I don't think you find it when you're looking for it Sarah - you sort of trip over it.
That's truer than you think
Darren was actually "supposed" to be with one of my friends.
Many, many years ago I had a Saturday job in a florist's.
One of my friends had met Darren on a night out and they'd had a bit of a snog at the end of the night.
Anyway, after a few weeks when he hadn't called her she decided that he must have lost her number. She knew that he worked in one of the local shops on a Saturday and decided to have a red rose delivered to him with her name and phone number attached to it as a little reminder. I did the delivery.
He never did call her, but 5 or 6 weeks later I was out in a club and a bit worse for wear. I ended up tripping over fresh air and stumbling down a set of stairs. Darren happened to be stood at the bottom and caught me.
After looking at me, he said "Hey, aren't you the girl who works at the florist's and delivered that rose to me?"
We started talking and really hit it off.
I lost a friend over that incident (she was convinced that I'd "stolen" her man) but gained a partner who I've now been with for the last 17 years.