I could cry, in fact I have.

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I'm sorry to hear of your troubles Al. Family can be the cruellest sometimes.
 
JohnC6 said:
It's really sad when families fall out like this just when they need to pull together . When my parents became elderly and needed help my two sisters, one older, one younger and myself ..set up a rota system with the younger one doing a bit more and getting her daughter in on the help, too because they lived just a few miles away. By the way. As soon as I started reading this I recalled you telling us about your caring problem and your two sisters. I'm sure,though and please correct me if I'm wrong, that back then one of them did show some willing. I also recall that I advised you get power of attorney although your mum was, at most times ok.. So..that was two years ago, was it. Wow.

Our neighbour is 67 and not good on her legs and her husband died last July of cancer. He lived 18 months longer than anticipated but was a skeleton when he died .I used to mow and strim their back lawn in his last months because he was too weak but he felt embarrassed when he had a son-in-law who could do it and who lived 5 minutes drive away so he paid him £50 a month for two mows and strimming. When he died his wife couldn't afford to pay £50 a month. "I rely on that" he said. He just left it. We tried to get someone in....a professional but they charged even more.The grass was getting long so I did it and will do it in future and as soon as it shows signs of needing a quick cut so it it will be easy. Even another neighbour has offered to do a few mows . I haven't seen her son-in-law visit since then....about a month ago. Beggars belief,really.
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The sister who lives 10 minutes or so away said she would help but when it came to actually helping that was a different matter. She didn't help and when I asked directly for help (a few hours once in a while) she exploded and cut all contact with us. Not only that she took her children and their children with her and we had no contact with them after that. I did try contacting her children directly but got no reply. She did go and visit mams body but did not attend the funeral. We currently only communicate through the solicitor as we're both executors. She'll get her money as sadly our mother couldn't change her will due to her condition.

POA. As stated above I did talk to my mam about POA and repeatedly and over a period of time but she umed and ahed and then it was "probably" too late. Obviously as she died it was too late.

Maybe you just skimmed this thread and missed that. Perhaps before posting "wow" you could and should have read the thread more thoroughly.

I'm often taken aback by people posting without reading. You could have avoided the upset and mild anger you're caused me with this post and your carelessness and that needless "wow."

"Wow" indeed.
 
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Sad to end this on this note but I don't want to read another post like John's.

Thanks for all who have contributed and those going through similar episodes are in my thoughts but I think this is the right time to end this thread.

This forum has been a help in the past but there are negatives to posting personal things here.

Thanks all but please let this be the end of this. No more posts please.
 
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