Another note, being honest, I get the impression that I am not that liked on here as I try to convey honesty in my posts, which can be ambiguous due to text. Hope not, I am a decent chap.
Well, I've been a member for just over a year, from the beginning I had seen your monicker rather alot amongst the various other regulars, I have paid attention to what you've been talking about, your photo's, your thoughts and beliefs and I would say your a like-able chap who I personally will always look forward to seeing your work and writings, there are many members here, too many to name really that I have become fond of and look out for whenever I can.
I learn from you lot and it eases the daily grind being able to read about the recent adventures and findings.
My thoughts on the honest approach (and I this is something I have learned from TP, so I feel it is relevant to the thread), is simply this:
Being honest, is about wanting to tell the truth how you as an individual perceive it.
In order to educate and inform with the best possible success rate one must impliment tact, one must be aware that sometimes the truth hurts but never the less it is the truth.
Critique can stir the worst in someone or widen perception and acceptance of error, it's up to you as the 'educater' how succesful you wish your message to be.
How much do you want your message to hit home?
IMO, along with us regular joe's, the more succesful, the more influencial, the more inspirational, the wiser and the more 'professional' members have the power/ability to make a positive change in someone. If they choose to.
They also can destroy and devastate. If they choose to.
It's about the words you choose. It is, after all, all we have here, images and letters.
It has nothing to do with 'sugar coating' them either. Nothing at all. It's about the choice of words and more importantly, your intention.
"Doctor!, My wife... is she going to make it!??"
"Erm, nah. She's a goner mate, Sweet F.A we can do about really, now if you'll excuse me..it's my lunch break and I'm starvin."
Was the Doc honest? 100% Yes, but about as tactful as a starving leopard.
This why folk get upset with the majority of 'honesty'.
If you may be that kind of person that we all look up to, then be aware that you have a power and the ability to either destroy or cultivate.
Also, the situation can be likened to dealing with problematic clients, you can either burn the bridge and never work with them again or you can help to ease the problems and still continue making money by doing business with them.
Are you trying to help improve someone or show them up for being a bit silly?
I think this is why folk who choose to use the "I was just being honest" train of thought are so stumped or get annoyed when all hell breaks loose. Not all the time mind, but certainly alot of the time.
Please don't think I'm having a dig Pete, I respect you as a photographer, an educater and a TP member. This is just my tuppence on the honest but tactless approach and it applies to everyone.
All the best.
T.