When I was about 10 years old, my Dad smacked my bare ar5e!
Does that make my Dad a bad parent?
Let me fill you in on the details......
A girl who lived a few doors along from me was a right tom-boy, we were playing footy in the garden and she went a little "weird" (she was 11 by the way). Only being 10 myself I knew women went a little weird every now and then (my mum went a little nuts whenever there was a * on the calendar) and I said "Go away love and sort your life out" which was a little catchphrase me and my mates had.
Well this girl went beserk, nigh on pushed me through a wooden fence and ran home crying.
The next morning her Mum came round, I got sent into the garden while she spoke with my parents.
About 20 mins later I got called in and Dad asked me to apologise to the girl and her Mum, I questioned why and Dad said because I'd told her to go away and sort her life out and it wasn't very nice. I remomstated a little saying it was something everyone was saying but he said it wasn't nice where this girl was concerned as her parents had just split up.
I continued to argue the toss that I didn't know about her parents and he said regardless, I still needed to go and apologise.
I refused again and he said he'd give me one more chance or I'd get a "special"...... A "special" was a fabled form of punishment in our family, at the age of 10 I'd managed not to incur this punishment which was a smacked bare ar5e so I called his bluff......
BIG MISTAKE!!!! Writhing in agony on the floor with my trousers around my ankles I yelled..... "That's it, I'm calling the Police", Dad handed me the phone and said "Go on then!!"
Shortly after that I went and apologised but I had learnt a few things:
1) "Specials" were real and they hurt lots!!!
2) Dad wasn't bluffing
3) Sometimes, although you might not agree, you need to do the right thing and in that situation the right thing to do was to apologise.
At the age of 35 I totally understand why Dad did what he did, I needed to be taught a lesson and perhaps at that point in time, the only way to do that was a "special".
IMO that makes my Dad a great parent, I can honestly say he never "lost the plot" with me, I got smacked when I deserved it but he never hit me in frustration or temper.
So I'll ask again....... Is my Dad a bad parent?
Perhaps this girl needed her Dad to shoot her laptop, OK it's a little more drastic than a smacked backside but this could have been a turning point in her life?