Do you think twice before commenting? This might be not what you expected

Would you do this?

  • Yes I would think twice

    Votes: 29 20.6%

  • No I wouldn't think twice

    Votes: 46 32.6%

  • I would never do that anyway

    Votes: 8 5.7%

  • I am a parent and wouldn't like it if someone said that about one of mine

    Votes: 2 1.4%

  • I am a parent and would be flattered if someone said that about one of mine

    Votes: 53 37.6%

  • Who gives a crap the world will end in 2012 anyway what ever the outcome

    Votes: 29 20.6%
  • Total voters
    141
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Following on fromThis Thread
where I made a "flippant reply"
To MD about have camera so must I be a paedophile
I got to thinking.

I posted a comment To MD's thread where I commented that the model was very pretty, I know Dave and knew that he wouldn't take the comment
any other way than it was intended :thumbs:

BUT In todays PC society would you think twice about posting something along the lines of Pretty / handsome model be that chap or chapess
if the model was obviously "well under "age?

As parent, would you be offended if a "stranger" ( someone on here) posted
Pretty / handsome model to one of your "family images?
 
Finally got there :thumbs:

poll added with multiple choice answers (you can vote for more than 1)
Jeeze I hate computers actually I am convinced they hate me
 
Chris I actually read your reply in the context it was intended and it wasn't until you highlighted the point that I thought something of it.

May be different if I had kids of my own, but tbh I doubt it. The PC brigade may of read more into it, but I don't think I would have hesitated in putting the same reply.
 
I looked at the thread and was a little perplexed at what the issue could be.

In reality, it's probably best to avoid raising the issue even in jest. There are some subjects that are best kept off a public forum so it is not open to misinterpretation.

But I stress that I saw nothing to be remotely concerned with. It was clearly a reference to how photographers are perceived and was taken as such.

Graham
 
i would go with option 7 - The world is that messed up you have to think twice.

I remeber a time and i'm not that old when you could say something like that and there would be no offence taken. How often did you here people say in the street what a cute kid that is or what a hansom young lad he is growing up to be. Thee was never any ulteria motive behind these saying just a compliment
 
i think it really depends how it is said to be honest, i don't see anything wrong with the way you worded it BTW.

for instance i think the following word would be acceptable: cute, beautiful, lovely, handsome, addorable etc....

but obviously the words sexy or hot wouldn't be acceptable!



Robyn
 
To me to say a child is pretty is inocent, I have a little girl and if/when i post some pics of her and someone turned around and said she was pretty I would not be offended I would be pleased.

It is a strange world we live in these days and all inocense has gone, it is hard to think if something is right or wrong anymore.
i read your post and thought nothing of it either till like said above you highlighted it.

To be totally honest when i first joined this site (member of no other sites) I did find it a little strange at first the people actally posted pics of their kids, as in thinking crickey what about all the sicko's out there, then thought there is nothing wrong with it at all, its nice to see some normality in this wierd world we live in now.

some may say its wrong but not me.
 
I don't have children, but i do think that a certain amount of respect is called for. Obviously you had thought about what you wrote because you knew the OP, but i can understand how someone could be upset by the wrong choice of adjective, 'pretty girl' isn't really a problem in my eyes, but i can see how people can find comments about how their children look offensive, when really they are putting their pics on here to talk about the quality of the photograph.
Again this is all redundant in your case because your adjective was perfectly acceptable and you knew the parent :) x
 
sound so politically correct

freud would have a field day with cobra's comment

oops i should have thought twice about saying that...
 
Dammit wrote war and peace and then lost the lot before I submitted to these fine forums!

In summary, I see nothing wrong with the comment and think the world is a sadder place for people constantly having to worry about these things. Some (and I suspect only a very few, but very vocal) people like to see the worst in all situations and would appear to enjoy being morally outraged (at least twice a day). Unfortunately a lot of them seem to work as journalists and take extra pride in making us aware of their moral outrage too.

EDIT: Missed GSDlover4ever's comments.... and would agree entirely, my comments were based on what Chris wrote on ..md..'s thread
 
I as a parent would be flattered by beautiful/cute/etc. but as said by GSDlover4ever sexy or hot I wouldn't be too happy with. Putting a photo up for C&C though the photographer must realise that this is the internet and not everyone is as they seem. I would not put photos of my kids unclothed on the internet although my brother in law was quite happy putting a photo of his three year old son on farcebook with his giblets hanging out :lol:
 
I am a member on 3 car forums and here and I always think twice about posting. Even more so when the pictures has a person in it like a load do on here. And if I do post about a comment about someone. You can be sure I have thought about the words I have used so no one can it any other way but how it is meant and if I am unsure on how it will be taken or if the OP will be insulted I don't post.
 
Yeah Cobra you killed my thread.


md

lol
 
Hmmm, when it comes to kids I always think twice. But in the end I try and say it the best way I can, if they take offence then too bad for them. Just recently infact someone posted pics of their lil ones on the beach that I loved, then showed em my girlfriend and she loved them too (and then got broody, uh oh). Now in that case, I think the OP would have loved even more comments about how much fun they looked like they where having, but I wonder if anyone was put off because of the subject matter.

I may have missed the point of this thread lol.
 
All sounds pretty positive so far :thumbs:
I have said many times that the younger generation
are missing out on a lot of holiday snaps ( Jo public not just 'togs)
of there kids running starkers on the beach etc etc

We have the "full set" bath beach bedtime etc and the kids ( many years later)
are really appreciative when we get them out :thumbs: :D

However, I digress slightly.
In todays PC environment
if I see an image of a "child" on here and I don't know the person
I would would certainly think twice and
I probably wouldn't say "pretty / handsome" child.
Which is a real shame, to have to be so guarded on a 'togging forum.

A few years ago I would have said it without a second thought though


Thats a good point about hot / sexy Robyn
& :lol:@ the Freud comment, Mrcrow
 
68lbs said:
Why? If I posted a self portrait and someone said I was well hung and was looked hot and sexy, I'd be over the moon!
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Are you "well under" 16 then? :D
( and don't even think about replying and mentioning "inches" :p)
 
I've posted numerous shots of my daughter here, and even though I can't exactly remember if any commented on if they thought she was pretty, I wouldnt take offence, considering it is a photography site after all. If people were indeed that worried they shouldn'd post pics up.

"pretty girl" or "good looking boy" are (i would hope) kind comments to the parent, and a sub comment of the actual shot crit. That's what I reckon anyway.
Well that's my 2p worth.....
 
Crap...... I voted for the wrong one!

Take one vote off of 'I am a parent and wouldn't like it if someone said that about one of mine' and add one to 'I am a parent and would be flattered if someone said that about one of mine'


Steve.
 
I popped into PC World earlier... you have to watch what you say in there!
 
I would think twice saying something about someone else's child but would be flattered if someone said something nice about my girls.
 
i don't see anything wrong with cute/pretty etc, but as others said sexy or hot can be offensive. Well, definitely not nice if it's for a kid.
 
No I wouldn't think twice about it.
Obviously, as GSDLover said, there are some words that it's totally inappropriate to use in connection with children and I'd be disturbed to see anybody using them.
But I see absolutely nothing wrong in commenting on a little girl being pretty . . . in fact I think it's a compliment and should be taken in the spirit in which it's intended.

Quite frankly if anyone else wanted to read more into it than that then I think they're the one with the problem.

Out of interest, I wonder if men feel more uncomfortable making these sort of comments than females?????
 
SarahLee said:
Out of interest, I wonder if men feel more uncomfortable making these sort of comments than females?????
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Cobra said:
:D


I guess that is a very valid question and I also guess that you are right
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I suppose it's something that's more accepted as the norm for females :shrug:

Whenever one of the girls in work brings their baby in, it's almost expected for every female in the office to gather round and coo over how gorgeous and beautiful it is - in fact you'd be thought odd for not joining in, even if you don't know mum very well.
 
I was toying with the idea of stringing a sentence together that would outrage all members of the community equally, but thought twice about it :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

Graham
 
I think twice or thrice about everything I post. In fact if I had posted everything I had deleted instead, I'm sure my count would be in 4 figures.

I tend to type a response then think, 'I'm just repeating what everyone else has said' so I delete it. Or, I think I'm not going to be sat in front of the computer to respond to a comment straight away so I'll not bother. In fact I just nearly deleted this one. ;)
 
SarahLee said:
I suppose it's something that's more accepted as the norm for females :shrug:

Whenever one of the girls in work brings their baby in, it's almost expected for every female in the office to gather round and coo over how gorgeous and beautiful it is - in fact you'd be thought odd for not joining in, even if you don't know mum very well.
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I guess so, and also it seems to me that women enjoy the attention that
they and their babies get, and would they be "offended" if they didn't?
I think that they might to a certain extent



blue max said:
I was toying with the idea of stringing a sentence together but thought twice about it :lol:

Graham
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:p :D
 
Well, I'm a parent - son and daughter both grown up now - and I voted for the "flattered" option. Looks like I made it into a majority for a change!

Why on earth should anyone be offended, or edgy, if someone says a little girl is "pretty"? Why do we have to demonise and destroy anything worthwhile, like freedom, to pander to the government's department of fear, paranoia and snooping?
 
grey.squirrel said:
, I think the OP would have loved even more comments about how much fun they looked like they where having, but I wonder if anyone was put off because of the subject matter.

I may have missed the point of this thread lol.
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I missed this post earlier and its a very valid point :thumbs:
I think that you have grasped the point of the thread pretty firmly :thumbs:
 
I voted for
I am a parent and would be flattered if someone said that about one of mine

But I am also watch what I say in fear that I may offend someone.
 
I've never thought twice about calling a child pretty/handsome, or just commenting "what a good-looking kid". Try calling one ugly and see the reaction though. :D
 
I think that if you had just said that she was a very pretty young girl without following up with the kind of crass comment after, you (and the rest of us) wouldn't be giving it a second's thought. I think you have created a problem where there was none in the first place. You said 'pretty' not 'hot, sultry and sexy' so I really can't understand where the poll came from.
 
~Sam~ said:
I think that if you had just said that she was a very pretty young girl without following up with the kind of crass comment after, you (and the rest of us) wouldn't be giving it a second's thought. I think you have created a problem where there was none in the first place. You said 'pretty' not 'hot, sultry and sexy' so I really can't understand where the poll came from.
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I guess you have missed the point slightly
I just referred back to MD's thread as an example
of a Pretty young girl.

The "crass comment" was a private joke between me and a mate.
and in retrospect, could have been open to miss interpretation by anyone that doesn't know either of us.
(but I bet that it has boosted his viewing hits no end, and he owes me a beer :thumbs:)

The point of the poll was, regardless of the comment I made, and relates to
how YOU feel about commenting on "under age" models in this everso everso
PC world (no not the shop, Purple has already done that one)
 
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