Cancer

[Lynton]

Best friend, at work, she is 34, with2 little ones, 4 and 1........

in fact if i got married to the other half again, i'd go for a best woman....... anyhow, she is coming up to a very tough time..

I am there to support her, as is her hubby (naturally)......... how though to you tell a litle 4 yr yr old lady, that granny has gone for good.....

(none of us are religious etc)

 

[Slimbert]

You sprinkle it with lots of fairies, glitter and a jug full of sunshine.....then get ready for lots of cuddles when the tears start.

I think sometimes it's harder for the adults delivering the news, than it is for the kids accepting it.

 

[Lynton]

yep, agree Damien.. but after the sparkles and nanny is that cross in the sky (2 planes ).......#

 

[viv1969]

Utterly tragic.
Just be uncle Lynton when needed...and you will be needed.

 

[camerassassin]

You do as we did with a 3year old - 'Grandpa is very very tired' and eventually it got to 'Grandpa is too tired to talk and stay awake'. Then after a while it got to the "Grandpa didn't wake up this morning." During all his time in hospital the grandchildren had been visiting him , 3yr old , 7yr old 11 and 13. It was a very good local hospital and they realised the kids needed to visit and they had slowly seen him becoming less and less responsive.

 

[MWHCVT]

Really as Damien has said kids seem to cope with death a lot better than adults, probably as they have a real childhood believe if heaven that we could all do with but also because they don't have to deal with the practical realities...I know that my little nephew dealt with my mums death a hell of a lot better than any of the rest of us a couple of years back...he would have been about 4-5 at the time...although he did quickly correct himself not long after when video chat asking about coming over to grandmas quickly when he realised saying "I mean Grandads"

Personally for you it's not really your place to deal with it (most likely) your role is going to just be a distraction...

 

[ChrisHeathcote]

My thoughts are with the family, this is something I am preparing for myself. My son is 5 and at some point in the not so distant future I am faced with having to break the same news to him. The sooner someone comes up with a cure for this cruel and heartless disease, which takes so many people without any prejudice and in such way that is so painful to endure and see the better.

As has already been said the innocence and naivity of the young is a blessing

 

[munch]

When I got cancer of the kidney we decided not to tell our daughter as she was just into her first year at university and was finding it hard. And the signs where that if they removed the kidney that would be it. (and it was, sort of) This time with my lung cancer we have told her, not only about this one but the one I had before. It has been hard, because whilst she understands why we didn't tell her first time, she still feels we have kept things from her.