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To get married! But I don't have my angel anymore. :'( :'( Help!
 
Well, it was not going great.. We broke up.. But I miss her sooooo much. So lonely! :'(
 
Years ago my fiance and I broke up, we got together again 9 months later, we've just celebrated 40 years of marriage.

Whatever happens next for you will change your life, I hope it turns out well.
 
Well it was wasn't going and well and we broke up.. But I miss her sooo much and can't think of anyone else.. :'(
 
.....go get her back then, or did the way the relationship ended prevent you from doing that.
 
We've all been there mate (well at least I have, more than once).

It's not a pleasant place to be but what did it for me was just to man up, get on with things and soldier on through the pain. It passed for me soon enough and now I couldn't care less about the women I was involved with at the time. No feelings for them, no love no hate, no regretsm take em or leave em:shrug:.

I appreciate not everybody will be able to deal with it that way but that's just how it worked for me like.
 
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I'm rowing the same boat as Brash...it feels cr@p for a while, maybe worth putting your cards in the table with the lady and if she's not feeling it then work through the hard time and do some things to take your mind off it as best you can and it will get better.
Whatever you do don't sit at home pondering and stressing out, it'll do nothing to get you back together and will just cause you damage, easy to say I know.
Best wishes.
 
She's not keen on me back.. I'm working pretty much every day, and uni starts soon so at least I'm doing things theatre productive - just randomly get reminded and have memories that keep coming back.. It's not good. :(
 
Just look on it as a lucky escape, if things weren't going right getting married wouldn't cure it
 
Lawrence just spotted your dob, you have your whole life in front of you, what will be will be and things always happen for a reason.
Enjoy Uni.
 
If you are 22 how old is the lady
 
It still seems desolate - I'm not getting any younger, and looking at it now I did have a wonderful other half.. Didn't appreciate when I had it I guess. She's 19, 2 years younger to the day, same birthday - we're at the same uni together, had been together about 1.5 years..
 
lawrenceots said:
............. I'm not getting any younger
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FFS you are only 22. You've got yer whole life in front of you. You WILL get over it, trust me!!
 
Man up and deal with it .otherwise forfeit your mancard.
 
Christ....... at 22 I'd only just started using my <male chicken> for duties other than stirring tea :lol:

Chin up, who knows what the future holds ;)
 
lawrenceots said:
It still seems desolate - I'm not getting any younger, and looking at it now I did have a wonderful other half.. Didn't appreciate when I had it I guess. She's 19, 2 years younger to the day, same birthday - we're at the same uni together, had been together about 1.5 years..
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Love can hurt at any age
Man up comments are a bit silly but you and she are way to young to be thinking of marriage and maybe you scared her

Back off and just be a nice person then maybe she will see that and come back
 
Hell on earth said:
.................Man up comments are a bit silly
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Garbage!!

I explained how it worked for me ie I just took it on the chin manned up and got on with it. I also said not everybody could deal with it that way.

Everybody has a way of coping with thing but to call comments about manning up silly, is patronising and ignorant just because you disagree.
 
It's true at 22 you are so young, you will look back and probably think.. bloody lucky escape.. trust us.. sadly most of us aren't 22 and have been there and done that a few times!
 
Sorry were you the only one to say man up
And it is a silly expression, he is not, as far as I know, in the military, which is where it originated from
 
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Yeah, I suppose that's all true, but we were both 18 when we met. I was at university, and she lived in the same city. We did actually talk about getting married at some point, but it didn't happen. We split up and didn't have any communication for three years, then she wrote to me at my parents old address. I was living in Hong Kong at the time, and my parents were leaving the UK to go back to South Africa a week later, so the letter just reached them in time. Anyway, we arrnaged to meet about 6 months later in what was then Rhodesia, and decided we really did want to be together within a couple of days. We got married not long after that, and we're still married nearly 40 years later.

For various reasons, we've spent quite a bit of time apart and in different countries over the years, and it's going to happen again next week. I loathe goodbyes at stations and airports - there have been a lot of them - and it doesn't get any easier. The first week or two will be lonely, but we'll cope with it.

Hang in there. I know how you must be feeling, but you're still very young. That's easy to say when you're getting old (like me!) but it will all work itself out one way or the other. Try to stay friends for now, and take care. Best.
 
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grr...
 
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Hell on earth said:
Sorry were you the only one to say man up
And it is a silly expression, he is not, as far as I know, in the military, which is where it originated from
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No I wasn't the only one to use it.

It may well have originated in military circles but it's usage is not solely confined to personnel there by appointed, employed or utilised. Therefore the fact the OP is not actually in the military is completely irrelevant.

The phrase's deployment, generally as a contemporary vociferation, is widespread throughout various and numerous social, ethnic, racial and linguistic circles world wide.

I repeat it works for me but not everybody will have the mindset to surmount adverse emotional turmoil in this way.

Your opinion that it's 'silly' doesn't make it so. Opinions onions opinions as somebody recently, rather maturely, stated.
 
Depend if the are Spring or Spanish onions, some make you cry some don't ;)
 
To the OP.

Hiya mate, it hurts like hell doesn't it? - Well, I just wanted to say that there is always hope and you have the chance of a new beginning, I felt similar to you when my marriage broke up (2 kids mortgage etc.) it was hard just to get up & go to work. A while later I met a wonderful woman. There is always hope even if it doesn't feel like it right now. Plod on as best you can, Give it time.
 
I'm just a weak and feeble woman *sniff*
 
Awwwwww!!! Poor wee thing!!
 
tis a quote from Elisabeth 1st :)
 
This thread shows how different we all are and how we deal with such things.

I'm not a fan of telling people to 'man up'. I'd prefer people who thought that didn't post, but I appreciate they can do as they wish. I just don't think it helps people; not that posting gushing comments is any better (none of said comments have been made in this thread IMO).

Hope it all goes well. I suspect many members have been through similar, I have, and can now look back and smile.

Cheers.
 
Is she up there at the moment?

(And IIRC, that's a MISquote from ER I (and that would be Elizabeth I - no S...))

"I know I have the body of a weak, feeble woman; but I have the heart and stomach of a king," (snipped)
 
Nod said:
Is she up there at the moment?
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I believe so. The Royal Court is on at Balmoral so her and Phil (possibly others too) will be there.
 
Nod said:
And IIRC, that's a MISquote from ER I (and that would be Elizabeth I - no S...))

"I know I have the body of a weak, feeble woman; but I have the heart and stomach of a king," (snipped)
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oh... thanks

I did not want to get done for plagiarism, they cut your blinking head off so was paraphrasing sort of Sir ;)


*apparently, when having your head cut off, you may blink after*
 
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No I wasn't the only one to use it.

It may well have originated in military circles but it's usage is not solely confined to personnel there by appointed, employed or utilised. Therefore the fact the OP is not actually in the military is completely irrelevant.

The phrase's deployment, generally as a contemporary vociferation, is widespread throughout various and numerous social, ethnic, racial and linguistic circles world wide.

I repeat it works for me but not everybody will have the mindset to surmount adverse emotional turmoil in this way.

Your opinion that it's 'silly' doesn't make it so. Opinions onions opinions as somebody recently, rather maturely, stated.
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