Good view points from different levels of abilities and equipment here. For the amateur or less well healed of us I think it can, like cropping and adjusting levels etc. tidy up a "snap" into something quite acceptable. Especially for online or family photos.
Don't get mixed up between the 2 scenarios; no one is saying 'manipulation / fake bokeh is bad', what most of us are saying is 'badly implemented manipulation / fake bokeh is bad', and most phones, and the simplest of software make a really bad job of it.
It's not snobbery, or because some people have better kit - it's just objectively bad.
I won't repost here, but a year or so ago I posted a photo of my grandson in a photo share at work, and one of my colleagues responded with "135mm f2?", whish was absolutely correct. So the simple truth is that... if a
photographer can spot the 'look' of a certain lens, they can also find it much easier to spot a 'click of a button' fake bokeh. Also, from a 'photography' viewpoint, I'd hope that what makes that image attractive is my choice of light, background and the decisive moment to create a mood which is also enhanced by the Bokeh.
In short, photography isn't about 'bokeh', shallow DoF, composition rules or 'gear', but about all of those things in the hands of a skilled photographer, and pretending none of that matters because 'I've got a button on my phone' isn't really valid.