Is politeness a thing of the past?

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In this age of text, email and forums it seems to me that politeness has become obsolete

Hardly ever see please or thank you, just things like "talk to me about " or "show me"
More like an order than a request, even away from the electronic world you hear people say in places like coffee shops "can I get"

Is it that hard to have some manners, puts my back right up, not giving up yet even if I am fighting a losing battle.
 
I have posted similar in the past ( a few times)
And yes it ****es me right off as well!
 
I agree, it's a dying thing.
To be honest, we're merely a drop in the ocean of trying to change it. However that won't stop me using manners myself when dealing with people, and teaching my children to do the same.
 
Marcel said:
I agree, it's a dying thing.
To be honest, we're merely a drop in the ocean of trying to change it. However that won't stop me using manners myself when dealing with people, and teaching my children to do the same.
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When did you do that!!:shrug: :D
 
My Grandmother was tartar about politeness, things like saying please and thank you, holding a door open for someone and walking on the outside of a pavement when with a woman were drummed into me and I can't not do it now if I try. I find that people generally respond well to politeness but there are more and more who show none off their own bat, we live in an increasingly selfish world.
 
Yes you are right. It P%$$es me off as well.
It seems to me that few people care about anything these days:(
Going off on a tangent, but have you noticed the amount of litter about it just seems to get worse, or is it just me. (did I just not notice it 20 years)
It's everywhere. Can't even take a picture without some kind of trash being in the frame..............something needs to be done


Mick
 
I work in a shop, so notice it even more. Ironically. sometimes the older customers who like to think they are posh have the worst manners. Younger people tend to have good manners and say 'please' & 'thank-you'.
 
Politeness like discipline is a thing of the past which is why the country is awash with bad and in many cases Anto Solial behaviour,I know its od fashioned but when I was a kid 40+ years ago my parents taught me that politeness and courtesy was paramount
 
Marcel said:
I agree, it's a dying thing.
To be honest, we're merely a drop in the ocean of trying to change it. However that won't stop me using manners myself when dealing with people, and teaching my children to do the same.
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There are a few of us around, but we do seem to be a dying bred.

Steep said:
My Grandmother was tartar about politeness, things like saying please and thank you, holding a door open for someone and walking on the outside of a pavement when with a woman were drummed into me and I can't not do it now if I try. I find that people generally respond well to politeness but there are more and more who show none off their own bat, we live in an increasingly selfish world.
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Spot on, I couldn't have put it better. :thumbs:
 
i work in a hospital with fairly small corridors - so often have to give way to people etc.

I'm sorry to say i find it mostly old people who don't say thank you .
 
stokecity_m said:
I'm sorry to say i find it mostly old people who don't say thank you .
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And I resent that statement too! (unless it's down to memory loss!) :D
 
stokecity_m said:
i work in a hospital with fairly small corridors - so often have to give way to people etc.

I'm sorry to say i find it mostly old people who don't say thank you .
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Of course they don't, because they expect you to move out of the way and think, that since it should happen, there's no need to say thank you.
 
It depends on the kinda of family you live in if manners affect you life. I have been brought up in a old style family ways shall I say. My family is from Yorkshire so I have spent a good chunk of my life in Silsden, around Skipton, Keighley and Ilkley etc. Some of my family still live up there and when I go to visit them its a massive change from Grimsby. Im a fan of hiking and when you go past people you get a Hello or Good Morning etc. But your lucky if you dont get mugged in Grimsby. :D Not painting a perfect picture here and saying Yorkshire people are perfect but they was brought up in a different way to you would if you live in Grimsby.
 
I always say my please and thank you's. It's just something that I feel is important about giving a good impression if yourself. it doesn't cost a penny and so there is no excuse for it.
 
However that won't stop me using manners myself when dealing with people, and teaching my children to do the same.
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couldnt agree more,:clap:
 
yvonne said:
I work in a shop, so notice it even more. Ironically. sometimes the older customers who like to think they are posh have the worst manners. Younger people tend to have good manners and say 'please' & 'thank-you'.
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I work in a shop too, and yes there are a fair few cantankerous old people, but there are also plenty of very rude middle aged professionals. The sort of person you would expect to be quite intelligent and polite, but apparently not.

There's also the usual scum that you expect to be rude and are rarely disappointed.
 
I went to the cinema on my own last night, after i'd been in there 10 minutes I remembered why I don't enjoy the experience, Three 20 somethings with 10 second attention spans started talking when they realised Green Zone wasn't Independence day and there was a story to follow, I put up with it for 10 minutes then moved only to be confronted by another bored teenager who checked her texts every 90 seconds, light on, light off, light on, light off.

It's all bad manners and it really winds me up :bang:
 
So many people at my work drop the door on you - particularly the directors. They also look at you as though you've asked them for a lung if you say good morning. It winds me up no end but I will still hold the door open for them and say good morning whether they want to hear it or not.

I don't know why some people find the concept of manners difficult :thinking:

Don't get me started on cinema trolls - we tend to only go on sunday mornings now. Much more enjoyable than friday nights.
 
tijuana taxi said:
In this age of text, email and forums it seems to me that politeness has become obsolete

Hardly ever see please or thank you, just things like "talk to me about " or "show me"
More like an order than a request, even away from the electronic world you hear people say in places like coffee shops "can I get"

Is it that hard to have some manners, puts my back right up, not giving up yet even if I am fighting a losing battle.
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joxby said:
Why does everyone need to "get" something when they're in a shop lately.

Can I get a cheese salad sammich please..

get....get...get..yeah you can get one help yourself, just mind this baseball bat I'm waving about.

"have", you halfwit.


I gotta get out of this town
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God, I thought it was just me..:)
 
Daysleeper40 said:
So many people at my work drop the door on you - particularly the directors. They also look at you as though you've asked them for a lung if you say good morning.
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Directors in general are the kind of people that p*ss me off the most. Some how, because they've got a lot of money, they feel they've a god given right to treat others like crap. What directors often seem to forget is that the underpaid minions are actually carrying out all the hard work, and if it wasn't for them, said director would not have a company, or any money! :bang: I mean, what is with that? Why is it that the people who work the hardest, get paid the least, in terms of money and respect?!?!?!

People really make me sick. :razz::$:shake:
 
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My son is 10 but developmentaly about 18 months with severe epilepsy, autisum, ADHD and severe challenging behaviour - he still knows that if you get somthing you say thankyou and if you want something you say please - albeit for him either in his own words or sign language.

If someone with his problems can learn simple manners then it is not beyond the wit of the rest of humanity to learn it :bang::bang::bang:
 
My bugbear, is when you hold a door open for someone and they just swan through it without any acknowledgement.

This is usually closely followed by me saying "THANK YOU!" in a loud voice......
 
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I got a nice thank you email from a Mod for last year's donation.

It would be impolite of me to say whether or not I got one this year ;)
 
Manners maketh man

You have to do what you think is right - I really think it is important. My own kids have always been taught the importance of good manners.
 
when you mention forums etc , you have to remember that a lot of people might be nice and well mannered in the flesh, but can't convey this to their posts. Especially since two of the primary means we humans use to judge who we are talking to aren't there. speech and facial expression.

A lot of people also need to remember this.
 
photon said:
I got a nice thank you email from a Mod for last year's donation.

It would be impolite of me to say whether or not I got one this year ;)
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You should have done. All donations get personally thanked, by Brian...our appointed thanker :)
Apologies if you didn't, though......The email may have been overlooked or missed.
 
minky_monkey said:
My bugbear, is when you hold a door open for someone and they just swan through it without any acknowledgement.

This is usually closely followed by me saying "THANK YOU!" in a loud voice......
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:thumbs: I do exactly the same but it's usually followed up with a muttered curse. :D
 
...and lets' not even get started about driving manners....
 
Glad it isn't just me then, knew it wasn't really, but wish we were the majority rather than just a few clinging on to an outdated sense of decency

One more thing that seems so rude is talking on a mobile whilst being served in a shop, must drive shop assistants mad, know it would me
 
n1kcy said:
...and lets' not even get started about driving manners....
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I get really annoyed when people don't indicate and nearly run me over, because I crossed thinking 'they aren't coming this way'. If they have the Window open, I usually say loudly 'USE YOUR INDICATORS NEXT TIME!'
 
Roundabouts seem to be the favourite place for not indicating, particular it seems if the driver is turning left at the junction you are waiting to pull out of.
 
Brian's are underated..
Without Brian's nothing would get done..
Brian's are the Worlds utilitarian workforce, who just go about their business quietly with no fuss.
We have a Brian the brush.....he sweeps.....with a dedication and reliability not found in a John....Dave or Martin..

Brian rules


:)
 
minky_monkey said:
My bugbear, is when you hold a door open for someone and they just swan through it without any acknowledgement.

This is usually closely followed by me saying "THANK YOU!" in a loud voice......
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I just shout "YOU'RE WELCOME!"
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As do I, and working in a college I find I end up saying it to some of the teachers just as much as the students........ignorant barstewards :D
 
n1kcy said:
Roundabouts seem to be the favourite place for not indicating, particular it seems if the driver is turning left at the junction you are waiting to pull out of.
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Or they're taking the 3rd exit but don't indicate right at any point so you don't know where they're going, then when they get to the 3rd exit they indicate left

I DON'T CARE NOW it's obvious where you're going,so you don't need to indicate left
 
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