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Walked into a car showroom the other day to sign a registration form and, when the salesman (whom I've met once before) spotted me, he said "hello Marc". Now, I quite like that because, as they say, if I get called Mr Falber, I thin either I've done something wrong or my father just walked into the room!

Bu† it got me thinking, is anyone still offended if someone, like a salesman, calls them by their 1st name these days? I know it wasn't the done thing years ago.
 
Nope not offended at all, maybe that's a very older generation thing perhaps?

Depending on where I am and which surname I've registered with most people try pronouncing my surname and give up and say Tracie eventually anyway.

Nobody can win either way as I hate being called Tracie too :D
 
No problem with people using my name....hate when they change it though.
 
Depends on how I've introduced myself to them, a lot of folk I know call me Mr. even when I insist that they use my first name, staff at a couple of restaurants and a jewellers I spend a bit at spring to mind, maybe it's in their training, when I sold cars older customers were always Mr/Mrs unless told otherwise and younger customers would get asked what they'd like called. As long as people are polite and friendly I don't really mind what I'm called within reason.
 
Depends who it is, I hate those cold callers using my forst name and tell them so, other then that don't really mind.
Have one old friend that I have recently got back in touch with via facebook who shortens it, always has cos he
knows it annoys the hell out of me :)
 
You may call me anything, except ...
Late for dinner :thumbs:

Not sales related, but because of the job, most customers call me the rat man / bird man as appropriate, as to why I'm there.
And I always address the site managers by their first names.
(And yes I am of the "older" generation. )
 
Tracie!
Tracie!
Tracie!

:D
 
Showing my age but I prefer people I do not know not to use my first name.
I remember at an OU weekend everyone had name badges that we had written our names on. My friend had only put his surname on his and was asked " What comes in front of Edmonds then" He just replied "Mister" :)
 
When I was at school (a VERY long time ago) none of us had first names. Even my friends, I only knew their surnames.

I prefer my name, which is John. I do not like Mr. at all but will respond courteously to any appellation that is offered courteously.
 
Similarly as above, we always called each other by surnames in secondary school. Only with close friends was it first name terms.

If I were in a car dealership or any other place, it's by title and surname. I'm a client/customer and it's how I expect to be treated. Certainly, it's the way I address my clients at work.

I'd only accept first name terms if I were friends with the salesman. In which case, I'd also expect mates' rates.
 
Suvv said:
Showing my age but I prefer people I do not know not to use my first name.
I remember at an OU weekend everyone had name badges that we had written our names on. My friend had only put his surname on his and was asked " What comes in front of Edmonds then" He just replied "Mister" :)
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I don't mind anyone calling me by my first name, hate sir or Mr V.

At the residential OU school I went on it was definitely first names but I can't remember any of them as I invariably ended up drunk :)
 
I was in Howdens and Scewfix this morning before going to work and at both I was greeted by my first name.

I spend too much time in trade outlets...
 
If its down as Dr on paper I expect them to greet me as such for politeness. If they use Mr they are idiots that can't read and if they use Ross its not polite as they don't know me. Normally I get asked if they can call me Ross.
 
Even as part of the older generation I prefer first name ....... unless it's a very young car salesman who's trying to befriend me.
I tend use Mr/Mrs if addressing someone a fair bit older. It's probably how we were brought up as kids to respect our elders.

Can't get mi head around Ms though. o_O(n)
 
It's funny how older religious people hate being called by their Christian name ;) strange isn't it.

I prefer Mr
 
OldCarlos said:
Even as part of the older generation I prefer first name ....... unless it's a very young car salesman who's trying to befriend me.
I tend use Mr/Mrs if addressing someone a fair bit older. It's probably how we were brought up as kids to respect our elders.

Can't get mi head around Ms though. o_O(n)
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Then ask them not to call you that. ;)
 
I insist on being addressed as Dr or Sir unless I address you first as something other than Mr or Ms or Mrs or of course Dr or Sir or some other appropriate title you have earned or have had bestowed upon you by a higher authority. :rolleyes:(y):LOL:
 
having moved to wales some 30 years ago ,it's usually "the cockney " for me but people that know me just call me t*at
 
Yes - regional differences as well as generational ones. In South and West Wales the use of truncated first names is very common even for people who have only just been introduced - usually just the first syllable - so Andrew becomes And, Julie becomes Ju, David becomes Dav (not Dave), etc. I've lived here for over 20 years and it now seems entirely proper, but was bemused by it when I first arrived.

Similarly, Mate is replaced with Boy, when addressing a male friend of any age, which I again found odd and almost disrespectful 20 years ago when I first heard a 20 year old address a 50 year old man in this way, but now seems normal. A bit like the use of Duck or Love in Derbyshire and South Yorks to people of any age or gender.
 
Used to really hack off the priests at school / church when I refused to address them as "father". :D
 
Can't say I'm bothered whether I'm addressed as Mr, Sir or by first name, mates address me by nicknames anyway. As far as me addressing other people, I very rarely use any names or titles. I certainly wouldn't be calling anyone Doctor. Consider yourself lucky if you get addressed as Oy, you! :)
 
On the whole I am content to be referred to by my first name but there are circumstances where this will differ.

The only time I have felt very uncomfortable at a 'title' was on a holiday in post apartheid South Africa an older black man called me Master....... I would have expected Mister or Sir (on the basis of simply respect of talking to somone unknown to them) I felt it was tragic he still had the mind set to feel the need to call someone who is white Master :( surely in any other country in similar situation it would have been Mister or Sir???
 
viv1969 said:
Used to really hack off the priests at school / church when I refused to address them as "father". :D
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Would dad have been better ? :D

Box Brownie said:
The only time I have felt very uncomfortable at a 'title' was on a holiday in post apartheid South Africa an older black man called me Master.......
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Curiously, there is a guy that runs a burger van that I stop at from time to time, He often refers to me as "Master"
As in, Yes master ? Bacon bap and coffee is it? ( I stop there far too often I guess :D )
He's a white guy and younger than me, its all about context I guess.
 
viv1969 said:
We get that a lot at work too...unsurprising given our markets :)
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This was from the janitor (an Indian gentleman of a certain age). I'd gone to use the disabled loo but it was occupied so I turned around to go back to the office but he had seen that the door was opened so he shouted "sahib, sahib!" to call be back. Only ever heard it on tv before.
 
fabs said:
This was from the janitor (an Indian gentleman of a certain age). I'd gone to use the disabled loo but it was occupied so I turned around to go back to the office but he had seen that the door was opened so he shouted "sahib, sahib!" to call be back. Only ever heard it on tv before.
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Ah ok, it's still a common form of address from the Arab community.
 
I used to work with a bloke who was semi skilled, doing the overhead crane driving, die setting, forklift driving etc. for us, he called all the toolmakers and foreman, even though we could only ask him to do stuff for us as opposed to having any kind of authority to tell him to do it.
 
Doesn't bother me what people call me, although I prefer Nod to my given name in general. The staff know to call me "My Lord" and that's what matters.































:D:P
 
LASTOLITE said:
I insist on being addressed as Dr or Sir unless I address you first as something other than Mr or Ms or Mrs or of course Dr or Sir or some other appropriate title you have earned or have had bestowed upon you by a higher authority. :rolleyes:(y):LOL:
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Sadly though I mostly get Oi You. To which I also am happy to answer too LOL Dr Sir, as if:D


When in Liverpool doing the odd shoot I get called Chief a fair bit....Never thought about it until now,
 
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viv1969 said:
Ah ok, it's still a common form of address from the Arab community.
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If I remember correctly it roughly translates to "esteemed English pillock!" (I think it's from It Ain't Half Hot Mum!) :D

I have no preference to how I'm addressed as most people struggle to pronounce my surname. I know some people don't like being called "sunshine", "luv" or "c**k" etc. and get their knickers in a twist.

When I was working in manufacturing we were told to refer to our MD by either his initials e.g. ICD or Mr Davison (changed so as not to be too obvious!) and never by his first name. He was of a different class to the rest of us and was a bit eccentric to say the least. What was really funny that in all the time he was alive he was trying to get nominated for a Knighthood and it made me wonder what we would call him "Sir Sir..?" talk about pretentious!
 
andyscott said:
As long as you didn't tell anyone about their special interests ;)
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At no point was I a nine year old boy, so I was in no danger.
 
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