buyers who backtrack in this instance "feeb " hows it make you feel? i feel rotten

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this has realy upset me and destroyed totaly my faith in human nature i feel i cannot trust anyone again.

i very kindly offered feeb to pay in instalments as she indicated she didnt have much money.

you may have noticed i encourage students and learners to photography,hence i gave a camera away to a student some time ago.

here is her first reply



yesh i will take it please with your kind offer of paying you off over a week or two

Very excited to recieve the bag! it will be the first stage of my Pentax-Nikon switch



now after countless i forgot type message the last saying it was on her list on monday.

she now says shes not going to bother and wont pay for the bag.

this is not the first time someone has gone back on there word here.

should i become cynical as well,should i become dishonest to play by the moral rules here as ime playing to a different set.

every item ive bought here ive gone through with the deal even if ive found it cheaper elsewhere.and paid immedietly.

your very upset

its far more than the money


john

ps here the tread

http://www.talkphotography.co.uk/forums/showthread.php?t=154266
 
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Hi John

Unfortunately, the minority ruin it for the majority, but there are still a few good ones about.

Would lke to say hope you get it sorted, but :shrug:
 
Some people never fail to disappoint you John, but thankfully, it's not all of 'em. Don't let it change you - not that it will anyway. ;)
 
You sent it and she didn't pay or she said she'd pay in installments and then you'd send it...?

Sounds like the former, otherwise you wouldn't be annoyed...has she sent the bag back yet?

If she just changed her mind then..well, it's what girls do, isn't it? :shrug:
 
Buyers changing their minds is nothing new mate...bit harsh for you to name her like this though - everyone knows that circumstances change and not everyone is as thoughtful when it comes to communicating things...
 
Oh, I thought it had been sent. If you still have the bag then nothing to worry about really. Sure you will find another buyer.
 
why is it nothing?

i agreed to let her pay instalments and she kept saying she was going to and never did.

i let the add slide and several times thought i could use it in a deal but didnt because i had to keep my word.

are you saying you dont keep your word?

if had recieved a better offer i would of turned it down,dosent that mean anything?

no i hadnt sent her the bag i was going to though on the first instalment.
good job i dint
 
Well...I think you're over-reacting just a le-eetle bit...
 
I know how you feel, but i wouldn't let it change your attitude towards people. I've a had couple of people promise to pay and then back out, there's nothing that can be done and although it's bloomin' annoying, it's not the end of the world. On the flip side i've dealt with some real good people, fast payers and who've been a pleasure to deal with.

You still have your bag which is the most important thing. I'm sure there'll be someone else who'll want to buy it, so you'll have to try and just chalk this down to experience.
 
hiya everyone - i am sorry John feels so strongly about me not wanting to take the bag

had i known he was so sensitive i would not had dealt with him in the first place, i did want the bag, i was fully prepared to put monies in his bank for it but i sent him a good few messages that went unanswered and this worried me

i dont have alot of money and i really couldnt handle the stress of paying someone money and then not being able to contact them

i have done many internet deals with people and they have all been very happy with my communications and also for my swift payments so please dont think this is a generalisation on me as an internet buyer

I am just NOT going to give money to something when i feel it is wrong in my bones - i am not say John is a swindler it just felt wrong to me.


I did inform him just as soon as he bothered replying to one of my many emails, and i truely am sorry if it caused him any grief
 
can i just add that in all my years of selling and buying stuff on the internet i have had many people with a million sob stories about why they cant pay for stuff or have had to back out of a deal, and i have never ever felt the need to be this nasty and put up a whole thread about them

shame on you Mr Digger :(
 
Sounds like classic communications cock up to me rather than anything sinister on either side. Better for both just to put it down to that and just walk away.
 
i would have left it private if it were me
 
Bill Roberts said:
Sounds like classic communications cock up to me rather than anything sinister on either side. Better for both just to put it down to that and just walk away.
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matty said:
i would have left it private if it were me
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Agreed. As long as all monies and items are correct to their original owners, be best to to let it go imho.
 
i also agree - i have no issues with Mr Digger at all and i wish him all the best in selling his bag
 
People change their minds. That's unfortunate, but life IMO.
 
Goodness I thought I was back at school then........what with this thread and the ''who should read private messages '' thread and then the thread where someone was banned for being rude, I actually think my 7 year old is more grown up.
 
shes being rather economical with the truth
doing the poor girl lost routine

i sent her my phone no with any probs let me know...never called me [even with her chicken excuse?]

i also gave her my bank details thats 2 weeks ago

after a initial then subsequent bubbly thanks i will pay money in now messages she just didnt pay in

so i didnt hassle her as she had gone on about low on finances stuff


but felt unable to sell the bag as iu had promised her and keep my word

i realy am at a loss to understand why it dosent work both ways?
 
x factor not on for two hours lol plenty of time.


I don't mean to sound cruel but he still has his bag and just wasted a bit of time.....

bit sad naming names on here though.....
 
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