Changing surname when getting married

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It's easy.
 
I did, wasn't that much hassle to be honest, though we are going back 25 years ago. I also did it all again when I divorced him, went back to my maiden name. Its the traditional thing to do but I think it is up to the woman whether she wants to or not.
 
I guess if the parents got married and the wife took on the husband's surname, then any children they get to have would bear the father's surname - but if the parents get divorced, I guess the mother would be reluctant to revert back to her maiden name out of fear of unsettling the children?

At least that's what my mum told me when I did wonder why she hadn't gone back to her original surname after she had got divorced.
 
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S' just a name.
My name doesn't define me :-)
 
I use both.. When I got divorced everyone kept telling me I needed this that and the other to officially change back so I left it and left it and left it.
Now I use my maiden name for anything non official or I'll ask 'whoever' which name has to be used.
Although as my married name is Italian most apologise trying to pronounce and use my first name anyway :D
 
not sure if its the same in England but in Scotland when you get married you can change your name to anything (male included), doesn't just have to be surname.
 
viv1969 said:
Oy!!
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You think?
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I prefer the way they do it in other countries. Everyone has a 2 part composite surname, consisting of first part of father's surname and first part of mother surname. No one changes name when they get wed. So if Fernando Alonso Diaz married Penélope Cruz Sánchez, their kids would have the surname Alonso Cruz.
 
if you don't change your name in certain areas of the world it means you want to keep your marriage cert with you - at least if you want to be in the same bedroom as your husband...
 
Ricardodaforce said:
I prefer the way they do it in other countries. Everyone has a 2 part composite surname, consisting of first part of father's surname and first part of mother surname. No one changes name when they get wed. So if Fernando Alonso Diaz married Penélope Cruz Sánchez, their kids would have the surname Alonso Cruz.
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All very well...but I'd have no desire for a double barrelled surname.
 
reminds me of living in essex - half the girls had fathers with double barreled surnames ... the other half had fathers with double barreled shotguns.
 
viv1969 said:
All very well...but I'd have no desire for a double barrelled surname.
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Which is why Fernando Alonso calls himself Fernando Alonso and Penélope Cruz calls herself Penélope Cruz. People go by the first part of their surname. Official documents (ID Card, passport etc) have the full name.
 
Ricardodaforce said:
Which is why Fernando Alonso calls himself Fernando Alonso and Penélope Cruz calls herself Penélope Cruz. People go by the first part of their surname. Official documents (ID Card, passport etc) have the full name.
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Which is fine, but I'd still rather have, officially, a single surname.
 
My ex's mother used the Roberts surname for 20 odd years before actually marrying the guy.
 
Just out of interest - is there anything to stop the married couple adopting the woman's last name?

I've deliberately not used the word surname.
 
simon ess said:
Just out of interest - is there anything to stop the married couple adopting the woman's last name?

I've deliberately not used the word surname.
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Nothing whatsoever.
 
viv1969 said:
Which is fine, but I'd still rather have, officially, a single surname.
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Totally agree with Viv on this one. I do know women who double barrel their names on marriage but it begs the question of what happens when their kids grow up and marry!! If Jane Smith-Brown marries Tom Bloggs-Jones does she become Jane Smith-Brown-Bloggs-Jones? The idea of keeping your name because it somehow "defines" you is alien to me. I've been married twice, adopted my first husbands name after marriage 1, kept it after we divorced and changed to my present name when I remarried. It is a bit of a pain, but worth the effort. And regardless of what I'm known as, I'm still the same person.
 
Hanging on to the old family name is the stuff of colonialism. "Brigadier Smyth-Hamilton-Smyth would you care to take wine with Bertie Berkleigh-Smart ?" Everybody to their own I guess it's all harmless but a bit pretentious in my humble opinion.
 
Quicksnapper said:
Totally agree with Viv on this one. I do know women who double barrel their names on marriage but it begs the question of what happens when their kids grow up and marry!! If Jane Smith-Brown marries Tom Bloggs-Jones does she become Jane Smith-Brown-Bloggs-Jones? The idea of keeping your name because it somehow "defines" you is alien to me. I've been married twice, adopted my first husbands name after marriage 1, kept it after we divorced and changed to my present name when I remarried. It is a bit of a pain, but worth the effort. And regardless of what I'm known as, I'm still the same person.
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Did you take your husband's full name though?
In the past when a couple were married they become Mr & Mrs Joe Bloggs and the wife was formally known as Mrs Joe Bloggs. As she belonged to her husband that made sense :rolleyes:, that is why there is a Princess Michael of Kent.
 
Suvv said:
Did you take your husband's full name though?
In the past when a couple were married they become Mr & Mrs Joe Bloggs and the wife was formally known as Mrs Joe Bloggs. As she belonged to her husband that made sense :rolleyes:, that is why there is a Princess Michael of Kent.
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It was only used for addressing someone though (written or spoken). Passport and Driving licence etc remained in the lady's "given" name rather than her husband's given name.
Her bank acount etc would remain in her own given name, but some joint accounts used the husband's initial for the account.
 
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Hanging on to the old family name is the stuff of colonialism.
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Not necessarily... When @Andrewrallye and I had our son (before we got married) we discussed the name thing. Mine is quite a rare surname and very dear to me, so our son was given a double barrelled surname as I am the last in our line and it would have died with me otherwise. It was always my intention to be double barrelled myself when we got married.

Came as a complete shock to me (and everyone else) when Andrew decided to double barrel as well.

Changing my surname over on things has been relatively easy. It's a normal procedure when a woman gets married to change her name (I mean from a paperwork type thing - you ring up the utilities company and tell them and it's done no problem).

However, changing Andrews has not been so easy. We advised HMRC of the change (both the fact that we'd got married and changed our names) and they accepted it no problem at all.

His work however, won't accept it without him going through deed poll :mad:
 
ViciC said:
Not necessarily... When @Andrewrallye and I had our son (before we got married) we discussed the name thing. Mine is quite a rare surname and very dear to me, so our son was given a double barrelled surname as I am the last in our line and it would have died with me otherwise. It was always my intention to be double barrelled myself when we got married.

Came as a complete shock to me (and everyone else) when Andrew decided to double barrel as well.

Changing my surname over on things has been relatively easy. It's a normal procedure when a woman gets married to change her name (I mean from a paperwork type thing - you ring up the utilities company and tell them and it's done no problem).

However, changing Andrews has not been so easy. We advised HMRC of the change (both the fact that we'd got married and changed our names) and they accepted it no problem at all.

His work however, won't accept it without him going through deed poll :mad:
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He needs to point out that his employers are discriminating against him, and that as long as he has your deed of marriage, they have no choice but to accept it unless they wish to break the law.
 
Mrs Nod has kept her maiden name even after we got married but styles herself Mrs Maidenname. The exceptions are anything that's based on her passport since that's still Miss Maidenname's. Up for renewal in 2016 so might change some stuff then. Not a problem to me and I see no reason to change everything over to Mrs Nod instead - she's my wife, yes but I don't own her. The cat does!!!
 
viv1969 said:
It was only used for addressing someone though (written or spoken). Passport and Driving licence etc remained in the lady's "given" name rather than her husband's given name.
Her bank acount etc would remain in her own given name, but some joint accounts used the husband's initial for the account.
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... as above ... I went from being Miss Sara Maidenname, to being Mrs Sara Firsthusband, retained that after my divorce and am now Mrs Sara Secondhusband. I've never been addressed by my husbands first name, as in Mrs Fred Bloggs.
 
viv1969 said:
He needs to point out that his employers are discriminating against him, and that as long as he has your deed of marriage, they have no choice but to accept it unless they wish to break the law.
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I thought that might be the case too, but someone :whistle: appears to have forgotten all about it.

To be fair the registrar did say if we had any trouble with anyone to give her a call. Think I may be doing that this week!
 
ViciC said:
His work however, won't accept it without him going through deed poll :mad:
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Going through Deed Poll, is not a hassle and is also completely free.
Simply type and print out the correct wording, sign it and get it countersigned by someone not a relative and that's it.
No need to pay ANYONE or involve legal types.
This site explains it and has a link to the formal correct wording to use.
It literally takes half an hour :D

http://www.gorge.org/experiences/deedpoll.shtml
 
CheshireChap said:
Going through Deed Poll, is not a hassle and is also completely free.
Simply type and print out the correct wording, sign it and get it countersigned by someone not a relative and that's it.
No need to pay ANYONE or involve legal types.
This site explains it and has a link to the formal correct wording to use.
It literally takes half an hour :D

http://www.gorge.org/experiences/deedpoll.shtml
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Which is fine, but taking his wedding certificate / licence into work and showing them takes 2 minutes, and they have to accept it.
 
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