has done is make the poisonous comments public for all to see and that it seems suck other weak bullying types to feeding frenzy!
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Yes there were, but they took time, and effort.
Social media makes it simple, and instant.
Public access to the bullying aside, I suspect the sheer number of this type of text/tweet/fb posts would beggar belief.
I'd be willing to bet the number of messages of that kind sent/received in a single hour of any given day, outnumber "poison pen letters" sent/received in a year, pre social media.
 
I do appreciate that what is being shown in the video is outright harrassment and totally disgusting
But I also feel there is a very fine line between this and general banter, we see it all the time on this forum,
people make comments which the person it is aimed at sees as a bit of fun and banter, until someone reports it,
usually not involved in the exchanges and then it gets stamped on.
Rightly so perhaps but not always, you get the same in the workplace, we have been warned that banter amongst
two people can reported as harrassment by someone who only overhears part of it and doesn't see the joke.
I was asked by the boss recently if I minded some of the comments aimed as me as someone was "worried" I was
being bullied WTF :LOL: I give as good as I get and even in a general team discussion said as much when the
subject was raised, not referring to me generally, life would be pretty dull if we couldn't have a joke.
 
Gremlin said:
I do appreciate that what is being shown in the video is outright harrassment and totally disgusting
But I also feel there is a very fine line between this and general banter, we see it all the time on this forum,
people make comments which the person it is aimed at sees as a bit of fun and banter, until someone reports it,
usually not involved in the exchanges and then it gets stamped on.
Rightly so perhaps but not always, you get the same in the workplace, we have been warned that banter amongst
two people can reported as harrassment by someone who only overhears part of it and doesn't see the joke.
I was asked by the boss recently if I minded some of the comments aimed as me as someone was "worried" I was
being bullied WTF :LOL: I give as good as I get and even in a general team discussion said as much when the
subject was raised, not referring to me generally, life would be pretty dull if we couldn't have a joke.
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I can't belief you see these kind of comments warrant to bring up banter and to "have a joke". This girls is real, these were comments aimed at her by total strangers.

There is a huge difference between banter and getting personal. There are a few on here who always like to play the person instead of the comments or opinion. When confronted they always reply that one doesn't understand their humour and that they do that all the time. Some things just aren't funny, some things are serious and don't require jokes.

Having a laugh whilst putting someone else down I've never found great humour. There are very few who are skilled enough to be able to do that without crossing the line.

I really would like to know what made you steer it into this kind of direction.
 
viv1969 said:
Yes there were, but they took time, and effort.
Social media makes it simple, and instant.
Public access to the bullying aside, I suspect the sheer number of this type of text/tweet/fb posts would beggar belief.
I'd be willing to bet the number of messages of that kind sent/received in a single hour of any given day, outnumber "poison pen letters" sent/received in a year, pre social media.
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I would surmise that based on the increase in population and that social (now just what is social about the worst parts that are being discussed here) media is so vast that such 'digital' poison pen letters exceed all the physical ones ever written!

Gremlin said:
I do appreciate that what is being shown in the video is outright harrassment and totally disgusting
But I also feel there is a very fine line between this and general banter, we see it all the time on this forum,
people make comments which the person it is aimed at sees as a bit of fun and banter, until someone reports it,
usually not involved in the exchanges and then it gets stamped on.
Rightly so perhaps but not always, you get the same in the workplace, we have been warned that banter amongst
two people can reported as harrassment by someone who only overhears part of it and doesn't see the joke.
I was asked by the boss recently if I minded some of the comments aimed as me as someone was "worried" I was
being bullied WTF :LOL: I give as good as I get and even in a general team discussion said as much when the
subject was raised, not referring to me generally, life would be pretty dull if we couldn't have a joke.
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In the workplace & banter/joking/joshing is not anonymous, IMO it is the anonymity that the 'writer' takes advantage of to distribute & direct their venom.

I think the overarching change has been that we have lost as a society the core values of respect for one another and those values come from both 'family' and 'education'.

It is sad that we have come to this :( I think I recall mentioning this somewhere else but a long while ago I was sworn (f**k) at by a child of about 4 to 5 years old, I asked why he was saying that word as it was not a nice word, he said he liked the word.............then so to speak puffing out his chest declaring "because my daddy says it". Now granted the F word has become common parlance instead of useful(?) invective but just what was his dad thinking/doing swearing in front of such a young child? Oh, I am talking about the early 1970's
 
I think she is pretty without the makeup.
Some people are just too twisted for their own good.
 
nilagin said:
I think she is pretty without the makeup.
Some people are just too twisted for their own good.
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Couldn't agree with you more, if people can't look beyond another's imperfections that is their problem
 
Gremlin said:
Couldn't agree with you more, if people can't look beyond another's imperfections that is their problem
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To be honest it wasn't until the close ups that I noticed any imperfections, all I saw at first was a pretty young lady with lovely eyes, but at no point did the imperfections detract from that impression.
As someone else mentioned it's all down to other peoples insecurities and/or jealousy.
 
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