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2blue4u said:
Couldn't agree more! - Crap place to work, but I enjoyed the flying
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Boon said:
My father walked out on my mum when I was about 8 years old and took off to Australia. I didn't see or speak to him again until I was 24 when I went to visit him, then it was like meeting a total stranger who I couldn't relate to. I haven't seen or spoken to him since (I'm 33 now). It's his loss, not mine!
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Even though an IT consultant at the time, on a whim booked a flight to Japan, went to some car Auctions, bought 2 cars & imported them back into UK. At the time had only been abroad via package hols 
Re Japan probably one of the biggest culture shocks I experienced :-
- Oldest son of family stays home to look after parents
- If only children are girls, then they marry a bloke who then has to look after her parents
- Men have a fascination with forceful *** with women, which is shown via comics, films etc
- 40 year old blokes still read comics
- Some Teenage girls at rich schools prostitute themselves at luchtimes for fun
- The used girl panty vending machine is real !!!
- Kids have dried octupus skin packaged like sweets are here
& the list goes on .....
Re Japan probably one of the biggest culture shocks I experienced :-
- Oldest son of family stays home to look after parents
- If only children are girls, then they marry a bloke who then has to look after her parents
- Men have a fascination with forceful *** with women, which is shown via comics, films etc
- 40 year old blokes still read comics
- Some Teenage girls at rich schools prostitute themselves at luchtimes for fun
- The used girl panty vending machine is real !!!
- Kids have dried octupus skin packaged like sweets are here
& the list goes on .....
<DEEP BREATH>minimeeze said:
OK... here's something most of you probably don't know.
I have a five year old son that I never see (bitch of an ex-wife, you see. She basically wanted a kid so she could brand herself a 'parent', dump him on HER parents, and spend the rest of her life sitting on her ass and living on benefits).
You lot are making me think I'm gonna regret it if I don't do something about it.
We were fighting about it in court for ages. I'd recently been made redundant, and my ex made up all sorts of horrible lies about me; she said that I hit him twice - this later changed to three times in court despite the fact that I'd never even seen him, she made me see a psychiatrist who I spoke to for over four hours before he basically said to me "I don't know what the hell you're doing here", and various other hoops to jump through. When all else failed, I all of a sudden had the RSPCA round - someone had reported me for, in their words "kicking and beating the dog". They took one look at the dog (who was and still is in perfect health) and asked me if there were marital problems going on - guess they've seen it all before.
After all that, with not a shred of evidence to support any of the lies she had made up, CAFCASS made their court report and described my wife as "escaping from a violent relationship" - WTF??? With that I was given one hour of supervised access per two weeks. ONE HOUR???
The first 'hour', CAFCASS booked for when I was away on holiday - I called and told them this and they said "no problem, we'll be in touch with a new date".
They never called.
Several weeks later, I'd started a new job, and was at work when I got a call on my mobile. It was CAFCASS, asking where I was. My son and ex were at the contact centre waiting to see me. I told them they hadn't even told me about this appointment so how did they expect me to attend? They wanted me to drop everything and go. I told them I was working and couldn't do that.
Two failed appointments and we ended up in court again. CAFCASS must've told the Legal Services Commission I was working, so I lost my Legal Aid. I was only in a £10k a year job, and couldn't afford to fight it by myself, so I made the decision to cut my losses and it wasn't a decision I took lightly, but I felt I'd been left with no choice. My ex and her parents had taken out a string of restraining orders based on her stories - I would have been arrested if I'd gone within 100 metres of them, or the house. They changed their phone number too - made themselves unapproachable, so bypassing the legal system and being 'reasonable' was not an option... not that they ever did 'reasonable'... it was always solicitor, solicitor, solicitor (he once tried to get a solicitor involved because someone's dog crapped on his lawn!).
He was a month old when I last saw him. 22nd April 2006 was his 5th birthday. I've never sent presents or cards etc - I can't because I don't know what she's told him about me. If anything I'm pretty sure she's either a) told him somebody else is his dad (and believe me, that's another story), or b) told him I'm dead.
I'm not about to just barge my way back into the life of a 5 year old - I don't think its the right time. Don't know if it ever will be.
Sorry for going on a bit.
I have a 17 year old daughter I have had no contact with since she was approx 2 years old.........just pay my CSA every week and thats it.
The sad thing is she wants to see me but I have the problem and I don't know what it is....fear maybe:shrug: ......that I can't reply to her mother's letters which includes both mobile no's for both my daughter and mother.
The last letter which was now over a year ago told me "how proud I would be of my daughter but how confused she doesn't know her real dad".
Everyone tells me I will regret not contacting her and deep down I know I will but I can't explain why I don't.......it's a personal torment I have and will probably live with for the rest of my life.
The sad thing is she wants to see me but I have the problem and I don't know what it is....fear maybe:shrug: ......that I can't reply to her mother's letters which includes both mobile no's for both my daughter and mother.
The last letter which was now over a year ago told me "how proud I would be of my daughter but how confused she doesn't know her real dad".
Everyone tells me I will regret not contacting her and deep down I know I will but I can't explain why I don't.......it's a personal torment I have and will probably live with for the rest of my life.
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GfK said:
Don't worry about it fella, your words nearly had me in tears though.
I got close to your position years ago (My sons now 12) but I was lucky enough to be given some good advice to help me cope with the onslaught of lies and untruths, deceit and the extreme bias of the law towards the mothers opinions and blatant ignoring of the fathers.
'Don't fight, just stand your ground'.
I think you should try again, be gentle with your approach. NO barging...somehow, you've got to ignore the pain and terrible betrayal that you've been through; and will have to go through again.
Bend like a reed grasshopper.
It was about 8 years ago when she took at the last injunction against me. I see Danny all the time now.
Three months ago... she apologised. Now that brings a tear, a tear of joy.
Were all so fragile really, just very hard to tell sometimes.
Good luck fella, what ever you chose.
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oh my.....all these burdens we live with and I too have my own, wouldn't it be a great place if we could just do what we wanted, guilt free.....the fear of hurting people stops me from telling all, I am getting the impression that there are an awful lot of people out there living their lives feeling either sad or guilty...perhaps just living with it makes us better people because we are protecting others.
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P-E said:
Mate,
flipping sake. Tell her exactly that^^^. Your only human. Just like the rest of us.Your making her suffer.
Excuse me; I'm getting sooo emotional over this thread....and breath...and relax.
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Taken aback by what you guys are going through. The bond between parent & child is the strongest feeling you can have, so I can only imagine what you are going through. For those that have an opportunity then remember the saying "It's better to regret something you have done than to regret something you haven't done"
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Marianne said:
its not me.. its him.
My wife has spoken to him on a few occasions, and mentioned me, but he just clams up, (its his partner's fault i reckon)
i bought the flat i live in from him, i took out a mortgage and paid him off, the partner he met used to live on her own in her own bungalow, and she was claiming single occupier, he was claiming for all sorts from th NCB, and get this, he claimed from them the money it cost to have the gas piped in, and he wasn't even living here, as well as he was being sent benefits from all over the place, so he was using MY address to commit his fraud, sod that.
i told him not to use my address anymore, and he's never spoken to me since
stuff him - sorry.
@GFK- my ex wife was a bitch too, she had her boyfriend move into the house i was thrown out of, while i was still paying the damn mortgage there, the fat ugly git.
Blimey.... all sounding very familiar. I split with my 2nd wife back in October - bizarre chain of events, really.
1. She had miscarriage June 2004 - things never right after that.
2. She asked me to move out October 16th 2005.
3. I asked her if she was seeing somebody else, she said no.
4. A week later she tells me she's seeing this guy from work. He has a wife, kids, cancer, and calipers, and drives a Renault Espace. Says a lot for me, eh?
5. I take a drive to his place of work. Fortunately for him, its his day off.
5a. Work colleagues apparently call him and tell him I'm on the warpath. Later found out he came to the house to "get his kicking over with", saw my car on the drive, thought better of it and buggered off.
6. Go back to the house and liberate the 28" telly (got my priorities right!)
7. 3 days - yes THREE DAYS later, she tells me this guy is moving in. Just to remind you - she denied she was even seeing him when she was with me, and I only moved out 10 days before. Chinny f**king reckon.
8. December 2005 she tells me they got engaged Christmas Day. Same day me and her got engaged in 2001.
9. January 2006 - she's pregnant with his kid, and siezes every opportunity to jabber on and on about babies to me, like I care, given the events of 2004.
But hey, her £30k credit card bill isn't my problem any more. Every cloud... etc...
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SammyC said:I once raced karts in a British champs against a certain Mr. Button. I think he was at the front and I was at the back, but I was in the A final none the less!
Saw Mr Button practising at Clay Pigeon ?, Yeovil way, when he was a kid. Best fun I've had driving a 100 UK cart on that track
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But hey, her £30k credit card bill isn't my problem any more. Every cloud... etc...
AHahhhahahahahaha fantastic
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Gandhi said:
If I was to tell anyone that I went to that school, there would be mutterings of "Money back" and "False advertising"...
Feeling a little small in comparison of revelations, I'm named after the group of 60's fame. The Marcels.
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I'm a convicted radio pirate (aged 18 in mid 80's)
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mrgubby said:Did you board Radio 1 & pillage/rape the DJ's
Yeah, I'm on the DJ offenders register.
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Gandhi said:
The peanut butter is the scary aspect