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Ok, I have someone who wants to take nude photos of me and personally I want to do it myself. Just something I've always wanted to do. Anyways he has been after me for quite sometime now and I was just wondering. Does a photographer normally chase those he wants to photograph?? I mean I am not getting paid or nothing, "just an exchange between friends" as he says. He needs the photography experience and I get beautiful pics for free out of the deal. He has his own studio which is 5 hrs away but is willing to drive to my neck of the woods if I'm more comfortable with that. I guess I'm just asking if this sounds shady or not. I dunno how to take him and would like to hear your opinions.

Thanks,


Jewel
 
Now, you promised not to say anything. :p

Do you know the guy? If you do then you know the answer better than we do. If you don't try to get examples of his work, references from models, insist on a chaperone etc. If in doubt, don't.
 
Safest bet would be to have a chaperone with you, most definitely. Someone you trust completely and can take control of the situation if you're not happy with any aspect of the shoot.
 
jewel said:
Ok, I have someone who wants to take nude photos of me and personally I want to do it myself.
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Honey I told you to keep it quiet..:'(











Now on the serious side only you can make that decision Jules but letting a stranger into your home for the first time then modelling nude for free just doesnt sound right to me..:nono:

I may be out of touch with modern society but thats my opinion for nothing..:)

Now if you know the man and are happy going nude for a photo shoot then again its your call..;)
 
I'l do it for free :naughty:.......sorry :exit:


How good a friend is he? etc. If you don't know him that well it seems strange him 'chasing' you for the shoot. If you fancy doing it, get him to come to yours, keep hubby on stand by and enjoy yourself being the 'other' side of the camera.
 
I definitely wouldn't go to his place and if you decide to to ahead with it make sure there is someone else there. Are you happy for him to have these pictures and will you be signing a 'model release' - if so, I would state how you want the photos to be used if he is thinking of using them at a later date. But it's your decision at the end of the day.

You sure it's not just his way of getting your 'kit off'???? :D:D
 
as others have said, but just to reinforce it
your place not his
chaperone
- prob not hubby, might inhibit both of you
- a lady friend (of yours) present at all times

establish "ground rules" before you start
"I will do ..., I'm not doing ..." (fill in the blanks)
"no touching"
"stop when I've had enough"

have you seen his other work?
is this his first time too?

HTH
 
Glen said:
How good a friend is he? etc. QUOTE]

well that's just it. I don't "know him" personally. We've only talked through various photography forums off and on for a couple of years now. He's wanted me to do this for a while now and keeps offering to do this for me. Says I have a great look and he wants to capture it?LOL Personally after two kids I don't believe I'm model material so I guess that's why I question his motive? :lol: I've checked out his websites and he is one great photographer yes BUT, none of the websites show any 'nude photography' whatsoever. Wouldn't someone display these kind of photos on his website if it was an area of photography he was into? Anyway, thanks for the replies so far people.

Cheers,

Jewel
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not my place to say but "grooming" popped into my head
be careful, be very careful
 
I would echo what others have already said. Maybe he hasn't done any nude stuff before, but I'd still want to see work he has done before and maybe get references from other models. Definitely have someone there with you, as you have said you don't know the guy personally, he's just some dude you've chatted to via the internet, and who's to say he doesn't have an ulterior motive? I mean, driving 5 hours, he must be very keen!

I'd love to do a nude shoot (but not in my present body condition :eek:), but don't know how comfortable I'd be with a guy I know nothing about doing it, especially if he's been chasing me for a while. Just be very careful Jewel, there are some weird people out there.
 
wanna share his website details?
 
Now that you've put this in context I seriously would advise having nothing to do with the suggested shoot (or him to be honest). In fact I'd go further as I work with people who police certain kinds of forums...DON'T have anything further with him.
If you want some pictures as you've described, why not contact some of the regular posters here in the nudes & glamour section - you could see what styles they use & maybe get more comfortable that you sound right now?
 
jewel said:
I don't think that would be fair, it's doesnt' matter anyway does it?
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aha, sorry - it was a trick question!
if you'd posted it we could all check him out
if you're not comfortable - does that tell you something?

sorry to be devious - no offence meant
I'll happily delete if you'd prefer
 
Phil T said:
If you want some pictures as you've described, why not contact some of the regular posters here in the nudes & glamour section - you could see what styles they use & maybe get more comfortable that you sound right now?
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..and why not pay for a flight to Canada as well? :lol:

Phil, Jewel lives in Canada, so that probably isn't practical.

On the other hand however, I'm moving there next year, so maybe we could shoot each other :D (although I'll be in BC).
 
Don't do it IMHO.
Obviously I don't know him, but it all sounds a bit weird and maybe you're a bit flattered by his interest (as you say, after having 2 kids etc).
Surely if he's THAT keen to get some experience he could go to a professional studio with professional models. You could then see the pics and maybe let him take yours later, if the photos were good enough :shrug:.

Rich:)
 
jewel said:
Hey mini, when you moving to Canada, and why? :)
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I'm hoping to be there by the end of next year. All being well, I should be working as a midwife (just in the process of transferring my UK qualification over) in British Columbia somewhere.
I've just had enough of the UK and thought I'd come and sample the beautiful scenery of Canada :)
 
This is a tough one

Only you know the personality of the photographer, you say you've spent years chatting.....how does your gut feel when you discuss the proposed shoot?

If he has his own studio, has he posted any work of this style, does he have a portfolio? Or have people others questioned his intent or ability?

As others have said though, if you decide to go ahead, regardless of where the shoot takes place...have someone you trust with you at all times keeping a :suspect: eye on the goings on, I'd even go as far as to let someone close to you know the timings of the shoots start and finish and give them a call to confirm all went well.


For all we know, it might go to plan and both parties will get exactly what they're after. Not everyone on the internet is a monster.

Have you discussed the desire to have a nude shoot with your husband? Whats his feelings on it......is it worth falling out over?
 
******* :annoyed:

If people are going to agree with me, I'm outta here :exit:
 
Hi, I agree with some of above comments, I think I would need to be 100% comfortable before I'd agree. and if you go ahead, make sure someone is with you, they can not only look out for you but get the photographers angle on whats being taken too.
Check everything before you leave, and to be on the safe side, a written agreement to protect privacy and make sure they will not be sold or used publicly in any way!

Go with your instinct on this one!

Good luck and keep us posted :thumbs:
 
Sounds a tad odd to me too.

Must admit id be interested in trying it myself, both as the tog a poss-ing, although for me, the model would have to be female, and again the tog would have to be female too, i just wouldnt feel comfortable with another man in either circumstance. So thats something to consider.

Secondly, not sure id like any-one else having copies of the photo's where they could be publish without your knowledge, so again something else to consider.

I think your best option would be a professional shoot with a well known tog, or some-one know and you'd feel comfortable possing for.
 
Jewel - You were unconfortable enough to ask the question.

All that's been said about chaperones, phone calls, model releases/privacy etc is sound advice - but, if anything goes wrong what would you do? For example, suppose the images were used in a way you were unhappy with, it would be too late to stop them - they'd be out there in the public domain.

He might be a really nice guy with no ulterior motive but if I were you, I'd want to be 100% sure.

Jean
 
I have to say here that I am in agreement with much of what has been said above i.e. that you are undoubtedly the best qualified Jules to determine if you are comfortable doing this shoot with this chap.

However, if you really do want such a portfolio, is there not someone here on tp who you may know a little better, and would do it for you...?

Being new here, and new to photography, I can say this with significant impartiality: I don't know you Jules, and all I have to go on is (1) what you have said in your thread, and (2) your avatar (assuming this is you); I have to say that personally, I find this particular request quite odd, and I would never pester - over a period of years - someone into this type of photoshoot. Please be careful Jules, he may appear to be genuine, he may actually be genuine - who am I to judge, but to me there's something about this that just doesn't feel quite right.

Hope this helps.
 
All you girls should be aware that a lot more women are raped by 'friends' than are raped by strangers. Be careful.
 
NO

You do not know him in the same way you do not know me, or most of the people on TP or any internet forum.

All of us here are great and good, yea?? You only (for the most part) have our word on that.

Please don't do it :shake:
 
minimeeze said:
I'm hoping to be there by the end of next year. All being well, I should be working as a midwife (just in the process of transferring my UK qualification over) in British Columbia somewhere.
I've just had enough of the UK and thought I'd come and sample the beautiful scenery of Canada :)
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Well were definitely gonna have to get together at some point mini. It's doable,lol Your gonna love it over here! :D

As for the photoshoot, I don't think I will be doing it. My gut feeling says something just isn't right. If it's experience he wants than yes he can get/pay for a professional model. To peg someone out on the net and follow them around just doesn't sound very professional,lol Thanks for all of the great advice 'as usual' everyone.

Jewel. :D
 
:agree:

made me feel uneasy just reading all that - sounded dodgy

if it's something you would like to do i'm sure there's a safer and more enjoyable way to do it! :)
 
jewel said:
As for the photoshoot, I don't think I will be doing it. My gut feeling says something just isn't right. If it's experience he wants than yes he can get/pay for a professional model. To peg someone out on the net and follow them around just doesn't sound very professional,lol Thanks for all of the great advice 'as usual' everyone.

Jewel. :D
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well I for one will sleep easier now - good call! :clap:
 
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Good decision Jules, stay well clear :)

Rich
 
jewel said:
Well were definitely gonna have to get together at some point mini. It's doable,lol Your gonna love it over here! :D
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Oooh - that's something to look forward to :D Then we can have our own girly nude shoot. Gives me plenty of time to get in shape too ;) I'll make a date in my diary for 2009 :lol:
 
I think you've made right decision Jewel. If it was just for experience i'm sure a season or two clothed/ semi-nude would have been fine until you were both relaxed about situation. The fact your not relaxed about situation and alarm bells are going basically says it all. He could have asked you to bring a friend/chaperone along as moral support but didnt.
 
Good stuff Jules. :clap: By trusting your instinct you've made a very wise decision and if I were you I would cut down or maybe even sever all contact with this individual, something is not right.
 
minimeeze said:
Oooh - that's something to look forward to :D Then we can have our own girly nude shoot. Gives me plenty of time to get in shape too ;) I'll make a date in my diary for 2009 :lol:
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2009??? Ha ha,pencil it in then!! That should give us both plenty of time to shape up!:lol:

and yes I'm thinking of cutting all ties too...something definitely isn't right.
 
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