Last minute wedding - advice!

OptimusBri said:
I just rung the mother of the bride and made the decision to cancel. Needless to say, she wasn't happy, but I hope some part of her understands that it is so last minute and she was lucky to get someone to say yes in the first place. I did explain that I haven't seen the church, reception venue, or even spoken to the bride and groom and haven't been told what they expect from me at all.

I definitely should have said no at the beginning, but just wanted to help out a friend and get a bit of experience and money as well - who knew it could be so much trouble?! Thank you so much for all your advice :)
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I am pleased that you have made a decision Briony, because there is no way that you should be getting stressed about this. You would be going into this situation completely "unarmed", and if you had decided to do it, you would be "winging" it every step of the way.
I am not a professional photographer, but I think that being in control and being confident (as well as being totally competent), is the only way to make a success of a wedding.
 
You were put in a very unfair position by your friend and needless to say it is all too easy to say yes to a friend in need.

It would be easy to feel guilty for letting the Couple down but if thier expections were not fulfilled they (or no doubt the Brides Mother) would have let you know regardless of what would be fair to expect for peanuts they were willing to pay.

Remember it as a life lesson in when to say "No".
 
Well, that went south pretty quickly (shocker).

Cagey75 said:
It is very relevant,what are you on about? If you're shooting their wedding, and they're splashing on all Bar the photos ... it is indeed relevant.
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For what it's worth, it is utterly irrelevant. Just because you want money, doesn't mean everyone has to give it to you.

Why should photos be valued more than any other aspect of the day? People are different, if someone wants to spend six months' wages on a dress, and isn't fussed about forking over three grand for photos, that's entirely up to them.

Their money, their day, their choice.

How anyone can suggest otherwise is beyond me. :thumbs:
 
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paul_g said:
That some of the worst advice I've ever read. Maybe its different in Ireland but in this country Vicars/Priests generally will not allow flash & don't even think of moving up behind the Vicar/Priest on the alter unless you want the embarrassment of being told to clear off or at worst being thrown out.
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I agree too :)
 
Well done - and lots of great points you've picked up on this thread for the future (as have some others I'm sure)...

(I'd have suggested she added a 'zero' to the £60, and then you might be interested.. but at £60 like you said, it's just not worth the hassle)
 
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