I did a silly thing today!

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Out walking when I passed a junior/infants school with the kiddies out at playtime, I spotted a little girl leaning against the inside railings obviously upset, so I stopped to ask her if she was okay.
Apparently it was one of those days when everyone else had decided that they didn't want to play with her so she was upset, silly really but the sort of thing that really gets to a little girl.
In gramps mode I tried to console her from outside of the railings, telling her not to worry they would soon want to play with her again ... when I suddenly noticed that I'm being closely observed by one of the teachers, "what's the matter here?". So I tried to explain but suddenly felt that I was out of my 'era' ... in my efforts to console the young girl I was somehow doing something wrong, possibly under suspicion.
I just politely explained and left them too it ... sad world isn't it.
 
gramps said:
Out walking when I passed a junior/infants school with the kiddies out at playtime, I spotted a little girl leaning against the inside railings obviously upset, so I stopped to ask her if she was okay.
Apparently it was one of those days when everyone else had decided that they didn't want to play with her so she was upset, silly really but the sort of thing that really gets to a little girl.
In gramps mode I tried to console her from outside of the railings, telling her not to worry they would soon want to play with her again ... when I suddenly noticed that I'm being closely observed by one of the teachers, "what's the matter here?". So I tried to explain but suddenly felt that I was out of my 'era' ... in my efforts to console the young girl I was somehow doing something wrong, possibly under suspicion.
I just politely explained and left them too it ... sad world isn't it.
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Very sad world.
 
Yep very sad world.

I delivered some photos I had taken to the clients recently & the little girl aged about 2 took an instant liking to me & jumped on my lap playing & giggling with me, in days of old something like this would/should of been a lovely interaction with a child. I felt very uncomfortable with the situation incase it could of been misread... very sad.:shake:
 
Its a terrible place when an adult cant console an upset child without either the adult feeling they are doing something wrong or a bystander jumping to the wrong conclusion. I think you did the right thing and would urge you to always do so, its only by doing this can we re-assert our right without fear to console an upset human being.

Matt
 
Well in my book Gramps you did the right thing, in fact in a lot of peoples eyes you did a very kind thing which probably had a positive impact on a child's life.

It is a sad World/Country we live in :shake:

I was shopping in my local Asda once and there was a little girl, probably no older than 3, she was near who I assumed to be her Mum saying "Mummy.... Mummy" but this woman just walked off and the girl looked like she was about to burst into tears.

It was obvious she had misplaced her Mum but I found myself in a position where I couldn't walk away and leave her (I've got nieces around the same age and I'd like to think some other nice person would do the same if they were lost) but if her Mum walked back and saw me talking to her I could be in a tricky situation.

Keeping my distance I said to her "Have you lost your Mummy", she nodded so I told her to stay there and I would get someone to help her. Spoke to a nearby male Asda "colleague" who got female colleague who thanked me for spotting this and took the littl'un to customer services.

I saw her reunited with he Mum as I left the store so I felt I'd done my good deed for the day :)
 
Yeah. The witch frenzy of our times, supported by some of the tabloids and the state, to keep the fear levels up. Can't have people starting to question the surveillance society.
 
If you'd have had your camera round your nexk, you'd have been straight to the local nick for questioning! :bonk:
Bonkers and yet very sad.
 
It is sad times we live in. Along similar lines, how many of you go swimming at your local pool? I don't because the last time I went, alone this is, I felt extremely uncomfortable. No doubt it is a problem in my mind but how many others feel the same way?

Andy
 
I know that in many circumstances, I'm seen as less of a threat. (Cripple woman.) But sincerely it's barmy! I could understand if you'd taken a photo of the girl at the gates, that there would be some "err, what are you doing??" especially from the PC brigade (not getting into morals or laws etc, but you all know what I mean), but sincerely, talking to a child, especially consolling an upset child, shouldn't be frowned upon. I do sincerely feel for the male photographers especially, as it's those who tend to be targetted worst by the PC brigade and their media-fed phobias.
 
Yep crazy times I have two junior school kids and you cannot video them in school plays in case you happen to video any of the other kids in the play
 
TheCrewDesigns said:
Yep crazy times I have two junior school kids and you cannot video them in school plays in case you happen to video any of the other kids in the play
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My son is only 3, but as and when he has a school play I will be looking forward to the fight with the head if they try to stop me!!

That is a shame Gramps, and I too feel awkward if a child becomes too friendly as someone else put. What I would say is what would you think if you saw a stranger talking to your child. What if you were the parent of the girl and saw that. I am sure I would immediately be concerned - instinct I guess. To be fair to the teacher, what if you were up to no good, what if they had turned a blind eye and something had happened?
 
you didn't do anything silly in my book in fact i think you did something very kind. don't change just because of silly people.
 
cambsno said:
To be fair to the teacher, what if you were up to no good, what if they had turned a blind eye and something had happened?
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I understand what you are saying but at the time the child was inside the playground and I was outside separated by 6 foot railings, I was hardly a threat to anyone and no one else seemed to care about the child.
I'm not necessarily blaming the teacher but just very sad at the situation around us, I have 4 daughters and 8 grandchildren and at my age children can be very special.
Out and about I see busy mums and dads who have no time for their children, others who constantly shout or swear at their children and frankly it makes me very sad. I often feel that I want to pick one up and give them a cuddle as their lives seem to be leading them into a black hole.
Childhood should be a time of joy and feeling secure but sadly often it's far from that.
Ah well the ramblings of an old man ...
 
I once saw a small boy of about 4 yrs walking out of the estate towards the main road by himself, crying, there's only one way in by road , it was 4 pm , there must have been 40 cars passed him by but I was the only one who'd stopped.

I asked him if he was lost which he obviously was, as luck would have it my wife then arrived and with the reassurance of an adult holding his hand he knew the way home.

His mum didn't even know he'd gone out, he was asleep upstairs , back door open on a warm day so he'd just woken up and walked out

The sad thing about this is how many people ignored a small child alone walking towards a main road
 
More a case of "how many people were too scared of being accused of something/people jumping to conclusions about a random car stopping next to a small child,"

People are too scared of what others think and are paralysed from helping when they otherwise would do the right thing.
 
You did the right thing.

So often these days we hear about bad things happening and people being accused or mis-treated.

I enjoy giving something back and in my life now I try to give something back every day; give what I can to those who I can. THis makes me feel good and I will not change it due to the views or opinions of others, no matter how hard they try.
 
Well Done Gramps, you did right :thumbs:


Splog said:
Nope, not really. It's just this pathetic country :shake:
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Leave now, or do something about it :thumbsdown:, your choice :shrug:

Try doing a wee bit of travelling, you will soon find out that the UK is no worse than other places to live.
 
Bawbee said:
Well Done Gramps, you did right :thumbs:




Leave now, or do something about it :thumbsdown:, your choice :shrug:

Try doing a wee bit of travelling, you will soon find out that the UK is no worse than other places to live.
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I've travelled plenty and still do.... and England is the pits :thumbsdown:
 
I pick up my daughter from school and her friend lives near us so she gets a lift as well.The other day my daughter wasnt coming straight home and i felt i had to drive past this little girl in the pouring rain as i didnt feel comfortable in offering her a lift when my daughter wasnt i the car. Its a sad world when you cant offer help without being a bad person.
 
completely off topic but not really so..........

approx 2 yrs ago.......... 6.30 in the morning got awoken by a huge commotion............. outside ours......

2 kids, boys, guessing 3 & 5 wandering around naked......

guy on his way to work, wanted to help obviously, but also understandably wanted people to witness that he was not up to no good....

so 4 neighbours kept an eye whilst 2 small naked vulnerable children in the back seat of his car, him out of the car, until plod arrived....... and we all got the Spanish inquistion.
 
Splog said:
Yup! Scotland is good :thumbs: ..... I even like Wales :tumbleweed:
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I'm sure that I've forgotten some amazing times that I've had in Wales... but I also remember a fair few as well!

Lynton said:
completely off topic but not really so..........

approx 2 yrs ago.......... 6.30 in the morning got awoken by a huge commotion............. outside ours......

2 kids, boys, guessing 3 & 5 wandering around naked......

guy on his way to work, wanted to help obviously, but also understandably wanted people to witness that he was not up to no good....

so 4 neighbours kept an eye whilst 2 small naked vulnerable children in the back seat of his car, him out of the car, until plod arrived....... and we all got the Spanish inquistion.
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Not saying that the bloke in the car didn't do the right thing, but at 6:30 in the morning, 2 little unclothed kids can't have been warm... why didn't someone take them indoors?
 
Catdaddy said:
I'm sure that I've forgotten some amazing times that I've had in Wales... but I also remember a fair few as well!



Not saying that the bloke in the car didn't do the right thing, but at 6:30 in the morning, 2 little unclothed kids can't have been warm... why didn't someone take them indoors?
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hmmm....... lets see.......

"Mr Smith, Can you explain why on a Tuesday morning, you have 2 small naked children who are not yours in your front room at 7am?"

"Erm, well it was like this....... "




No Siree, they had a blanket, and were happy enough. I was protecting the driver to make sure no nonce claims.........
 
Lynton said:
hmmm....... lets see.......




No Siree, they had a blanket, and were happy enough. I was protecting the driver to make sure no nonce claims.........
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Why would a nonce want to claim the driver? :thinking:
 
eh?

ok.. i get it now........

The kids were safe in the back of the car. Enough witnesses to ensure nothing unproper could happen to anyone at anytime by anyone anywhere....... unfortunaetly that was UK 2010.
 
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