Controlled crying for 9month baby.

Poppy said:
It's never sat right with me, can I recommend you a book...the no cry sleep solution.

It is amamzing, and I am currently using the toddler version on my 20 month old!
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My wife used this and loved it. We were against having the kids be upset by us not being there for them we did a mixture of approaches in the end. Solid routine is massive so they know it's bedtime. Then it was really the withdrawal technique, I held her hand and all sorts early on and then moved slowly away but always let her know I was there if she needed. If you think the child is able to understand then explain it and it will help, just reassure and take it as slow as you want, baby will pick up on you being unhappy and then be unsettled. We now have a 7 1/2 month old boy and 2 Yr old girl and they both go to sleep in their room without help. She was a total nightmare before we tried this approach and that was done as we found out baby boy was on the way and we had to change as she only really ever breast fed to sleep. The one thing to remember and keep your sanity is -they will sleep eventually. Good luck
 
fidsey79 said:
lucky you!! Our son is nearly 3 and comes into our bed EVERY night AND demands a drink about 3-5 times a night.
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My wife had the best solution to this, soppy cup at the bottom of the bed, help yourself, no need to get out of bed for, worked for us
 
Russ77 said:
One day she would literally get away with murder
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:eek::eek::eek:


My little girl is going to be a year old in a couple of weeks and we went down that route as soon as it was possible. I can't imagine very many children liking being put down and left to sleep to start with, but you are the adult and know what is good for them more than they do. When she was about 6months old and eating solid foods we tried putting her in her cot for an afternoon nap (room nice and dark) then left her. We checked her after 20mins to make sure that she was ok (although she was crying), then again at 40min...I think it took about 2.5hours until she slept. I can see how people think that that is cruel, but it broke the pattern and now we put her in her cot at 7pm when she's still awake, turn out the light, walk out, and she goes to sleep by herself without any fuss until 7am. :) I personally think that's an important skill in independence which kids need to learn.

You read in all the books that it's important to make a good 'going to bed routine'. I think one of the best routines that we made was getting her a CD which she always listens to as she goes to sleep. From quite a young age she associated that CD with going to sleep and it really helped... of course that's another kind of thing which you need to make sure doesn't become a dependence! :lol:

We looked at the options and thought that we didn't want a 2, 3, 4year old who couldn't get to sleep by themselves (not to mention that we would have had to have spend every night for 2, 3, 4 years getting her to sleep) so thought it needed to be done sooner rather than later. And remember that you are the adult and know what is good for them more than they do!
 
Alan_T said:
Our son was 'control cried' at two weeks, that sounds really harsh compared to the rest of the thread but it worked amazingly well, by night 5 we could put him down at night and he would be asleep on his own within 4-5mins.

It was quite important tomboth of us that the baby never shared our bed. And i'm glad as he's just turned 3 and he's always been great at going to sleep.

We had to do it again when he got his 'big boy bed' but it wasn't as bad, only took a couple of nights, and it was only because it was novel to him that he could get out of bed himself.
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Don't like critising other parents, but are you sure about that? At two weeks? they can barely look around and never seen a two week old baby that didn't fall asleep...Also doesn't it require feeds through the night at two weeks old?

I'm probably misunderstanding something but I am amazed...
 
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