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Maybe it should be fora, but I'm not going to dwell on that.

Another thread on this site has made me wonder about children participating in (or, at the least, reading) internet forums where the average contributor is an adult and probably presumes others are, too.

Now, I am not for a minute suggesting that it's wrong, because it's not - children should be welcomed and, indeed, actively encouraged to join and contribute. But, when 95+% of the users are adults, it is probably not surprising that many of us make the simplifying assumption that whomever we're conversing with is an adult. Does this mean we respond differently? Probably. When I'm talking to kids, I would never presume they have the same emotional intelligence of an average adult and I would never wish to admonish for asking questions... an inquiring young mind is the most amazing thing and very definitely to be encouraged and nurtured. Consider the following question asked by a (perhaps relatively young) adult:

"Hi I'm new to photography and have actually just been given my first SLR camera and lens. I like to take photographs of friends and perhaps of my rugby team when I'm not playing of course. I've got just over £500 in savings so I want to buy the Sigma 18-35mm f/1.8 because I've read it's the best lens out there and I'd really like my pictures to look a bit more professional."

Now I'd like to think this sort of question would receive some very constructive suggestions but I wouldn't be surprised if a few comments were, shall we say, a little more pointed? What if the following were asked?

"Hi I'm 14 and mum and dad bought me a second hand Nikon D3100 for my birthday and I'm just starting to learn how to use it. It came with a lens so I've been able to take some pictures already and I'm really enjoying taking portraits and also some action shots of my school team. I've been doing odd jobs and have managed to save up £250 which mum and dad have said they'll double to £500 if I do well in my exams. I've been reading about the new Sigma Art lenses and the 18-35mm gets good reviews. I'd really like to buy it because it should make my photos look even better."

Now this is basically the same question but with context and immediately all of us realise we're conversing with a teenager... I'd be shocked and very disappointed if there were any "negative" responses and I'm sure all the regulars would enjoy chipping in and encouraging "young Jimmy (or Jemima)" to go slowly, save his money, perhaps look at 2nd hand lenses, old manual ones etc. etc. Indeed, I'm sure anyone who took a more confrontational tone would be heckled out of the place!

Does this mean that children should be "announced" as such? I'd expect anyone who thinks they're speaking to an adult only to find out it's a young kid who've they've just upset because of their tone/aggression etc. would honestly be devastated.

What can/should we do to avoid falling into the trap of assuming the person on the other end of the keyboard is an adult with adult sensibilities and maturity? Especially when the vast, vast majority are?

Or is it a case of "caveat scriptor"... if you're joining then expect to be treated as anyone else? Which I'd think would be sad and might actively discourage children from joining what is a vibrant and hugely informative photography website and forum.
 
Personally a little teenage section could be good... obviously that is under the assumption plenty would pop over to help and offer advice .... and i don't mean tuck them away un-noticed but i think it's something that could work

There does need to be something and definitely stated the age, i know they ha\/e the forum title but it seems to get missed sometimes...
 
"Junior Members" are identified as such by a blue banner along with their profile/avatar.
However it would be nice if everyone played friendly then we wouldn't have to worry about the age of the person we were 'talking' too!
 
Personally a little teenage section could be good... obviously that is under the assumption plenty would pop over to help and offer advice .... and i don't mean tuck them away un-noticed but i think it's something that could work

There does need to be something and definitely stated the age, i know they ha\/e the forum title but it seems to get missed sometimes...

TBH, if they miss the big blue banner under the avatar, they're not going to notice the age.

The answers we give shouldn't be different anyway. Surely all enquiries should be answered helpfully and politely, no-one should assume that it's a troll post or a wind up and certainly no-one should go on the offensive straight away on the basis of that assumption. If anyone thinks that a post is a wind up, they should report the post and let the site staff deal with it.
 
"Junior Members" are identified as such by a blue banner along with their profile/avatar.
However it would be nice if everyone played friendly then we wouldn't have to worry about the age of the person we were 'talking' too!

But... but... that would spoil the fun for some!

Seriously, if the world were a perfect place then... well, it'd be perfect! :)
 
Yep nobody's perfect but good manners go a long way toward peace and harmony :)
 
TBH, if they miss the big blue banner under the avatar, they're not going to notice the age.

The answers we give shouldn't be different anyway. Surely all enquiries should be answered helpfully and politely, no-one should assume that it's a troll post or a wind up and certainly no-one should go on the offensive straight away on the basis of that assumption. If anyone thinks that a post is a wind up, they should report the post and let the site staff deal with it.


But it doesn't seem to work like that sadly as the post i think yesterday showed... Don't get me wrong i agree the banner should be enough, i would also think most would ha\/e the sense to say their age as back up, i do think teens may need the extra help, to much can go o\/er their heads unless explained easier... but too often it's met with sarky trolly comments
 
Personally a little teenage section could be good... obviously that is under the assumption plenty would pop over to help and offer advice .... and i don't mean tuck them away un-noticed but i think it's something that could work

There does need to be something and definitely stated the age, i know they ha\/e the forum title but it seems to get missed sometimes...

Your v is operational....ish!
 
:-)
 
"Junior Members" are identified as such by a blue banner along with their profile/avatar.
However it would be nice if everyone played friendly then we wouldn't have to worry about the age of the person we were 'talking' too!

Anyone that is a junior or who hasn't entered their birthdate on their profile is alsoidentified by the "Junior Member" banner. And there seem to be more adults identified with this banner than children - so it hasn't got much credibility as an identifier. I generally assume they're an adult with an incomplete profile.
 
Anyone that is a junior or who hasn't entered their birthdate on their profile is alsoidentified by the "Junior Member" banner. And there seem to be more adults identified with this banner than children - so it hasn't got much credibility as an identifier. I generally assume they're an adult with an incomplete profile.


Yep totally!... There has been a couple of members I assumed for months and months were young, only recently found out they were so much older
 
Just a quick question, does the banner for a junior member show up in the mobile apps? Not sure it does, I mostly view TP on my phone or tablet.
 
It's a shame really that we can't split out those members who haven't completed their DOB from the genuinely 'junior members' - I wonder if @Marcel can do anything clever with that.

Before we had the automatic junior tag, I'd actually suggested that one of the new members take a look through the 'meeting place' section to meet up with other photographers in their area . . . which would have been totally inappropriate had I known their age! So I'm all for needing some sort of identifier.
 
What about a different section for dithering old age pensioners.. they are different... oh and stinking rich people..there questions would take on a slight different angle... oh ok and poor poeple (if they can afford to be online?) I dont think the protestants or gays need there own though.. thats just being silly.. hmm anyone else?...

what about the welsh.. do we even allow them on here?
 
What about the popular peoples front of Judea?
 
What about a different section for dithering old age pensioners.. they are different... oh and stinking rich people..there questions would take on a slight different angle... oh ok and poor poeple (if they can afford to be online?) I dont think the protestants or gays need there own though.. thats just being silly.. hmm anyone else?...

what about the welsh.. do we even allow them on here?

I thought that was TP anyway?:p
 
I have to be perfectly honest.. I thought junior member meant they hadnt been here long.. I cant be the only one?
 
I have to be perfectly honest.. I thought junior member meant they hadnt been here long.. I cant be the only one?
I bet you are Tony................:LOL:
 
Don't worry. School hols will soon be over. The problem will resolve itself then!!!
 
"Junior Members" are identified as such by a blue banner along with their profile/avatar.
However it would be nice if everyone played friendly then we wouldn't have to worry about the age of the person we were 'talking' too!

I didn't know about the blue banner that's news to me. I wonder if everybody is aware of this. I can't ever recall seeing one.

I got into a photography at about the age of 14 I do think the children could benefit but if there is a children's section of the forum However, I believe it should be heavily moderated / supervised. I'm not sure how logistically practical this is in real terms.

In addition, It is also my opinion that they should not be able to send or receive 'Private Messages' and this function should be disabled. It's well documented that pedophiles groom children. It would be very easy for someone just to drop a PM to a junior member and say we could meet up and I'll show you how to photograph etc etc.....

Therefore, any communication / discussion should be open and viewable.

Education for children is a very positive and important thing thing but there has to safeguards built in and we should provide a duty of care.
 
I disagree re the private messages.
 
I disagree re the private messages.

You think people should be able to send a PM to a minor, conversely a minor can PM an adult ?

Why do you think that is a good idea and how do you ensure that abuse or grooming doesn't take place ?
 
You think people should be able to send a PM to a minor, conversely a minor can PM an adult ?

Why do you think that is a good idea and how do you ensure that abuse or grooming doesn't take place ?

The exact same way you do on any public fourm/social media or public accesible talk media... the same way facebook twitter, myspace or any other from thousands of forums do it who have private chat options....
 
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