Domestic Violence

Thanks for the update photon, I was just coming in here to post what you said :)
 
very glad to hear of a step in the right direction

Patch and photon - please ensure some followup - my main obstacle with dealing with my problem was, having been away from the situation for a month, I then had to return to the environment in which the problem occurred

Alison - hope you manage to read all the good advice - and DONT stop asking yourself how to take the next step forward - take small ones or large - whatever is best for YOU - good luck .....John
 
photon said:
I've just spoken to Alison who asked me to let you all know she's OK, as she's not able to get online as regularly as some of us. I passed on the number for a local voluntary organisation - in fact, she called back as she'd taken it down incorrectly the first time.
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Thanks for the update Photon
 
photon said:
I've just spoken to Alison who asked me to let you all know she's OK, as she's not able to get online as regularly as some of us. I passed on the number for a local voluntary organisation - in fact, she called back as she'd taken it down incorrectly the first time.
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Thank you, thought about this a bit today, some of us just don't know how lucky we are - Alison, good luck.
 
Alison, if you need someone talk to then please pm me. It is not something I have direct experience of, although I know people who do. Sometimes it helps just to have somewhere to vent.

Anna
 
Ali sent me a message today, I have let her know she is being thought of here and I`ll be talking to her tomorrow evening, [ was a bit too late to ring by the time I got in a while ago ]. When I was going through it I had no one to turn to but I hope between us with the support so many feel for her that we can give her the strength to get away from the situation.
 
Thanks for the news - please keep us updated.
 
Many thanks to everyone who has taken the time and trouble to reply; your kindness and support is sincerely appreciated and the responses have really touched me. I had serious reservations about starting the thread but am so glad that I did now.

The situation is very complicated so I won’t bore you with the details. Suffice it to say that making a telephone call is often not an option for someone in similar circumstances to my own for all sorts of reasons.
 
Alison, great to hear you're fine and it sounds like you've made the first steps.
 
good luck Alison, remember you thrived before you were in this situation and will thrive again. Thinking about you, all the best.
 
Alison said:
......Suffice it to say that making a telephone call is often not an option for someone in similar circumstances to my own for all sorts of reasons.
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i said earlier....."it is very difficult to make decisions for your own welfare when you are lost and desperate"

while perhaps understanding the boundaries you feel, you must overcome these and make a first step - the VERY important one of seeking outside assistance

be good to yourself.................John
 
I’m too euphoric to tell the full story at the moment (or even make any sense, probably :p)

Ask me tomorrow in the event that you might be interested.

Me and the dog are just about to share our favourite supper for the first time in ages and I’m safe in the knowledge that I won’t be woken to be raped or beaten at some point during the night! :cool: I’ll be able to sleep in peace and am soooo looking forward to it :)

Absolutely over the moon. Thanks to everyone for your support and kind good wishes. The advice given was much appreciated and, eventually, proved to be very effective.

Thank you so much,
Alison xx
 
Alison
I am so pleased for you
I dont want, or need, to know the details - it just sounds like you are so happy

and you have the right to be happy, without pain and fear

I do hope you can now enjoy your life to its fullness...!!
 
Well there is enough advice on here Alison what you need to do. DV can not be part of any relationship by either party, and I have know women to be violent as well.
So seek advice from a third party and possibly be prepared to move out to give your self some space.
Deep down you know this can not continue and the relationship is really over.
 
after a crappy day in my boring life , that post Alison has made me think that people are truly amazing and show true strenght and courage in times when the darkness seems to thick to break out of !!!!!!

well done and look forward to hearing from you with the story behind that truly happy post
 
I'm having a good day today and am glad you are too:)
 
Alison said:
I’m too euphoric to tell the full story at the moment (or even make any sense, probably :p)

Ask me tomorrow in the event that you might be interested.

Me and the dog are just about to share our favourite supper for the first time in ages and I’m safe in the knowledge that I won’t be woken to be raped or beaten at some point during the night! :cool: I’ll be able to sleep in peace and am soooo looking forward to it :)

Absolutely over the moon. Thanks to everyone for your support and kind good wishes. The advice given was much appreciated and, eventually, proved to be very effective.

Thank you so much,
Alison xx
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I am so pleased for you to be feeling safe and positive about your future, I wish you (and doggie) all the best for a wonderful future. Thank you for the up-date.
 
This was probably the bravest post you will ever have made.

Be brave & you know what you have to do

The starkness of your post has obviously affected many of us on here

I wish you well
 
Great news Alison and I want to wish you health and happiness from now on.
 
Alison. That's great news and I can just feel your happiness. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Now enjoy! :thumbs:



Tysonator & johnb. Congratulations on the Ultimate PostFail.
 
Alison said:
I’m too euphoric to tell the full story at the moment (or even make any sense, probably :p)

Ask me tomorrow in the event that you might be interested.

Me and the dog are just about to share our favourite supper for the first time in ages and I’m safe in the knowledge that I won’t be woken to be raped or beaten at some point during the night! :cool: I’ll be able to sleep in peace and am soooo looking forward to it :)

Absolutely over the moon. Thanks to everyone for your support and kind good wishes. The advice given was much appreciated and, eventually, proved to be very effective.

Thank you so much,
Alison xx
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Alison well done, the important thing now is to keep on this track and don't look back, do not be persuaded by anyone to return, emotional blackmail has no part in your new life now, as the dust settles after all the upheaval keep strong and if you must re read this whole thread for support, well done very proud of you.:thumbs::thumbs:

Merc
 
Great news Alison, very glad to here you are safe.

My wife is doing a counselling course at the moment and has to do a work placement. One place she has applied to is a domestic violence counselling centre, and they counsel both men and women who have been victims. They also counsel the people who are responcible for the violence. WHilst it may not be something that you can do at the moment, and may never be able to do, encouraging the ex to have some kind of counselling may stop them behaving like this in the future.

My Wife has a history of this in her family, which is one reason why she feels able to cope with dealing with both sides, having already done this for most of her life.

I would also recommend counselling as a way of helping you through this, it can help massively.

And I'm sure everyone on TP will be here to do whatever we can do to help.

Wishing you luck and hope for the future.
 
O.. M.. G.. ... what an amazing bit of news :)

I hope the future brings you nothing but joy; and thank you for thinking of letting us in on how things have transpired.

God bless.
 
Well Done Alison, I'm pleased for you and pleased you now feel safe and happy :thumbs:
 
only just stumbled on this but glad to hear that you are safe.
 
Well done Alison - you & Sol deserve your safety and happiness.
 
Great news Alison. The first step is always the hardest, just don't look back, and be proud of yourself too! It's incredibly brave and you deserve only good things in life from now.
 
This is a good news.

I hope he gets locked up.
 
well done hun :thumbs:

how was you're first sleep in freedom?
 
:thumbs: Great news Alison........... :thumbs:

Hopefully things will get better and better.
 
Really glad to hear that Alison :hugs:
I've thought about this thread from time to time and wondered how you were getting on. I hope you enjoyed your peaceful sleep last night and may there be many more to come.

You should feel proud of making a stand and taking the first step toward changing your life for the better.
 
Excellent news Alison, my Mum suffered at the hands of my Dad for years
but she too made a stand and has never looked back.
All the best for the future. X
 
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