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This thread reminds me..... I need to take my ex-wife out the freezer as I've got a lot of frozen goods coming in my Tesco delivery.... cheers Lawrence. :thumbs:
 
lawrenceots said:
hmm Sarah, thats something I didn;t think of! I ope not, but I'll carefully find out tomorrow when she;s home. The funny thing is...she never(or very rarely) sends emails and texts, despite me sending them all the time..but her family are like that too, so...

Nearly 15 btw, so close guesses! Still don't know how you worked that out - unless just educated guess based on my age! :lol: Everyone says she looks 18/19 in photos, but I do 'glamour' her up a bit!
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People mature at different rates, and I don't doubt that you may be ready to settle down into a relationship right now - when I was your age I had a steady relationship (still together now); a mortgage on my first property; and I'd blagged my way onto a graduate recruitment programme at an investment bank off the back off my A-Levels.

But at almost 15, she's even younger than I'd guessed and I seriously doubt that she's ready for a long-term, permanent relationship. I'm not talking about sex (you're sensible enough to know where you stand with that), but I mean emotionally mature enough.
And trust me, even though you love her, she's going to go through a lot of changes over the next 5 years or so and will probably end up a totally different person to the one you know now.

It sounds like you're close and that you genuinely care about her . . . so this isn't what you want to hear, but I honestly don't think that this can go anywhere. By all means keep in touch and stay best friends, but don't torture yourself by pinning all your hopes on this being "the one" :(

p.s. Yes it was an educated guess based on your age and the way that you've talked about her.
 
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lawrenceots said:
Definitely not! Won't bore with the details but -

Met on a family trip to Geneva
Got on well, she came over and stayed with us, I went over stayed with her and her parents, (actually stayed for nearly 2 weeks at Christmas) get on very well with parents and brother.

100% not what you are suggesting(or anyone may be thinking)

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Fair enough.

My advice would be to get out there and make the most of being a 19 yr old. You're in the prime of your life so the last thing you should be doing is getting upset over a girl who is in a different country and seems to be doing a decent job of screwing with your head. If she's a fit looking girl, she'll have no shortage of admirers when she's of age and you will be 'out of sight-out of mind'. Harsh, but very true.

Life's too short to hang around on promises, no matter how alluring they may be.

Good luck.
 
You are her first love probably but at 15 (almost) she's probably looking for her 2nd. You should be too. It is very rare that these young relationships last through your life, take it as being part of life,,,and experience, It has come to the time for you both to move on and encounter other experiences with other people. Upsetting as it is, it happens to the vast majority of us, but put us in good stead for future relationships. I remember being dumped by my first love. My 2nd, well I dumped her and she was so upset, but got over it. Strangely, I still think about her and wish I'd kept her.

Today after nearly 16 years of marriage, I have two lovely kids and divorced. :bonk:
 
lawrenceots said:
Nearly 15 btw, so close guesses! Still don't know how you worked that out
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Nearly 15 is still 14, though.

How do I do it? I'm observant. I pick up little details about certain things that people write and have a knack for remembering them. You posted a thread some time ago - it may have been valentines day - about what to get for a 14 year old girl. As for the whole thing with Germany, well you post about it often! :)
 
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Gosh- 14 and 19 is quite a gap, I remember having 'boyfriends' at that age who were older, and it was just for the social status of having an older boyfriend- I never actually had any real interest in them...5 years shrinks as you get older, but at 14 (even a nearly 15 year old 14 is still just 14) you are not in the same 'place' as a 19 year old.

If you were my little brother, I'd advise you to break up and live life in the present. Meet some girls your own age, they're much more likely to be on the same wave length as you, and at least you can get physical with them without risking your name going on some terrible register.
 
Stayed out of this after my first post, however now the ages are apparent and as a father of a daughter, I will add this.
If my 14 year old daughter came home with a 19 year old bloke in tow, honourable intentions and all, I would set about removing your gentleman eggs with a rusty teaspoon.
As Grace so delicately phrased it, at 19 you are an adult, at 14 she is still a child.
 
lawrenceots said:
Well I'm now single! :/

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It might not seem like it now but trust me its for the best. I never believed it when I was a teenager but people used to tell me not to get tied down with someone etc, live your life, you're too young etc. You are probably not going to pay any attention but its only now after having so many crap relationships that I now see what people mean. :D Man I sound old. :D
 
squizza said:
It might not seem like it now but trust me its for the best. I never believed it when I was a teenager but people used to tell me not to get tied down with someone etc, live your life, you're too young etc. You are probably not going to pay any attention but its only now after having so many crap relationships that I now see what people mean. :D Man I sound old. :D
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Yes - I know what you mean, definitely does tie/keep you too involved sometimes!

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Seriously, with that age gap at such a young age it was never going to be easy.
Now take the advice given at the start of the thread, something about back doors......

Only messin, just don't be hung up on being in a couple, just get on with whatever you wanna do, and members of the opposite sex will come flocking.*










*this bit may be a lie, but it sounds good.
 
squizza said:
It might not seem like it now but trust me its for the best. I never believed it when I was a teenager but people used to tell me not to get tied down with someone etc, live your life, you're too young etc. You are probably not going to pay any attention but its only now after having so many crap relationships that I now see what people mean. :D Man I sound old. :D
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I'm much older than Squizza, but she's right. Get over it, move on.

As I said before.......just part of the experience of life.
 
Get out and enjoy life, it's far too short. Save all the broken heart stuff for when you are older and more mature. If you are lucky you will end up a cynical old git like me, enjoy having female friends but never want to be in a relationship again because twice longterm bitten, forever shy :-)
 
lawrenceots said:
..... The funny thing is...she never(or very rarely) sends emails and texts, despite me sending them all the time....
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Hate to say this to ya dude, as I don't know you at all, and you seem to be a genuinely nice guy, but, the above sounds to me like you were probably quite obsessive with the girl, and perhaps maybe more in love with being in love, if you get what I mean.

You've had some excellent advice from people here and in years to come you'll look back at this little episode and laugh about it.

Dust yourself down and put it down to experience, and get yourself out on the market again, but do yourself a favour and go for someone closer in age. (At your age you should be trying to shag everything that moves, and not worrying about the serious stuff yet, because once it gets serious then life is never the same again, believe me).

And remember, any hole's a goal! :thumbs:
 
Mate, you did the right thing... I'm the same age as you (well 18 ) and I'm currently in a relationship with a girl I've known for four years however we've only been 'seeing each other' for 6 months next wednesday, and like mentioned before, we're still in that cloud nine phase, not quite skipping through fields, but we're often up on the coast having a walk on the beach or on a date. We still have moments of just constant flirting too. But I think a relationship at any age or any stage will only work, if it goes both ways... This whole thing called 'love' is no one way street. Sure, at this age it's all about going out getting smashed and waking up next to some chick you picked up last night who's name you can't even remember... So now you're free... Go out there and have some fun, that's how you'll meet the real one that's for you... :) I hope this all makes some sense as I've only just woken up :D
 
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norvic-boy said:
Sure, at this age it's all about going out getting smashed and waking up next to some chick you picked up last night who's name you can't even remember...
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Serious trench strongly disagrees with this notion and shakes his head at the state society is in today.

Serious trench does however agree that norvic boy is correct as this is what a lot of people our age do.
 
trencheel303 said:
Serious trench strongly disagrees with this notion and shakes his head at the state society is in today.

Serious trench does however agree that norvic boy is correct as this is what a lot of people our age do.
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I completely agree with you disagreeing of the state of today's society... That's why on a Friday night you'll find me and my lady, up on the coast on a beach with fish and chips :D out of the way of the rest of them ;)
 
trencheel303 said:
Serious trench strongly disagrees with this notion and shakes his head at the state society is in today.

Serious trench does however agree that norvic boy is correct as this is what a lot of people our age do.
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Worked for me... with her for 2 years now...

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Well Lawrence, for what it's worth, you could be the type of person like me who is unlucky in love as some of us are.

I've been unlucky in love twice, my first wife left me after fifteen years of marriage & having two kids.

And my second wife ? ...............I can't bluddy get rid of her !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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