Lonely This Christmas

There's a difference though between alone and lonely.
It's entirely possible to be lonely in company.
I have my own preference but I'm sorry if you're going to feel lonely Keith :hug:
 
I think this year is the first year I have either child 1,2 or 3 here at various intervals with no just me gaps!

I've been on my own for some time though and depending on you as a person you do adapt and get used to it/enjoy the peace occasionally :D
 
No friends or rellies? You're a bit too far away to come over.
 
Well a lot of people I thought were friends turned out not to be when I split with my ex

I wouldn't want to intrude on anyone else Christmas anyway

I will attempt to cook myself something resembling a Christmas dinner on the day
 
Keith W said:
Well a lot of people I thought were friends turned out not to be when I split with my ex

I wouldn't want to intrude on anyone else Christmas anyway

I will attempt to cook myself something resembling a Christmas dinner on the day
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I've never done this but it strikes me if you are to be at home and not enjoying your own company, why not try and join in something happening on the day eg soup kitchen or some other charitable activity which would make you feel part of a team?

If not, TP thread with one photo per hour on xmas day?
 
I'd ask why you don't use the opportunity to go somewhere you don't normally get a chance to visit, set yourself a task or objective. OTOH Al's suggestion of volunteering is excellent, and could be beneficial all round.
 
ancient_mariner said:
I'd ask why you don't use the opportunity to go somewhere you don't normally get a chance to visit, set yourself a task or objective. OTOH Al's suggestion of volunteering is excellent, and could be beneficial all round.
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Unfortunately I don't drive so have to rely on public transport, where I live there is nothing to see or do within walking distance

I did have some work lined up to do Christmas/boxing day but I couldn't sleep the other night and did it all lol
 
Cg_Girl said:
I think this year is the first year I have either child 1,2 or 3 here at various intervals with no just me gaps!

I've been on my own for some time though and depending on you as a person you do adapt and get used to it/enjoy the peace occasionally :D
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I don't believe you're ever alone T, what with all those voices in your head!
 
Don't know what to suggest really... but if you have access to the internet I suppose someone will be around to on line chat to at some point during the day and throughout the day as I suppose there'll be a lot of people alone at least at some point during the day and maybe for hours... working, waiting for partners or family to arrive etc. and I imagine that there'll be quite a few people who'd fancy an on line chat????

Other than that I think that in your place I'd try and think of the positives. You're out of what I assume was a bad situation and although your life may not be a bed of roses there is (I assume and I hope) hope that you can move on to better things in the future? I think I'd have a glass of wine and promise myself a new plan and a new start and then enjoy the holiday period as best I could.

Good luck with it and with the future.
 
Cheers Alan (y)

I am sure there will be a few people about on TP over the festive period.

I may even take some pictures on Christmas day, not every hour though LOL
 
Last year when I picked my daughter up she was with a friend who's parents had gone away for Christmas. I invited her to come and stay with us.
What a mistake, she hardly spoke, spent most of the day on an ipad, didn't like the food.
Boxing day we planned to walk the dogs on the beach before lunch, couldn't get her out of bed till noon, it was cold and when we got to the beach
she spent 20mins in the car putting her coat on, dogs where going crazy waiting !
I later found out she had done similar to elsewhere the year before and is now saying she won't enjoy Christmas this year on her own, you can't help
some people, I've often done last minute invites like that, always been fun, most people join in.
As for being alone, it was my plan, just me and the dogs but not happening this year, house full for 3 days
 
I think once everything is near on settled for me and I know where I stand with everything I may get myself another dog to keep me company and to go for walks with

Will probably see if the local rescue center has a Jack looking for a forever home
 
Keith W said:
I think once everything is near on settled for me and I know where I stand with everything I may get myself another dog to keep me company and to go for walks with

Will probably see if the local rescue center has a Jack looking for a forever home
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Go for it, dogs are far better then most people.
Seasons Greetings Keith try and stay positive (y)
 
This post really does seem like a cry for help,there are plenty of others out there in the same situation either by choice or circumstance and possibly some on here. ,whereabouts are you perhaps someone could get you and invite you to dinner etc .
 
My own company never bothers me but I know some folk would be depressed at being alone on Xmas
I think I'd be out with the camera doing some street shooting of everyone dressed up with new gear and kids with toys. Or if I wanted a shot of somewhere usually busy, Xmas would be a good time for it as everyone's spirits are high
I'd also take this as a chance to look at my life and analyse why I'm alone. Sounds like you neglected old friendships in this relationship and built a social circle around her pals
About two weeks ago, I went down to the Salvation Army to chat to someone about raising awareness of people struggling so I wanted to take some photos and share their stories to let ordinary people know other ordinary people are in dire straits often not of their own making. I've not progressed any yet, but I still want to.
You have the time to do some positives for others, go do them and let karma sort it out
And I agree the dog is a great idea for company. Best friend you'll ever have
One thing for sue, sitting brooding will not help you or anyone else. Get out there and do something, have a chat with a stranger, whatever. But your next true love might just be doing the same thing
I really hope you aren't sitting alone, depressed and hopeless on Xmas day. Try and gather the inner strength to get out there with a positive outlook
Best of luck whatever you decide
 
Cg_Girl said:
Keith I'm guessing you'll have your daughter for some of the holidays?
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Nope, she went with the ex up to the in laws for Christmas last week, I wont get to see her until the new year now
 
Keith W said:
Well this will be me this Christmas :(

Lonely this Christmas: Tonight
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Well Keith, it will be the missus and a cat and a dog in our house this xmas. Best I can offer is a Cyber drink and mince pie :) . But if you are bored, I am sure there will be a few of us checking in here over the xmas. Most of us might not make much sense, as some of us may well be sloshed. Mind you, most do not make sense at the best of times ;)
 
Last minute getaway, I went away on my own a few times and had loads of fun, maybe even meet a nice lady
 
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Yes. Fly somewhere exotical! We often get people turn up in Munich as it's so Christmassy.
 
ianp5a said:
Yes. Fly somewhere exotical! We often get people turn up in Munich as it's so Christmassy.
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The last time I visited Munich I was a teenager, I used to live in a town called Herford back then
 
Keith W said:
Nope, she went with the ex up to the in laws for Christmas last week, I wont get to see her until the new year now
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I guess as Bruce said and others. Having a positive out look helps.
The many years I've had Xmas on my own I make a point of..
New pj's or my favourite scruffs if I don't plan going out.
A selection of my favourite treats nibbles booze close at hand.
I get total choice of TV.
Then slob!! Lol..
Failing that even going out for a walk, I know you said there isn't much to photograph, you'll be amazed at all the little things you can find..
Maybe pick a mini theme...?
Xmas music loud whilst cooking...have a little dance all around the house does wonders for the soul :D
Choose a new book and look forward to starting it..
And off course the endless threads on here..
Im sure I'll be about posting my usual complete waffling nonsense as always...


Failing all that I'm always available to Pm if you're really struggling..I can soon send anyone to sleep! :D
 
I'll be checking in as usual.
You could take the mother in law off our hands- but I doubt anyone would want her :)
 
Cg_Girl said:
Im sure I'll be about posting my usual complete waffling nonsense as always...
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well I make that 357 days so far, so no need to break with tradition T :thumbs:

There's usually loads of people dropping in and out of TP even on Christmas day, Keith.
( However I'm still not talking to you and you know why :p )
 
Cobra said:
well I make that 357 days so far, so no need to break with tradition T (y)

There's usually loads of people dropping in and out of TP even on Christmas day, Keith.
( However I'm still not talking to you and you know why :p )
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Keith W said:
Unfortunately I don't drive so have to rely on public transport, where I live there is nothing to see or do within walking distance

I did have some work lined up to do Christmas/boxing day but I couldn't sleep the other night and did it all lol
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There has to be a hedge a field near you or old buildings near you, take your camara take loads of photos and then touch up in Lightroom or whatever program you see. Never alone with a camara. Merry Christmas
 
I feel for you. We are in the process of getting my mother in law into care and it hasn't really been Christmas for us. I think if I were on my own, I Would head out with my camera or go and volunteer somewhere so that I get some company. Or book a last minute and clear off to a warmer place where I could have a shandy on the beach and eat chips! (We did that once and it was great- we walked out of our hotel and went to the quiet part (we didn't know it at the time) but could have gone to the busier part of the town). If you feel really bad, get on the phone to somebody.. Hang in there.
 
KAS said:
Can she cook and clean. Does she talk a lot and eat a lot. If the answer is yes then no we will take her but won't pay for her use and she'll require her own bedding.
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My mother in law is about ready for a home, she's beyond sheltered housing but won't leave her own home. She can't look after her self properly and won't accept help !

To say she is difficult is a bit of an understatement...
 
The time is nigh, the MiL will be here soon.

Merry Christmas, Keith!

I wonder if there were three wise women behind the Three Wise Men?
We will never know.
 
Wishing you a happy - not lonely - Christmas, Keith. :)
 
Keith W said:
Nope, she went with the ex up to the in laws for Christmas last week, I wont get to see her until the new year now
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Keith, if it means enough to you, you have to arrange 'fair' access round Christmas and birthdays, so long as your request is 'reasonable' you should get something.

It's not perfect, but we've had our 'family Christmas' on Boxing Day for years now, my kids are with their mum and the stepson is with his dad for Christmas morning and dinner, we're having a relax waiting for our small Christmas dinner, tomorrow it will be a madhouse with 4 kids and a couple of boyfriends and the MiL too.

But, for now: enjoy your time to do whatever you want. Don't feel restricted by having no one to do it with but liberated that you've only yourself to please.
 
Hope you're hanging in there Keith and at least partaking in a few Christmas nibbles and drinks.
 
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