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OK, I'm an old fogey and have no idea how Facebook works. I hate the constant drivel that everyone seems to have an urge to post. Who cares if you've bought a new pair of shoes or had toast for breakfast? Certainly I don't.

I have an account there, heavily disguised "to protect the innocent". I have resisted the urge to have friends at all, and could happily live without it. There are three guys on there who found out about my account and have invited themselves in. They are mates so I've done nothing about it. I've set my preference so that I get no notifications of anything they or anyone else posts. I never look at the page and have no interest in their kids or grandkids.

However I'm told that I've been invited to a Facebook Secrets thingy, whatever that might be. Any clues? Something I've never heard of. It's for a meet that DG from here is organising. I don't mind joining up, but not if I'm going to get swamped by the usual FB drivel.

The question is...if I join in this secret society is there anyway that I can restrict messages from FB to just this one source, and not see all the other cr@p that might come my way?

Bottom line is I'm not interested in FB and can happily live in total ignorance of what goes on in there. As a neccessary evil I'm happy to join this one thing but only want to read what goes on in there. If I can't restrict it then I won't join!

Any other luddites out there who can help/advise?
 
You only need to add me as a Friend to be added to the group (when its created, which it isn't as yet), after which you can delete me as a Friend and remain in the group - meaning you will ONLY be able to see what's posted in the Group about organising our meeting and then posting of images for discussion afterwards

Feel free to not join at all - then you'll just find out what we may have planned when you get there, but you'll obviously have had no input to it and not be able to see any photos afterwards

I don't mind either way as the whole point is to be helpful, not annoying :)

Dave
 
A bit of lateral thinking here...
I'll delete my three friends. I talk to them in a "normal" manner if I fancy a pint.
I'll join yours, then when it's all over I'll delete that as well.
Then I'll have nothing on FB.
Sounds ideal(y)
 
I got conned into joining FB by an aunt who 'needed help' but I've come to enjoy it. Like everyone I have a couple of friends who seem to live on it, posting photos of their lunch etc. but if they're real friends you put up with it and sometimes wind them up with it. There are some good photography groups on FB, the "From the Roadside" ones can be brilliant, I'm signed up to the Scotland, Australia, New Zealand, Canadian ones and the Australia/New Zealand groups are particularly well worth the effort, some great photographs and very able photographers.
 
Right I've unfriended everyone and friended DG.
Come the end of November I should be free of the great drivel machine altogether.
 
This thread is a Zuckerberg wet dream lol :lol:
 
You can just hide stuff from certain people without unfriending them, so if you want, you can go and look to see if there is anything interesting! ;)

I did this with someone who swamped me with "Yes scotland" stuff and I didn't want to upset her as she is a long term friend but also didn't want to read all that crap! :D

I am also only friends with people I actually know and am not on as myself!
 
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Therein lies the whole problem with Facebook. "Random people from the internet". Why would any sane person want to discuss their activities with a bunch of strangers?

It seems the urge to say something, anything and have someone, anyone reply is the driving force behind this phenomenon. There must be a lot of lonely people out there.

Unfortunately my IQ doesn't seem to be low enough for any active participation.
 
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If you're not willing to hold accounts on these sites as yourself. ..What's the point?
 
I am not on Facebook but one of my dogs is and he lets me know if anything interesting turns up. He had to lie about his age back then but he is of the legal age for FB now.
 
mickledore said:
Right I've unfriended everyone and friended DG.
Come the end of November I should be free of the great drivel machine altogether.
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I suggest you delete the account. Doesn't seem any point in you having it. It's a tool, there's no point in using it if it won't do a job for you.

I have an account, in my own name so people I know can find me. I have a group of friends that organises meetings via facebook. It's much better than the telephone for this purpose, as one message can reach a dozen or so people across several European countries and everyone can give feedback when they are able.

While my posts are set to friends only, I post nothing that I would care if the world could see.
 
onomatopoeia said:
I suggest you delete the account. Doesn't seem any point in you having it. It's a tool, there's no point in using it if it won't do a job for you.
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My garage is full of tools that I don't use. I don't throw them away because just once in a while I find they can do a job for me.
 
Tigger.ufo said:
I meant that my facebook profile is not Heather (and my surname) but is an anonymous name which people who don't me won't recognise!
...and "friends" are people I know rather than random people from the internet! :rolleyes:
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But I though that you could set your profile so only friends that you specify could accesses it anyway?

Although I do know of one other person that made things a little hot for themselves
on FB, that did the same thing.
(that is have an count with a pseudonym)

I have an account in my own name, people can find me if they want too.
But I never post personal stuff on there.
There are many other ways of discussing more serious or personal stuff ;)

I treat FB like a comic.
Fun to read but not the place for personal / serious stuff.
 
Cobra said:
But I though that you could set your profile so only friends that you specify could accesses it anyway?
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You can, but I still get friend requests from groups I have joined, who I have never actually met!
 
Tigger.ufo said:
You can, but I still get friend requests from groups I have joined, who I have never actually met!
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I'm gutted I never get invitations from strangers :(
 
Is it not possible, when receiving a friend request, to say...no?:thinking:
 
And is it hard?
 
Raptor Mike said:
If you want invitations from strangers then Facebook is the wrong place to go ;)
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Goddamnit !
That was a waste of 3 minutes of my life signing up then :(

:D
 
I get friends requests from strange people one of them on this thread ;) and they don't come much stranger :p
 
Ok so lets try and sum this up.
As someone that doesn't really use face book that much.
So you have groups, that people can send you invites too,
but not "those" sorts of groups, no throwing car keys into the middle of the room?
I left the Screw-fix forum as the name is miss-leading on that too :(

Users want to talk to people that they know,
but don't use their real names in case someone else finds them.
Sounds a bit like TP really :D

IF you get invited to one of these groups you can join,
but un-friend the person that invited you?
Seems a friendly enough to me.
Rather like being invited to dinner party and blanking your host.

Glad I have an account so I can ignore people I don't like,
but "like me" enough to invite me to play in their back yard.

People post what they had for breakfast,
and what they are doing after breakfast.
A real source of useful information (y)

I really should "join in" more than I do
I seem to be missing out on a whole culture (y)
 
Cobra said:
Ok so lets try and sum this up.
As someone that doesn't really use face book that much.
So you have groups, that people can send you invites too,
but not "those" sorts of groups, no throwing car keys into the middle of the room?
I left the Screw-fix forum as the name is miss-leading on that too :(

Users want to talk to people that they know,
but don't use their real names in case someone else finds them.
Sounds a bit like TP really :D

IF you get invited to one of these groups you can join,
but un-friend the person that invited you?
Seems a friendly enough to me.
Rather like being invited to dinner party and blanking your host.

Glad I have an account so I can ignore people I don't like,
but "like me" enough to invite me to play in their back yard.

People post what they had for breakfast,
and what they are doing after breakfast.
A real source of useful information (y)

I really should "join in" more than I do
I seem to be missing out on a whole culture (y)
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Strewth, we agree. Think I need to lie down and unsubscribe from this thread!
 
Cobra said:
Ok so lets try and sum this up.
As someone that doesn't really use face book that much.
So you have groups, that people can send you invites too,
but not "those" sorts of groups, no throwing car keys into the middle of the room?
I left the Screw-fix forum as the name is miss-leading on that too :(

Users want to talk to people that they know,
but don't use their real names in case someone else finds them.
Sounds a bit like TP really :D

IF you get invited to one of these groups you can join,
but un-friend the person that invited you?
Seems a friendly enough to me.
Rather like being invited to dinner party and blanking your host.

Glad I have an account so I can ignore people I don't like,
but "like me" enough to invite me to play in their back yard.

People post what they had for breakfast,
and what they are doing after breakfast.
A real source of useful information (y)

I really should "join in" more than I do
I seem to be missing out on a whole culture (y)
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Sums up why i didnt do it :lol:
 
I never understand people moaning about Facebook.

It is what it is, a site for people to stay in touch with other people.

If you don't want some people seeing your content then set your privacy settings accordingly, don't friend them or if they really annoy you block them.

If none of the above satisfies then delete your account.

Rocket science it ain't.
 
neil_g said:
I never understand people moaning about Facebook.
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But that's all part of being British,
we have to moan about something,
and as the weather has been reasonable for awhile now,
I guess its just FB's time :D
 
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