Did your partner and yourself decide not to have children?

Sometimes you could love them, sometimes you could cheerful kill them and do the time, it would be easier and not last so long.
 
I raised my 1st partners son from 15 months to 18 years when I booted her out, my partner now has 2 grown up kids that I love to bits and a niece who 12 and I love 2.

Always wanted my own but it never happened so st 56 no way do I want any I can't give back lol.

Never begrudge your kids time, you may think they are a pain but I have regrets I never had any.
 
I decided to hedge my bets ,so 6 kids ,10 grandkids ,and 3 great g/kids later ,I wanna invent a time machine to go back 55 years so I can chop my b*****ks off .at least I will then be wealthy :wave:
 
Was never fussed about having children, but so glad we had our daughter and feel the same almost twenty six years later.

Her childhood in particular gave me so much enjoyment (her too I hope) and a new lease of life, wish it could have lasted for ever.
 
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Yup. No regrets.
 
Nope.
Had a son, Harry, who died shortly after his birth, and lost twins mid-pregancy 18 months later.
Due to surgical complications following the latter, well, that was that.
All part of life's rich tapestry, they tell me.
 
Nope, one of each and not a moments regret.
(Even if we had some serious but not life threatening issues with my son for the first several years)

Having said that, my daughter is adamant that she and her OH are not having kids, just in case they turn out like her brother.

OUCH! :D
 
viv1969 said:
Nope.
Had a son, Harry, who died shortly after his birth, and lost twins mid-pregancy 18 months later.
Due to surgical complications following the latter, well, that was that.
All part of life's rich tapestry, they tell me.
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I'm sorry to her that and here's me mouthing off in jest.
 
I have 3 but due to a complicated and messy divorce I only see one , not seen the other 2 for 14 years now :(
 
I had two children, but my son, Sam died a year ago at just one day old.

I'm quite am old Mum really, but if I had known 20 years ago what I know now, I would have just had as many as I could.

Even under the saddest of circumstances, my boy Harry makes me laugh every single day.
 
I'm lucky enough to have a brilliant dad who is now a brilliant grandfather. It's a high standard to live up to and I'm not living up to it yet.
 
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plenty enough to fill that particuar void.
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At least you never referred to them as "fur babies" :rolleyes:
What a stupid expression and probably my pet [sic] hate at the moment.
 
rjbell said:
I'm lucky enough to have a brilliant dad who is now a brilliant grandfather. It's a high standard to live up to and I'm not living up to it yet.
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Hey, no one said it was easy, and there are no books or ways to learn apart from experience.

Nigel Planar wrote a book called something like 'A good enough dad' - that's all you need to be. That's all anyone can be.
However, in the eyes of your child, you are DAD. The biggest and best, a hero. Remember that.
We all make mistakes, and I've made as many as most if not more.
However, my kids know I love then no matter what, and they love me back.
Don't beat yourself up, be yourself, accept that maybe you have limitations as do we all.
Now go give them some time and enjoy both your and their life.
 
Never wanted them so never had them - a joint decision! Seeing the way the World's going, I'm glad we haven't got to worry about what they would have to look forward to if they existed.
 
My OH has 3 persian cats rather than kids and that is more than enough in terms of noisy highly active things that need feeding etc for both of us
 
Kind of - we had 2, but lost our daughter when she was 15. Discussed whether to have another and decided that having one as a 'replacement' wasn't fair plus we were 40-odd by then & didn't want to be 60YO parents of a teenager.
 
What, and let my bloodline die out?

No chance, the Llamaman and his progeny will rule for a thousand years! [emoji146]
 
We have two kids, both in their 30s now. Neither was 'planned' and we weren't 'trying for a baby' in either case, they just sort of came along and that was great. Two was enough though! :D
 
Nope. I have four (8,6,4,2) (planned) and another arriving in October (unplanned), and they are literally my whole world.

I've no money, very little free time, my(small end terrace) house is a mess, there's constant fighting/whining/huffing, and without a doubt being a parent is the hardest thing I've ever done.

But you know what?

It's also the greatest thing I've ever done and I absolutely love every single second of it :D
 
Don't have a partner but not maternal at all so highly unlikely as it would take special effort as we'd be two ladies :) my ex wanted kids and at the time I thoight I did with her, but since we split im pretty adamant it would have been a terrible idea. I can barely get my own life together, let alone anyone elses. I do hope my parents were not desperate to be grandparents as I don't think me or my brother will be providing them.... My dad's extended family is much wider and more babies arriving ever year it seems so they can make up for it . I sometimes muse on what it must be like to be desperate for kids as I don't understand it all which is why I'm so sure I have no desire to be a parent, I've had nightmares about being pregnant.
 
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In the past I had never been interested in having children, in fact I had a couple of divorces over this. Then after meeting someone I wanted to stay with, and at the ripe old age of 48 (she was 34) we decided to have kids. Unfortunately there were some issues and we had to go the IVF route, 4 goes later, including losing twins, we were blessed with a gorgeous baby girl. At 50 years old I would never have thought I could have loved any person as much as my little girl. She is the most precious and special thing in the world. It's each to their own, but never underestimate the feeling of love a child can bring. Grated, it's not easy, and for the first 6 months, living on 3 hours sleep was a bit, erm, emotional. But it's the single greatest experience I've ever had.
 
rick448 said:
.... At 50 years old I would never have thought I could have loved any person as much as my little girl. She is the most precious and special thing in the world. It's each to their own, but never underestimate the feeling of love a child can bring. Grated, it's not easy, and for the first 6 months, living on 3 hours sleep was a bit, erm, emotional. But it's the single greatest experience I've ever had.
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This for the win!

:)
 
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