My Father Has Passed Away.

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Apologies if an inappropriate thread but I felt that I had to tell you all.

He was a good man, thought of others before himself & died at a pretty young age of 65yrs.

Good old cancer (Myelofibrosis) amongst other things.

He passed away 03.50hrs 6th Feb at St Marys on the Isle Of Wight.

The past 11wks have been misery for my mother as he spent most of the time in
the Queen Alexander in Portsmouth & she has been living in B&B's & getting taxi's twice a day.
She is worn out bless her.

The staff were great & made sure he didnt suffer.

Mums doing ok so far but I think the loss will hit her when I return home to Dover
to be with my family & she will be on her own (other than friends).

They had been together since he was 15yrs old.

Im glad its all over though as I didnt like to see him suffering.

At 18 he was diagnosed with Ankylosing Spondylitis & the pain relief they issued caused
his kidneys to fail. He had a lot to contend with but still managed get on with life.

Apologies once again but I needed to get that off my chest whilst mums in bed.
 
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I'm really sorry to hear that Paul, 65 is no age at all :(

My thoughts are with you and your family
 
That's really sad news to hear, like flash said, 65 is nothing. Thoughts are with your family and friends, hope everything will be ok for you in the next few weeks.
 
Sorry to read this Paul.

It's a terrible thing which affects so many people regardless of age - I hope you, your family and of course your mum manage OK over the coming days and weeks.
 
Ouch,ouch.

I know your pain,it happened to me very recently.Look after your mum,she will need it.
 
I'm so, so sorry to hear of your loss - you only have one dad in this life, it creased me when I lost mine a long time ago. I've also lost 2 younger brothers in the last 4 years - both younger than your dad was. It does make you wonder what it's all about sometimes.

The pain does pass but you'll always have the memories.
 
I can really feel for your loss Paul, having lost 2 family members within 2 weeks of each other just before Christmas, and without any real warning signs. One was also to cancer and was dead within 10 days of being told he had it. :(

It's a rough old time but you'll all pull through it. All the best!
 
Sorry to hear that Paul, like CT, when I lost my dad it creased me too.

The pain does heal though, and the memories do remain.
 
Really sorry to hear this Paul. Sounds like he was a great husband/dad. I lost mine 5 years ago.Same age as yours. We hadn't spoken for 30 years.Didn't even make our peace. So it was an odd feeling.
You will have some wonderful memories that you can always look back on and no one can take them away. You take care of your mum and cherish those memories together.
All the best mate.

Kev.
 
i am soo sad to hear this..65 is such a young age..look after yourslef and your mum..you will be in my thoughts.
 
Always very sad to lose a parent. Lost mine 20+ years ago, he was 62 and I still miss him. Every day there's always a little reminder he was here. Best wishes to you all.
 
Sorry to hear your sad news, You'll get through it as a family, dont be afraid to talk to each other.
We lost my Father in Law a few years ago, he was 59, still think of him most days.
 
Sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you and your family
 
Sorry for your loss Paul. Thoughts are with you and the family.
 
Sorry for your loss Paul, it's a hard time for you all. When you think of him try and smile, it helps, I know. xxx
 
Sorry to hear this news Paul, our thoughts are with you.

Pete & Eileen
 
Paul,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.

Ken
 
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know how hard it is and you have my deepest sympathy. My thoughts are with your Mum too as I was widowed very young and then lost my partner 6 years ago. She will still be stunned at the moment but the next year will be very hard for her. I'm glad she has a kind son and I'm sure you will be there for her. If I can ever help either of you please PM me.
 
I can totally understand how you feel having lost our dad a few years ago,i wish you & your family all the best.
 
Paul, I'm very sorry to hear of your loss, it really is no age. I lost my dad 3 years ago, you will need to be strong for your mum, you may feel she's coping initially, whilst everyone is rallying around, but for my mum it wasn't until life started to get back to normal that the pain really hit home. Best wishes mate.
 
Sorry for your loss
 
:hug: Sorry to hear about your loss, I lost my dad when he was only 52, though 65 is no age at all.

Thoughts are with you and your family
 
Sorry to hear that, like many on here I lost my dad, 11 years ago now, and I still miss him he was 78 but was very healthy up until he died after suffering a stroke. My thoughts are with you and your family at this awful time.
 
Thank you all very much for your kind words guys & gals.

It all seems a little surreal to me at the moment.

Im sure the loss will hit home after the funeral & im om my way back to Dover
leaving my mum on her own.

My mum will be selling up & moving to Dover very soon so she will be with her
grand children & friends from past.
 
Lost my dad to lung cancer so I know what it is like waiting for the end. Thoughts are with you.
 
like everyone else i'm sorry to hear of your sad news.......certainly makes you step back and appreciate what you have........can't take anything for granted!!!!! very humbling to read that although he had issues he didnt let them get him down, an inspiration to us all,
Hope the pain eases and great menories remain.....take care xx
 
Sorry for you loss mate, My dad's been ill for a while and whilst I know what will happen I dread it so much:shake:
 
Sorry mate, I've been there too a few years ago.

My thoughts are with you and yours.
 
Tough time for you and your family ,know exactly what your going through ,lost my father 2 yrs ago ,he complained of not being well on the Saturday (he was a strong fit man all his life ) taken to hospital on the Sunday evening, passed away 11.45 that evening .Miss him like hell ,but it does get better ,i find myself thinking about the great times we had together when i was growing up on the farm ,him teaching me all he knows about farming and life .It was shocking!! at the speed things progressed ,to be honest that's the way he would've preferred . My thoughts are with you and your family all the best to you all .:)
 
My sincerest condolences goes to you & yours Paul. :(

The blight that is cancer deeply affects not just the many people in this world who get it but also the loved ones that support them during the illness and feel so much loss after it's done its worst. I lost my dad in '89 to Astrocytoma, he was only 49 years old. I still think of him a lot of the time, but nowadays it's more to do with the pre-cancer times. So trust me, time will be a great healer for you!

I hope you get some degree of comfort from reading the replies here, they hopefully show that you are not alone with this and what many have said is out of empathy as well as sympathy. :)
 
Sorry for your loss, Paul.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mum.
 
A lot of people will rry and tell you they know what your going through and to a point they do, I lost my dad to lung cancer 3 months ago at the age of 55, and the support you get from people like macmillian and districts nurses is fantastic, its when there gone and your left to adjust to life without them thats the hadest part..and the only advise I can offer is to chersih the memories good and bad and enjoy them all, thats whats going to ease the pain a little...I dont think you ever come to terms with it...but you'll learn to live with it...and I promise you this much..you'll be ok.talk about your emotions, grab a mate from time to time, you'll cry a lot, but life is for living..and if ive made one vow siince I lost my dad is that im going to see a lot more of the world now because everyday on this earth is precious :)
 
Really saddened to read your news Paul. My thoughts are for you and your mother right now.
 
Hi Paul,
My thoughts are with you. I lost my Father last year and I still feel sad about it. For me the saddest thing was that I divorced 10 years ago and my three sons have not spoken to me or my parents since.... He also died not knowing he was a great grandfather.

Duncan
 
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