Holy Cow! This thread has gone completely OT!
I'll start with an On Thread comment though...
Slap her?? really? Don't see what you are all het up about. Sounds pretty much like the usual parental cat fighting that goes on in junior sports. I would imagine that She probably read your email and thought "What a damn cheek he's got selling pictures for his own pocket!" And then did what us women do, and thwarted you be replying to your own email, played dirty. Sort of thing I would do if someone annoyed me enough. If you want to win this, then you gotta raise your game and make your pictures
worth paying for, then she is no competition or threat to you. Or just don't bother, maybe its not worth the effort. I'm guessing because you are linked by the team you are in polite communication at games n stuff, but I bet you guys just really can't stand each other. Well for the sake of the team and your kids, just leave well alone. If she wants to give away free pictures, you can't stop her. And the more you try I'll bet the more determined she'll get to undermine you. There I've said it. No sympathy from this quarter.
And to the rest of this thread...
Ah yes, I remember you from a few months back...kicked up a bit of a stink about payments. I seem to remember you being just as belligerent then too. (BLAH BLAH BLAH- removed due to being verbal diarrhoea) Be warned my friend, there are plenty of people out there who can bite you on the arse if you take away their livelihood.
That's nasty. In fact there's a lot of nasty here. I am a newbie to this site and already I have a sick taste. This arguement is SOOOO old. I frequent a car enthusiast forum and I read the same stuff there - pro v amateur. It really is the same stuff, but they are cars and you are photography.
From an outsider looking in, I saw ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with Toms post and yet he gets flamed in what is clearly dredging up from the past. Sad really. Get over it. I didn't get any vibes from Tom that we're trolling and given my opinion on the OP's post it seemed relevant too as it somewhat agreed with my thoughts in that the woman (who apparently needs a good slap) has done nothing wrong.
Take away livelihood - get real. This is not unique to pro photographers.
For the record, I am a hobby picture taker. I will happily give away any pictures I take of stuff, like their kids at the football, etc. That's because I take hobby pictures, its what I do and always have done. It's probably what most people who take pictures for fun do. Just like many people will happily get naff quality pictures blown up to ginormous proportions and stick it on their walls - it just doesn't mean the same to them - they are not enthusiasts.
Just like people who wash their cars with washing up liquid and yard brushes aren't that interested in shiny cars like the enthusiasts on the other forum I am on...
or imply that I am simply being unreasonable.
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That situation was different because obviously an Ipod is an Ipod regardless of where you buy, though in that situation the customer service and convenience of getting the goods there and then is what you were paying extra for, whereas each photograph is unique, and each photo has a value to the photographer and the viewer. To some Photographers the value is someone appreciating their work. For Pro's it is up to the photographer(s) to get into a situation where they have a monopoly on the situation, as at football stadiums, or produce images that are markedly better than the average chap in the street could get to justify the value they give the image. 
